relationship and realized I am still in love with him. My ex and I have 2 children together. Do I tell him or do I leave it alone?
2006-08-31 09:53:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have probably forgotten all of the reasons you got divorced, and that casts a nostalgic aura over your ex-husband. You are about to be married for the second time, and you can't help but think about your first marriage. It's fine for you to still feel love for your ex-husband, but that doesn't mean that you belong together.
2006-08-31 09:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 05:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK wow first I'm going to tell you how irresponsible you are for getting engaged to a guy when you still love your husband. OK now could you possibly be confusing love for jealousy because he is with some that is not you. No matter what you do you are in a tight spot if you stay with your fiance but you have feelings for your ex your heart will always be missing him and you will be most likely unhappy with your fiance or soon to be husband. What was the reason that you two ended in the first place? Is it possible that if you two got back together it could happen again?
You should also understand that you will gravely endanger your relationship with your fiancee if you say something, you could possibly be hurt by your ex by his answer and then you will have nothing. Ask your self is the POSSIBILITY of being with your ex (it might not happen) worth it to lose your fiance and make the friendship you have with your ex now? If that isn't hard enough at some point after doing all that thinking you also have to consider the other woman (or maybe not, I just threw that in there because there is people out there who actually care for another human beings feelings, but whatever, its a tough world, deal with it.)
I'm sorry and yes I am aware that sometimes I do ramble on and confuse people so I'm going to recap it.
1. Examine your true feelings. Do you really love your ex or is it just jealousy (or maybe something else)?
2. Ask yourself if what broke you and your ex up in the first place could happen again if you two got back together.
3. Reflect and decide if you are mentally strong enough for the potential mess you will make if you do something about it. Are you ready to hear a possible no from your ex and jeopardize the relashionship you have with your fiance?
Finally if you have done all this and you feel like your ex is worth going through all the potential problems and you still want to give it a shot by being with your ex then go for it. I want to express how you are not guaranteed to get back with your ex, but simply telling him might put you in a bad place. If you want to talk some more, email me. Let me know what happens, I really would want to know. I hope whatever you decide to do makes you happy because that is the most important thing. Best of luck.
2006-08-31 10:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's with women like yourself. One man isn't good enough for you? It's women like you that causes problems for good women. Now, you were with this guy broke up for whatever reason, you get engaged to a wonderful man, find out your ex is with someone else, and now you realize that you still love him. LOL Come on are you f***** kidding me. You only want him cause he has moved on. Get over yourself and be a woman and stick with Mr. Wonderful. You can't have your cake and eat it too. You are just wrong. You don't care who you hurt do you. BAD WOMAN YOU ARE VERY BAD STAY CLEAR MEN!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-31 10:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your ex is your ex for a reason, you should remember what that reason is, and move on.... he seems to have moved on with his life...is it that you still love him, or that you don't want to see him with anyone else... If you loved this other guy, then you would not still be in love with your ex, and you could care less about what he is up to.. children or not, let him go
2006-08-31 09:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an EX for a reason is he not? And you are engaged to be Married.... Do you not love him?
2006-08-31 09:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up, i don't think you should be married at all. it's people like you, male and female, that have made marriage a joke. learn the difference between love and infatuation and stop ruining others lives for your personal gain.
2006-08-31 10:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by The Key Master 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Settle it now before you get married. Go talk to him about it. This could have a deep effect on your future.
2006-08-31 09:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on girl, the kids will recover from the divorce only if they know where it stands. If its still friggin iffy the kids will be more confused and harmed then you are.
2006-08-31 10:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by scott_v1963 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are not going to be a good wife.
2006-08-31 09:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋