Well me and my ex broke up over a year ago. I work with him still and I miss him lots. I can't stop thinking about him. I wish we could back together but I hurt him in the past cause I cheated on him. (Big mistake of my life which I will never do again) We dated for over 4 years and we were planning on getting married etc. I know I screwed up and I wish I could tell him that and take it all back. What should I do? Honest answers please!
2006-08-31 11:36:32 · 7 answers · asked by Stephaniemae 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
(honest to God...)
you only have one Love. all that other stuff is just "puppie love."
i'm not here to rad on you for cheating on him. it wasn't good, but humans make mistakes, and at this point, there's nothing anyone can do to change that.
realisticly, i'd say if you Loved him, you wouldn't have cheated on him. i'm not to decide who you Love though. also, he may never trust the same again. if it were ME, i'd try to work it out with you, and let you have a second chance to come back to me.
however, if he doesn't really Love you... he may not let you back- and that's best for you.
i would be oblidged to think that you would've moved on in such a long time... and hopefully he feels the same. take that back- from being a man- he DOES feel the same, he's just not positive that he can trust you again.
bottom line_ you can't tell him that you'd never do it again, he just wouldn't believe it. you can say that you know you screwed up, you're truly sorry for what you did to him, you want to be back in his arms, you know that you really do Love him, and that you'd be willing to do anything to try to earn his forgiveness. (you have to mean the forgiveness part!)
yellow card (band) has a song on their "ocean avenue" album. not sure of the name... but it's track #6. look it up and show it to him.
you really only know how to get to him. you can always say that you don't know what to say, but that you know things haven't, and will never be the same now that he's not part of your life.
best of luck, God bless you in your relationship, and may you find True Love.....
- Silence Dogood
2006-08-31 11:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Silence Dogood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously you had something very specail with him and you messed up. It would take a very big gesture from you to make him believe it won't happen again. It depends on how close you work with him. You have to start all over again and do it slowly. You have to build up that trust again with him. But to tell you the truth he will never forget what you did.
2006-08-31 18:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by pinkbunnylol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really wanted to start on a clean slate, if he were to ever forgive you...
assuming you've already apologized,
1st you should really not work with him.. that's not going to help you.
2nd.. give yourself time to grow and heal.. after being with someone for so long, there's probably a big chunk of you that feels empty... live single for a while.. enjoy your life.
until you are ok to face him without feeling guilty any more, only then maybe you should consider asking him out on dates..
also, he should heal on his own time.. not because he's force to reconsider or what not.. even if he takes you back right now, do you really think you'll have a clean slate so soon? after you've hurt him so much?..take time.. keep it light and impersonal..it may take months, or years... dont expect anything..dont push your feelings on him..
2006-08-31 18:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jane Doe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he must not have been all that important for you to cheat on him. and besides if he was your lover and since you claim to love him: you need to get him back and not mess up, because you have had the oppurtunity to have a good man and some other chick could have him, while your trying to get him back.
so you need to do whatver it is that you do to get your man back, i guess you had to cheat to find out that you dont know what you had til; its gone
2006-08-31 18:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by Maryah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he show interest? Is he seeing anyone else If not tell him how you feel. four years was too long to wait to get married IMO If he will forgive get married tomorrow but dont ever cheat again!!
2006-08-31 18:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,thats why,he was your FIRST LOVE.its really hard,but you will have to move on somehow.everyone will always have a special place in their heart for their first love
2006-08-31 18:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by Ashleigh(: 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not take you back either.
2006-08-31 18:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋