how to deal with my husband?

Question

hello everybody.. if you have read my previous qs. you'll know exactly my situation.. however, i 'll tell you what happend lately with my husband..
i went to pick him from work, i told him that we need to buy some food coz the fridge is empty and to eat a sandwitch, he told me that he is tired and can't do the shopping and asked me if we have food at home and i said no.. so he went to buy grilled potatoes and asked me if i want , so i told him that i don't like potatoes.
anyways he bought his food and we went home.
do you believe??he forgot to bring me food.
when we returned home i was upset and i faced him with these words..(you never asked me if i ate or not , you forgot to bring me food coz of your selfishness) imagine his reaction..he was angry and accused me that i am a baby i think like kids..i had to remind him and this is my fault. and turned his back and slept. what . i don't imagine that at the end it is my fault..tell me plz how to deal with him when he wakes up?

Answer 1

and your telling us this why.
I think you both got major probs

Answer 2

I am not sure what the whole story is here but it's wrong. Just the other day I text message my boyfriend that I wasn't well and needed some cranberry juice, he wasn't feeling well either but you know what he got up and went to the store. I was at work and he had just gotten home from work but he went.It is give and take in a relationship ..you both need counseling or maybe just separate for a while and see if marriage is something you both really want.Do you not get groceries on a regular basis?

Answer 3

Doesn't sound like you are a lucky girl at all. He sounds unbelievable selfish and self centered. Imagine if you had done the same. He knew there was no food, he knew you hadn't eaten, then proceeds to get you nothing.
How is it that you acting like a child? Sounds like role reversal to me. You the adult and he's the child. You pointed out his selfishness, he got angry and went to bed.
You know how you deal with him when he gets up. Don't be there take a few bucks. Leave a note that you went out to dinner. You need to fend for yourself because it seems you do not have a partnership or someone that cares about you. Sorry. Good luck

Answer 4

I don't know your situation but sounds to me like you need to take the initiative and do the shopping yourself. Why do you have to pick him up from work? Some people, not just men can be insensitive. Suggest that because you know he works hard and is tired at the end of the day you'd like to take some of the stress off him and do the shopping. That way you've made him feel good by saying he works hard for you both and you feel good because you get to eat. There is always a way around these issues, sometimes you just have to see things from the other persons perspective.

Answer 5

First, realize your husband cannot read minds, which means it is up to you to tell your husband with what your needs are. Do not rely on him to put 2 and 2 together and figure out what you need. It will not happen. It's not that he doesn't care, it's just not how men think. This is what he meant about you thinking like a kid.
Second, realize that he does work (it kind of sounds like you don't have a job) and he does get tired. Plan the shopping trip with him so you will know when he will be rested and he will not object. It sounds like you need to learn how to better communicate with one another.

Answer 6

I cannot believe that you are married and letting this argument turn into something so big and ridiculous. What are you going to do when their is a real problem in your marriage? You need to remember what is truely important and forget the stupid stuff. Maybe you could just let him know that it hurt your feelings that he didn't think to get you something, but this is blown way out of proportion, and by turning it into something so ugly, it gets neither of you anywhere but more angry with one another. If you express how you feel rationally, maybe next time he will remember to pick something up for you to.

Answer 7

Uh, so what's the problem? You can't buy food or make sure he buys it? And when asked about it all you can say is you don't like potatoes? And when you ***** at your husband for not reading your mind, he goes to sleep instead of staying up arguing with you?

The best way to deal with this is to not deal. It's not a problem. You both acted like irritable pricks. People do that at times. Don't overanalyze it.

Answer 8

I say that you leave him and find a man who gives you more attention. His lack of energy to do much tells me that your energy makes him lazy and tired. When a guy really loves a girl, he never has enough energy while he is around her and always remembers to bring her food, and if he bought grilled potatos and knew she didn't like grilled potatos, he'd make notes to himself to buy something that you'd like too.

It does not mean you aren't good enough for this man you are with, but, I don't think he is honestly happy being with you.

If he were happy with you, he would not have neglected you like that. You deserve someone who loves you more and he deserves to be with someone that he would love more.

Answer 9

He asked you if you wanted potatoes! That was your chance to say "No, bring me chicken instead." or whatever you wanted.
Also: You were with him, weren't you?
Why didn't you look in his bag on the way home to see
what he ordered for you?
Sorry, girl, this one's your fault. the only fault he has is not being able to read your mind! He's only human, so are you. Remeber that next time, ok? : )
When he wakes up, apologize and ask him if he wants his sandwich now or after the make-up sex.

Answer 10

Let it go hunny. There is no peace in a marriage if you can't learn to walk away. I know that it is hard but you will see. It makes things so much easier when you just let it go and put it behind you. I have been married for 7 years now and I have learned that it just takes too much out of you mentally and physically to argue and carry on. Try to forget what happened and move on sweetie. Just swallow your pride. Good luck

Answer 11

Why didn't you just ask him to bring you food? Girl, you're making it out to be more than it is. All you have to do is ask, and he'll bring you anything you want, I'm sure. Can't demand that other people read your mind at all times, especially when they're tired or distracted.

You better have many more reasons before you get mad at him.