Can someone with a brain please help?

Question

Ok let me try to phrase it a little better. I dont want petty or someone to fell sorry for me. All im asking is for some advice. I have been child abused all my life. Ive been called hurtfull things deprived of health care and food. Punished bye geting beat. I have no self confedence or selfistem. I get pushed aruond bye almost everyone that i know becouse im hurting that bad 2 were i dont care to stick up for my self any more. Ive cut ive thought about suicide. I left skool because people were that mean. Girls want to get to know me because i have a big hart but i dont know what to say to them. And how to explain my situaition. Ive never had a real girl friend and thats one of the only things i want in life. I lost my jobs im still living at home with these hart less people that i dont call my family. The only one who never stabbed me in the back is dead. What the hell am i suposed to do here im 18 and feal like i have nothing to live for anymore? ? ?

Answer 1

The Human Mind Is the Most Powerful Thing We Know Of, On Earth anyway.

It Can Set Us Free And Entrap Us Even Easier Just Look At most Of The Humans Today.

I'm Gonna Make This Short And Oh So Sweet .

You Need To Stop Being Constituted By Your Past ALL OF THE TIME. As Human Machines, We Will Always Be like That For Most Of The Time Anyway.

Join an Aid Charity Or Club That Calls On People To Put Themselves Aside And Do Nothing But Help Others, This Will Be Your Salvation If You Really Put Your Back Into It. (I'm Not Religious At All By the Way)

I'll Give You A Philisophical Line (Actually a Paradox) Now That Is Probably The Most Powerful Verbal Tool For A Person.

But I'll Be Liable For Prosecution If I Tell You Where I Got It, So Here IT IS And Nuff Said:



"NOTHING MEANS ANYHTING AND IT DOESN'T MEAN ANYTHING THAT IT DOESN'T MEAN ANYTHING"

You Need To Ponder That For A While.

Answer 2

In my opinion, the first hing you should do is recover your self esteem. You should go to a gym or something. Exercise makes your body produce feel-good hormones (I can't remember what they're called right now, but it's true!)

Find something you're good at or something enjoy doing and just do it!

And this is going to sound like a joke, but eat chocolate.
Fing things that make you laugh and don't worry much about fixing yourself. You'll get better before you even realize it.

I was child-abused myself and writing helped a whole lot. Watching TV was also very helpful.

If you're not one of those people who feel afraid or guilty after doing it, masturbate. Explore your sexuality and if that doesn't work for you, just keep trying new things.

Get out on a sunny day and tan. The sun changes moods greatly.

Well, those are as many advises as I can give, I think. You're taking an important first step by trying to change, which is awesome. Get your butt off the couch and have fun with life! =D Bye!!

Answer 3

I was in a simliar situation. I am a lot older than you.and mid life. I did try and take my life. But i learned a big lesson. Sometimes you don't die and have to face biggler hurdles. I was in a place. where I was too afraid to live and too afraid to die. depression. . But only yu can look for hope in the Future. I begged my son to go to the Navy. and after all the problems.i had from him. This year he became a doctor. He was an ent ,in Italy. he drove an ambulance. It is hard. but at least they can help you get your life on track so the future is easy. Apply for some social financial help and even couseling services. ther are many agencies. I also suggest you get a therapist who is trained. Pschologist or social worker. not a priest or a rabbi. they are good for a good listen. but it never helped me when i could not get my own father to speak to me and his children. he moved many miles away. He was very verberly abusive. and died before i could say goodbye. but i still have love for him.. and if you pray. that is great. Just remember the person who you cared about so much. is now your angel. Ask for some help. Life is both light and dark. It is up to you now. You are the adult. and you have to improve you and your life. as my mom said and me, Where there is a will there is a way. Next go out with those girls. to the library. record store. walks .. if you have no money. Campanionship is the healthiest thing for you. But find people who aren't razzy you ,, Only talk to people who are honest and true blue. Join a club .or social group. this is what you need to open your life. Please do not committ suicide. If you have any strong urge. ,, Call 911. or a suicide hotline. or go to the emergencey.room. if you can get a pschiatrist to help you deal. I have been on the best medicine that has not only kept me alive and balanced but has kept me from getting into trouble. ]
A mild atidepressive wouldn't hurt you. i think it would give you enough motivation to just take another step. one small one at a time. one day at a time. have faith in yourelf. and also God.
A lot of hospitals ,if you call their main line can tell you about the medicine studies they have been doing. you can enter for free. and they pay you. Nothing harmful. but it is a great way to get someone fast and get treated. You need Help. i have a published book. at sixteen i thought life was all punishment. but it is not. not luck either. Get yourself away from where you are. and never beleive anything they say. if they phiysically hurt you.Get out Fast.

Answer 4

You're only 18 so that's a start! You need to try to keep away from the bad people out there. I don't know why some people just seem to get picked on all the time but it's that way. Don't let anybody steal your dream. You set a goal and work towards it. As far girls...don't worry about them right now, that'll come after you've found yourself and what you are capable of doing. You will surprise yourself. Try to read self help books. How to Win Friends and Influence People is a good one to start on. Keep working at your job and be the best employee you can be. You may even work your way up the ladder. Don't give up. Life gets better if you help it along. Good luck to you and God Bless.

Answer 5

Call 411, and ask for the mental health department of your county. (The name may be different, but you'll figure it out. Call the main county office - or ANY county office, and start there, if you have to. Just keep saying "I need to find a mental health councelor.")

I too was abused as a child, and I'm surprised I made it past your age. But now I'm 53, and have been happy, productive and strong for most of those years.

The trick is to change the way you look at yourself, no mattter how others may see you, and just about any qualified mental health counselor can help you do that in WAY less time than it took to beat the attitude into you. You'll be shocked when you realize how easy it was! Well, not exactly easy, it's damned hard work, but quicker than you can imagine now.

You do not feel good about yourself, so any woman who would want to be attached to you right now, whether she knows it or not, is one who NEEDS a man who doesn't feel very good about himself. I can guarantee you that that is not the woman you deserve!

So wait a bit, find a counselor (if you have no job, it might be free), get to work on you, and before you know it, you will BE the strong, confident man that a strong confident woman will be attracted to. I've never met anyone who could do it without help (though I've met plenty of people who are whining at 60 about chldhood abuse, pitiful people with no joy, who swear they don't need any help.) But with a qualified councelor, the strength you find in yourself will amaze you!

Survivors of abuse can be the most stunning people you'll ever meet, because they've come so much further than some others, and have gained so much knowledge of what it takes to overcome garbage.

Good luck. If I could do it, anyone can!

Answer 6

Your thoughts are clear and you're very good at identifying relevant issues that pertain to the subject matter. This means that you have the requisite intelligence to solve problems and achieve goals.

First step, evaluate yourself. This requires intelligence and honesty. Forget about labels. You are a human being. Period. Can you think? If you can think, then you can do anything you want. Also, know that it is difficult to achieve success in anything. This means you need to be strong mentally and have a healthy body. Follow through with your plans and don't quit.

Forget about negative people. Ignore them and don't let them get in your way. Cherish the positive people in your life. If you don't know any positive people yet, rest assured that you will eventually find them.

Realize that there's no such thing as winners and losers in this world. Those are just labels. Every day is a struggle for everyone. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. That's life.

The only hope anyone has in this difficult world is to have the ability to discipline your mind. Focus your mind on what you want to achieve. Concepts like confidence and self esteem have nothing to do with anything. Focus your mind in determining what needs to be done, then follow through with a clear mind. Focus on doing the task at hand. Don't clutter your mind with fear or worries or self doubt. Those thoughts have nothing to do with what you need to do.

I'm an old guy (compard to you) so let me tell you that there's a lot to live for. 18 is too young to give up. Don't let the negative people in your life bring you down. Don't let the b@stards win. I can tell by reading your writing that you have ability. Be strong, do something positive with your life, and one day maybe you can help someone who is right where you are right now.

Answer 7

I would honestly try going to a therapist. Not because you need mental help, but because you sound like you really need someone to just listen to you, and that is what they do best. They will help you work through your past. And I know how your past can really affect your life, and it isn't easy to just let it go, or simply put it behind you. I think it would help you tremendously.

Sometimes talking to other people who've been through similar experiences can also help. But the thing is, abuse affects all children differently. Some cope very well, some need some help getting over it, and some are very emotionally damaged and need a lot of therapy to get over it. It doesn't mean they aren't as strong, it just means it affected them on a much deeper level, or maybe they had less support getting through it than someone else had.

Don't worry, things will get better, just be strong. You will get through it.

Answer 8

Eighteen can be a good age for a Man. I'm not going to soft soap it for you Fellow. It's rough, I've a little knowledge of this sort of thing. It's time for you to fly. Take yourself out of this mess, it's not your mess. start right now, Unlearning all this ......whatever you call it. Make your escape plan, forgive but don't forget. It's time for you to take over your life, so start by taking a couple of breaths and decide right now where it's going to go. Then don't look back. Everyday you do this gets you closer to where you want to go and how you want to live. Never forget, it's your life! That's not chump change, regardless of what God Almighty may have thrown in your way; or if demons from hells bottomless pit are trying to destroy you; it's yours; it's all you've got. It matter not one speck of dust what others say or think when it get right down to your life, go on your path; your way. Make the plan, make it a good one. Then start chasing it down and the rest can watch you fly! Good luck young Blood, lots of stones get kicked in life; never let them slow you down. Oh, by the way; if you've meet a Girl that is the all for you; tell Her. It's the only way, even if it kills you. They do read minds, but they'll never tell you! LOL! Then you'll both know and you can do something about it. Go get em, Tiger!

Answer 9

SH!T....life is what we make of it....but you need to take a deep breath, stop for a moment and get control of your life...think about that you are unique and you need to start again...suicide is the easy way out...we all have problems but you are young and you have the world in your hands...being negative is just an excuse...if you fall, get up, if you fall again, get up, that is the only way to show other people that you are not a loser...if you feel lost because you have no friends or a girl, hey, don't sweat it....there is a girl for you...but you have to be positive...jobs....there are plenty...but stick to school...if yo do...you will have a better life..better friends...you need to wok a little harder...but that is life...just be all you can be with out join the army....just a bad joke...anyways...be good and take care....

Answer 10

You're only 18 and have so much to live for! You are legally an adult now...so get another job and keep it. Save enough money to get out on your own away from the abusers. If you cannot stand to live there another moment...contact social services in your area and ask for help. They can provide temporary shelter for people being abused, and will provide food and necessities as well as get you counseling and assist you in getting on your feet to support yourself. You're NOT alone...even tho sometimes it feels this way. You say girls like you because you have a big heart (that's a great quality!) find a nice girl who likes you and is understanding. Confide in her and if she is the right girl, she will stand beside you and help you thru the process. I wish you luck and hope that you will hang in there because your situation WILL get better once you can take the steps to seek help and get away from the environment that is depressing you