My friend is 26, he met this girl about 3 months ago and they plan to marry!!
She is 23 and has three children and is having her children call him “daddy.”
Baby#1 was born when she was 19. The father left after she cheated on him.
Baby #2 was born when she was 21. She says she is still not sure who the father is but believes it is a guy who is in jail now for robbery.
Baby #3 was born when she was 22. The father is a guy she met at a party and had a one night stand with.
The father of baby #3 plans to take custody away from her because she parties excessively and he keeps the child most of the time.
My friend just signed up for the military and his own brother believes she is looking for a guy to take care of her and her children.
She wants to marry before he is sent out of state for his military duty next month.
I know he will marry her anyway, but I can’t help but feel this girl is crazy!
Who thinks my suspicions are correct?
What do you think?
2006-08-31 11:16:13 · 22 answers · asked by HappyHippo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The girl isn't crazy but your friend is!
2006-08-31 11:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your suspicions are correct, but I suppose another possible reality is that the future husband is suffering from an abundance of his own omissions in judgment and expectations from a wife. If you and everyone else can see the problem with this woman, your friend may know the risks too but she nevertheless satisfies what he's looking for in life. Something like a couple where one partner is abusive, and the other accepts it and tolerates it, but both choose to stay together and love each other anyway. There's no accounting for another person's tastes.
2006-08-31 18:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty quick to make a decision on such a big thing. It sounds like she is lonely and there could be a possibility you are correct.
Have you told your friend of your suspicions? I would encourage him to wait to see how she supports him while he is away. They really do not know each other. I personally would want a longer time to get to know someone before I made such a big decision. It is too easy to get divorced nowadays.
I would tell him how you feel and then be there for him for whatever his decision is. You may not like his decision but he is your friend and you should stick by him even if he makes a mistake.
2006-08-31 18:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that its the same situation the only difference was he didn't want to get married he just wanted to live together.To make a long story short the eventually did get married and a yr later he gets suspicious that shes cheating on him and she says she wants a divorce but for different reasons she says her oldest son and him don't get along but they end up staying together anyway and you can tell their relaionship sucks. So as for your friend hes going to do whatever he wants to do even though everyone around him knows its a bad idea.
2006-08-31 18:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are you from? SOUNDS LIKE A GIRL I KNOW...you don't have to answer..your friend would be a complete dumb *** if he married her. She will cheat on him as soon as he leaves and say he wasn't there to spend time with her cause he is always working or some other lame excuse whores use on good guys...he needs to leave before the kids get clingy.
2006-08-31 20:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by kikosgirl83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the girl who is crazy but your friend for not seeing what is right in front of his eyes. She isn't even trying to hide what she is, he'll find out for himself when he comes home to babies 4, 5, and 6 all by other different men!
2006-08-31 18:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what the girl is giving him - what the other don't have.
But who knows where is the real love.
The girl made some mistake but life is life - maybe the right people find etch other.
He is not blind.
To solve the problem just marry your friend before she do.
2006-08-31 18:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sound of it, that woman isnt very stable and absolutely very insecure and indecisive. Your friend as much as he wants to help out the best way to save his life is to dodge her like a bullet. I advise you to assist him in seeing the reason behind the mistake that he will regret doing and the second mistake he is about to make now w/ marrying her.
2006-08-31 18:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by lopez76g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend, you care about him, and that you think he should wait, if he wants, he can get engaged, before he goes overseas, but just get to know each other, Tell him you do not want to see him hurt, and you are not saying, not to marry her, just take your time. learn each other ways. If your love is so strong, it will grow stronger. Don't say nothing, like she does not have a good track record. That is not what he wants to hear.
2006-08-31 18:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense but who are we to judge, people make mistakes and will change eventually, all things happen for a reason, doesnt matter who fathered the children, they were meant to be here. Maybe it will take your friend to cause a change in her life, but i do think its a little to soon for marriage.
2006-08-31 18:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by pat s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Given her track record I'd say you were right on the money about this girl.When will she stop screwing and get her head on straight? Is your friend for real? I hope he isn't totally engrossed with this woman because he could get hurt. I think he should leave like two sheets in the wind.
2006-08-31 18:25:51 · answer #11 · answered by Golden Scepter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋