My husband and I are talking about having a baby. He wants one realllllyyy bad. I would love to have a baby as well but I keep worrying about freedom and late nights up and all that stuff. He is 11 years older than me and says the sooner we have one the better! HELP!!!
2006-08-31 10:08:20 · 12 answers · asked by Motivated 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Yes you should give your husband a baby if you are able and ready. Remember if your husband is 11 years older then you he may not want to be in a Grandpa stage of his life when he does become a daddy. Don't worrie about late nights... that first year is precious and goes by faster then you could ever think. Its all worth it!
2006-08-31 10:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most babies begin sleeping through the night after a couple months...in the big scheme of things, late nights shouldn't be a big issue (although all babies are different). You will lose some freedom, but keep in mind that things like going to the park, zoo, etc. are that much more enjoyable with a child.
All that stated, you may need to look at "why" you want a baby. It truly is the most important decision in somebody's life (aka the baby). Choose wisely
2006-08-31 10:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by murobertson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know how old you are, but let me tell you this; having a baby is the most beautiful experience in your life, nothing compares to it; but only you have the help, forget those night out every weekend, going to the movies is almost impossible, and yes, you're not getting any sleep at all; but all is worth it after a while it gets better; if you really wants to be a mother go ahead, dont do it to please your husband, 'cause in the end you are the one that is going to get up at night not him, I am talking from my personal experience; but reality is that as soon as you meet your newbie the world is so sososososo much better. Good Luck
2006-08-31 10:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by la_femme0103 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really wait until the time is right for both of you. Don't let him rush you into having a baby before you are ready. I am sure you know that having a child is a lot of work. My brother always tells me once you have a baby it isn't about you any more it is all about the baby. Everything you do and all the choices you make should be made around the baby. Remember that baby only has you. They look up to you to teach them and if you aren't ready to make that committment then don't do it.
Don't let him rush you into it. ANd if he doesn't understand your side, then there are some deeper issues.
2006-08-31 10:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you'll ever be ready. You said hes 11 years older than you but how old are you? You can maintain a level of freedom and have a child some children do sleep thru the nite earlier than others. I wish you the best in your decision
2006-08-31 10:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Mom2two Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should have one. Look you have to give up some freedom with having a family but it's worth it. Really the baby stage is really fun and it's not that bad. It gets harder as they get older, but having kids is part of being married.
Good Luck.
2006-08-31 10:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by Dina1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Him?? Well I would wait if you are unsure. Give it some time. Babies are truely blessings, but it is better usually to be ready. You say you want a baby so you are probably ready. Besides if you have a supportive husband it should be a great addition. Some people who accidently get pregnant say its the best thing that happened to them. Have you talked about your fears to your husband?
2006-08-31 10:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mystie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES.
To keep it simple:
You will never EVER regret a baby if it was made in love, understanding and want. But you could regret not having a baby (or even one sooner).
Its worth it and freedom comes back when they are like 3 or 4, and you can trust sitters overnight. :)
2006-08-31 10:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? if so, give in. older fathers generally take mot responsibility for babies than younger ones. In fact, don'tbesurprised if you never get to hold the baby for the first few weeks. As for freedom, that's what grandparents and aunts are for, we all love babysitting the little ones.
2006-08-31 10:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it' s very normal for you to have such doubts. But if you are not against the whole idea of having a baby, you should have one. It might never be the time, there will be always smth. going on in your life. But it's so wonderful to have a baby and a family. Good luck.
2006-08-31 10:16:03 · answer #10 · answered by miss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋