im 18 years old ive been child abused all my life. I have no self confidence or selfisteam. Ive been put down all my life. I dont like to go out and meet people. The friends that i do have are always stabing me in the back cause they know i wont do any thing back. I had to drob out of skool because of kids at skool pushing me aruond yes its been that bad. I lost my job and know im stuck at a rute. Im still leaving at home the crap still gos on its not geting any better. Ive thought about suicide i feel like i have nothing to live for any more. A have not really ever had a serious girl friend. All i want in life is caring friends and love ----> a fathfull girl friend but i dont know were to start. What the hell can i do. Thanx
2006-08-31 11:13:13 · 8 answers · asked by Jamie L 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Counseling in need maybe. You know what though, like you said, your 18. No one can abuse you anymore, unless you let them. You have control of your life. Understand what has happened and change for the better. Go out there and find a new job or even go back to school (where maybe you could meet a nice girl). Also understand, you can be the best you can be!
2006-08-31 11:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, please go and tell someone that you are being abused! The police would be a good start. Are you still of school age?(under 18) if so go back to your school and talk to a counselor. Tell them that you need to get out of the house you are living in.
Second, if these people you call friends are doing or saying negative things about you, then they were never friends in the first place! Find new ones. The only way to do that is to go out and meet new people. If you are shy, it can be very difficult. A suggestion would be to go back and get your high school diploma or GED. You will meet people that way. The GED route might be the better option as the people you meet will be older.
Dont worry about finding a girlfriend right now. Get yourself taken care of and settled.
But please ask for some help. Please talk to someone about the suicidal thoughts you are having. Call a suicide hotline if you have too!
2006-08-31 18:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by kimberleibenton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a lot of negatives you're up against. I knew a gal who was in a similar situation. She was into the whole goth look but still didn't even fit right into that crowd. She joined the Air Force and last I saw her (a month ago), she was join absolutely great! She had taken her GED and passed, got rid of (obviously) all the piercings, but couldn't do much with the tattoos.
I suggest you give yourself a kickstart with following her lead. You don't have to join the Marines or Army and get sent to Iraq--unless you want to. The Air Force may do just fine to make new friends and find some purpose in your now miserable life.
Seriously, if your post is as serious as you say, better start now or look forward to an absolute zero life.
2006-08-31 18:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sick Puppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm truly sorry to hear about your situation. Sometimes life is not what we think it should be, and things happen that we just can not comprehend. It's never right to be abused - there is no legitimate excuse for it, so don't blame yourself. I think you could really benefit from an active church with a lot of youth, and activities for teenagers. That would be an excellent start! You could possibly find a wonderful girl there who could understand the whole "faithful" issue. Most of all, you could learn that you are a worthy person - worthy of loving and being loved because God created you in His image, and this lifestyle that you are stuck in is not what He wants for you. Some of this is within your control, and some is not. Work on changing the things that you have control of - the way to talk to yourself inside, the way you perceive what people say to you...... You can get through this, and you can turn it into a positive thing and maybe even help others overcome abuse and lack of self esteem themselves. You are still on this Earth for a reason.... you are wanted here or you would already be gone! If I can help you through listening and responding in e-mails please let me know - I would be honored to see you through this crisis. sheartraditionshair@yahoo.com.
2006-09-01 10:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by heartforhelping 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you shouldn't think liek that!!i mean,why end your life when you can still have a chanse to live longer?i've thought of suicide,but after i watched fushigi yugi(a anime show+manga)i thought that,why end my life now?she went through it so can i.i too have a tough life.i was adused as a child too.i know how the feeling is.but look at me,i'm alive still.hold on.if nobody listens to you.pick someone like a show charcter or someone,pretend that they're there.tell that person all the pain and feelings you're going though.its helped me a lot but if it dosent work i'll be willing to help you out more.i love helping people.i dont want to see someone like you dieing because of people abusing you.here's my email:angelamkagome@yahoo.ca or email me here:helpiswhatilovetodo@hotmail.com
i can't be your real girlfriend,but if you'd liek,i'll be willing to.trust me.
2006-08-31 18:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by angel miaka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Jamie,
I am sorry to read that!
There is only "one" person, who can "help you", .. and that person is :""you" ...
>>>>>
You have to ask yourself :
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What do I want most in my life?
What do I want, out of life?
How am I going to do this?
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Then you can start to say :
Who am I?
>>>>>
And at some point, you will discover.. who you are/what you want, ..etc..
>>>>>
Then you "fight", for "your purpose".. and you must have the confidence in "yourself", and you will succeed...
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And the traumas, will have a (smaller place)..in your mind/heart...
..And when the time is right, the girl who is the right one, for you..
.. will come into your life.. and then it is not a problem, to talk to her, about your "youth"!!..She will listen/understand/care.. etc..
>>>>>>>>
Believe me, other people and councelors, are going to listen, to you..
But in the end : "It will be you and only you who can change things"!
>>>>>>>>>>>
I wish you : lots of strenght and courage!
My regards! .. and keep your head up!
Promise, me that you will give it a serious "try"...
Thanks, in advance!;)
2006-09-02 19:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
~Keep feeling sorry for yourself, because I'm not going to fell sorry for you.
Ever heard of counselling? Better try it soon. Of course, if it works out, you won't be able to wallow in your self-pity anymore and you may actually have to go out and try to do something with your life. If you're not willing to go for help, stop wating my oxygen.
2006-08-31 18:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by Oscar Himpflewitz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't I just answer this??? Get a book on CHIN - NA learn it and use it.
Remember you control your life not the other people. If you let them walk on you it's by your own choice.
SO CHOOSE NOT TO...
Jerry
2006-08-31 18:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋