I really need some advice...could you all help me ?

Question

Is it really necessary to go to a gyn. My mom is trying to make me go because my periods have been irregular and sometimes they on't come for months at a time. If it helps i'm 16 and have been on my period every since i was 10 and i know they should be regular. I also know that i'm not pregnant and i have never had any kind of sexual activity what so ever. Besides i dont even know what to expect at the gyn. and for 1)i'm a very private person and 2) i don't like going to the doctor and 3) i refuse to have anyone looking at what i have alwys kept private. Really and truly i'm just really scared. also my periods are very heavy i have to change a pad every hour to every hour in a half. Could u all please help me i need to know whether this is serious or can i just put it off and forget about it...I need all the advice i can get ~Thanks~

Answer 1

I understand how you feel about going to a gynecologist. I absolutely HATED the idea, and put it off for way too long. I'm not thrilled with most doctors anyway (they're too hurried, and seem to think my time is less valuable than theirs). Then there's the whole "hello, it's called 'privates' for a reason" thing.

But you know what? It wasn't that awful. I found a female gynecologist, and I asked around for recommendations. Practically the moment the doctor walked in, I told her that I had never been to a gynecologist before and I was nervous about it. She was very understanding, and asked if I'd like the nurse to stay during the examination and talk to me. That helped quite a bit because I was distracted. Also, the doctor explained what she was doing before she did it, so I knew what to expect. She also was careful to keep me as covered as possible during the exam. It sounds weird, but not having to see her helped me to distance myself from the exam.

I won't lie to you - it's a bit uncomfortable physically and emotionally. Still, you really should make an appointment because of the heavy and irregular periods, and because it's important to have an annual exam and pap test. If you aren't sexually active and everything tests okay, your doctor may tell you that you only have to come in every two years.

Answer 2

Okay!!! Pay close attention! If you are having irregular and heavy periods, PLEASE listen to your mother and go and see a doctor!!!! It is totally necessary for you to have a gyn exam EVERY year. It does not matter if you arent pregnant or have not had any sexual activity. The first time I went to the gyn I was a virgin. You are having a medical issue that needs to be looked into. I dont want to sound unkind or rude, but just get over the fact that you dont want anyone looking at what you have kept private. These are doctors, trained to keep you healthy. If you are that uncomfortable, find a FEMALE gyn.

Answer 3

Having an irregular period is considered normal for some people not everyone can predict their periods and some peoples periods are heavier than others. It's not a big deal that you go to the doctor. If your primary doctor thinks you should go he'll say so. A gyn is there if you are having abnormal paps or are thinking of getting pregnant not because your periods aren't predictable.
Good Luck

Answer 4

Hmmm, lets see. First of all, many girls your age have irregular periods. Many times its from growing up, stress, diet, exercise, too much of something or other, but basically, it all boils down to your hormones are not in the right place at the right time. They say some girls usually outgrow this, but, some don't and need medications (hormone pills, birth control pills, etc). My little girl is going through the same problem. She's very healthy otherwise and she's only 14 but she's very active in sports. I don't think it's anything to worry about unless you start bleeding all the time, or you don't have periods for a long time but don't quote me because I'm not a doctor. Hopefully your hormones will catch up and get regular again. Please believe me when I say that a Gyno is not someone you should be scared of. She/He is your friend and they can save your life. Imagine all those girls /women who ended up with cervical cancer, uterine cancer, etc Some of those never saw a gyno and it could have made a difference. For the others, it's very unfortunate and my heart bleeds for them. I'm not saying you have cancer darling, I'm just saying that a gyno is nothing to be scared about and you really should think of this positively. I'm sure it's probably something minor, but in the event that it isn't, you will be glad you went to a gyno when you did because if you wait too long, and there is a problem, sometimes it's too late to do anything about it. These gyno's are professional. and they are good about maintaining privacy, dignity..etc....They will probably talk to you about your history, your periods, etc...and they will probably do a pelvic exam. It's not that bad. Its the thoughts in our minds that scare us. The actual exam is not that bad. Why don't you do a google search for amenorrhea (no periods), dysmenorrhea (irregular, or painful periods) or metorragia (not sure of the spelling, but it's heavy bleeding)...it will give you alot of info and you can read about that. Search causes of dysmenorrhea. Hope that helps.

Answer 5

I find it helps to keep in mind that every doctor has seen what you're going to show her a thousand times - and often they won't have been as inoffensive and clean as yours.

Sooner or later you're going to have to have a doctor look at you - there are health checks that every woman has to have, smear tests for a start. Get used to it now and it'll be a whole lot easier when you *have* to go. You don't want your first exam to be when you're married and pregnant, do you?

It is easy, I promise. If you're really worried look up progressive, muscular relaxation on the web - and in a couple of days you can teach yourself how to relax every muscle, including the internal ones and the whole thing will be easy.

Think what you'll gain for a few minutes embarassment and just go for it. Things are never as bad as our fears make us think.

Answer 6

You should go to the gyn because you want to make sure everything is ok in there. You wouldn't to find out later that something was neglected. It sounds like endometriosus. Find a gyn that you would be comfortable with, i like having a lady.

Answer 7

If going to a gynecologist is the worst thing that ever happens to you, you will have had a good life.

Sounds like you have had years of discomfort that may be resolved after a few minutes.

The best thing you can do for yourself & your future self is learn about your body!

Answer 8

Go already!! It is nothing big. Get used to it you will have to go for the rest of your life.