I am extremely careful about getting married and many of woman state that I fear commitment but I say that with the high divorce rate I am being pragmatic.
2006-08-31 10:52:33 · 6 answers · asked by X 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't always tackle emotional matters with pragmatism. If you meet a woman that you find common language with - she will understand your concerns, and you will be able to bring up the pre-nup without reprocussions. However, if she gets offended, there probably are differences in your ways of thinking that would preclude a successful relationship anyway. Some people are more practical and pragmatic, some are more "emotional". As long as the two of you are compatible in this regard, and understand how the other one thinks and operates, these concers will not be a problem.
Needless to say, a pre-nup will not "decrease" your risk for divorce. Making a good informed choice probably would. But if you're looking for guarantees, you won't find them; taking risks is part of life.
2006-08-31 11:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters, you can leave the subject of prenup out of the discussion when you are talking about marriage....it's a huge turn off. And often comes off as meaning you see this ending so you want to cover your butt. I'm not saying you shouldn't, I'm simply saying that there is a time and a place for everything. Then if you want to decrease your risk of divorce, live with the person for a year or two prior to marriage. In that time, you'll find out what you are about to sign up for and you can a more informed decision whether you see this working out in the long run, or you don't. Another way to decrease your risk of divorce, is to put it out of your mind as an option until you have completely exhausted every other possible avenue when things don't go right. Now a days, too many people take the easy way out. What they don't realize, is that what a couple actually goes through together truly makes them a stronger force.
Good luck with that honey...she's out there somewhere!
2006-08-31 11:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decrease your risk by finding someone you actually want to be with forever. If she's for you, she won't mind signing a pre-nup, something that should be brought up in conversation prior to a proposal.
2006-08-31 10:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have to find the right person & trust in him & ur self that u both will do what ever it takes to hold ur marriage together, a prenup won't decrease the risk.
2006-08-31 11:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about ignoring the odds and "Trusting your partner".
Its about full commitment. If your afraid of statistics I'd say your not commited enough. I'm not saying your bad for it. Marriage isn't for everyone and defiantly not for every relationship! I'm just saying at the moment you are afraid of commitment.
2006-08-31 10:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Queen Burn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno i understand your concern with what goes on nowadays with marriage and such but...to me having a Godly marriage and doing what is right will help but not prevent divorce...everyone has their problems...
2006-08-31 10:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by *walkinthelight* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋