I let a good friend and her daughter stay w/us. during the time they my husband and her got close alot, doing more stuff w/her than me. paying more attendion w/her daughter than his own kids. she told me that she knew about the last girl my husband cheated on during our marriage. I told that was in the past, but she said once a cheater always a cheater. then 3 months ago I found out that he was cheating on w/her. but now he saids that hes not cheating on me ,but they are just friends. but still don't belive him. what should i do?
2006-08-31 11:43:31 · 30 answers · asked by slayer2snider 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that sux...call me ill take care of ya
2006-08-31 12:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by justmeadude43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How hard that must be for you. You are a strong woman to stay after he cheated the first time, cheers to you! Personally, I think you need to seek out some professional help, with both of you, if you want to continue with this man. He needs to STOP cheating, there are no guarantees but you need to both heal together to move on. One question I do have for you to think about is, Are you in relationship with him? Do you talk with him or do you find that you argue a lot. A marriage takes two so you need to look at yourself as well to see if there is something that you are not giving him.
2006-08-31 19:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you guys have some trust issues and that can always be a problem in a relationship. My suggestion is to maybe try seeing a marriage counselor or a someone who is better equiped to help you guys through this.
i will say this, if it were me i would have dumped him because i just cant forgive cheating.
Before you do anything else use your BETTER JUDGEMENT dont let your emotions take control. sometimes what we want isnt what we need.
Take care and i hope that everything works out for you.
2006-08-31 18:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by RedRose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First step, learn English.
Second step, learn how to write a cohesive thought.
Lastly, why are you still with him? The reason he keep cheating is because you keep letting him. Doesn't seem to be any ramifications from you if he does - even with a good friend!
Analogy: If you place your hand on a hot stove, you get burned. Next time the opportunity to place your hand on a hot stove arises, you think twice.
You're not acting like a hot stove - you're acting like a door mat.
2006-08-31 18:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u could wait until u have more proof of him cheating on you, and then confront him about the issue. ask him what makes him cheat, because there must be something lacking in the relationship. get to the root of the problem. if u seriously think that you two can work it out and move on AGAIN, then you could also try marriage counselling/therapy.
hope everything works out :)
2006-09-02 17:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by deepman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage is not going to work without trust. Is this how you want to live your life, wondering if he's still cheating or not? If not with your so-called friend, it would be with someone else down the road. Find someone else whom you can fully trust. It's not worth the misery always wondering what if.
2006-08-31 19:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister~ first of all..this woman is not a "good friend". The bible tells us to "guard our gates". You must do this with your marriage. Do not let the world tell you what it takes to keep a marriage together-thats why many people divorce. My husband does not talk to other women, nor would I have even my sister come stay with us. I dont have random conversations with men let alone hang out with his brother or buddies. It is possible for a husband to turn from cheating, as God gives us the power to turn from any and all sin, but you must have God in the midst of your relationship. Without Him as your foundation, the marriage is in trouble. I encourage you to seek God's Word as it pertains to marriage...together.
God bless you and keep you..
2006-08-31 18:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your good friend isn't such a good friend after all. Dump her and if the husband doesn't come around dump him too. If you are interested I know a place where you can get a really good deal on a 1999 International Dump truck.
2006-08-31 18:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. PDQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO dont believe him its true once a cheater always a cheater cause if you forgive him he will keep doin it thinkin u will keep forgiving him She wants him for herself so give him up or 1 more chance
2006-08-31 18:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jessrocks94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-08-31 18:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by Jenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you need to kick her out of your house. You are sleeping with the enemy, as the saying goes.
f you need more evidence hire a PI, once you've got the evidence you can divorce your husband and get half his assets.
2006-09-01 12:51:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋