In junior high this girl and I were bfs. We got in this fight that had something to do with this guy I was going out with and a guy of her's also. Her true colors came out and I realized she had been using me here and there, she lied to me about almost everything and she backstabbed me hard, and unforgiving. I'm in highschool now and she's still in junior high. She's spreading rumors about me being a racist and all this other crap...(I'm not a racist). It's now spreading to the highschool in my town. What should I do about her and the school? I've never treated her unfairly, and she's coming at me with all the evil she's got in her! It also helps her cuz she's the queen-bee in junior high. HELP!
2006-08-31 09:44:42 · 13 answers · asked by Princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
queen bee of junior high? that'll look good on a resume!
you should probably tell your counselor (lame, i know, but it could help you cover your butt in the long run) and maybe have him/her contact the bee's counselor at the junior high. don't make a federal case out of it, just let them know it's happening.
please, please, PLEASE don't let yourself get caught up in this!!
i know it takes a great deal of maturity, but here's what will keep people (at least the ones who count) from believing the garbage: ignore it. i know, easy, right? if someone asks you about it, shrug and say "i don't know where anyone would get an idea like that, but it's not true. if you knew me, you wouldn't have to ask." or, if they mention her by name say: "i don't know why she would say something so hurtful and untrue."
don't go around saying anything (and i mean ANYTHING!) about her, good or bad. words get twisted, people hear what they want to hear, and even the tone you used can be exaggerated in the retelling. stuff like that will come back to bite you in the butt every time. as far as you know, she doesn't exist.
i know it's easy to get sucked into the anger and hostility (trust me, i've been there). what's important is that you stand tall and show everyone (not necessarily tell) that you are a good person. if it's true and you're not retaliating back with other nasty stuff, people will know it's a load of crap and that she's a jerk.
again, i know it takes a lot of maturity (i don't think i could have done it back in high school!), but in the end, you will prove to be the better person and won't have any regrets later in life.
take care
2006-08-31 10:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by buffysummers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will know you by the example of yourself that you make. If you do go around making racist remarks, then they will know she is right. Her lies will be told by you showing the other people that she is wrong in her accusations. Ignore her and do not live up to the lies that she is spreading and eventually she will either give up or the other kids simply will not believe her.
For instance, say me and my neighbor got into a fight and she went around telling all the other neighbors, "yeah, she's no good. She drinks all the time and has big parties at her house, sleeps with a lot of different men, blah, blah, blah". Sure, they might believe it at first, but in time, they would see that I have no big parties or men coming or going and they would decide for themselves that she lied. Her word would carry little truth after that. And if she ever made another big lie about me, I'd simply pound the pulp out of her when no one was around to see. Then she could go tell them about that one too. Sometimes, it's not so easy just to ignore the things that people do to you, but that's what you should try first. Sometimes, the only way to get rid of evil forces is to fight it with a good dose of wicked.
2006-08-31 10:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
School drama, she may be the queen bee in junior hig, but when she gets to senior high that's a whole new playing field. Relax
2006-08-31 09:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 15:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ithink you should avoid it! If people are your friends and really know you then they will know the rumors are not true! If you really dont like the whole avoiding thing the just beat her a$$! If your in high school and she is in middle then you will win.If you want revenge then spred stuff about her. Try to get her framed! I love revenge!
2006-08-31 09:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by .:♥ Fire Within♥ :. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advise is to ignore her. It will be very hard, but if are the "Princess" act like one. Hold your head high and smile. Everyone will eventually see you are not anything like the rumors she spreads. Always be one step ahead of her!
2006-08-31 09:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by squeeze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God. High school drama.
Just be nice to everyone. Actions speak louder than words. Chances are her true colors will be seen by everyone soon enough anyway -- if you've noticed it, other people are bound to as well.
2006-08-31 09:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let the devil do its job for now and I guarnetee God will finish it. Sooner or later she will get tired of it and move on or all u got to do is confront her.
2006-08-31 09:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by De 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she is a butt head and if you were doing that to her would she like it ? tell her that if she dosent stop right now then you will spread nasty rumors about her and make fun of her, she will most likely stop and shut her yapper. if she dosent then you will have to make fun of her but if you do decide to spread rumors then makle sure that they will not make her cry
hey she deserves it !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-31 09:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've had a friend like that too!only she was worse so the way i handled it was to be friends with the people who don't beleive your old friend!!it always works out in the end!!well gtg!!bye
2006-08-31 10:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by hair problem girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋