Met a guy that treated me like the sun rose and sat over me. Then after I fell for him he started disapearing for days and even weeks. When I had enough he came home crying that it was his drug problem and that he needed help. I stood by him going into a 90day treatment program only to have him show up one day saying he quit because he lost phone privilges and he had to be able to talk with me. He has started again and has been gone over a week now. I have trrown out all his things and left word not to return and I am serious. When he realizes that I am serious he will try to get me back and I wil refuse and I am afraid of what comes next. I know he does not want me but he really does not want anyone else to have me either. He won't take meds for his mental illness and knows his way around criminal behavior. I can't move at present and a stay away order means nothing to him. Were gay and people have a take it like a man attitude. What if the ohter man has a gun or knife? Help me!
2006-08-31 09:31:04 · 8 answers · asked by gibinsf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have been through him coming back again and again and know his pattern. He has very little interest in me until he feels that I am losing my interest in him. I have had it and I have no interest in him or wanting to ever see him again. When he realizes this is when the trouble will begin. He will then "all of a sudden realize how much he loves me" and the undying love for me will start. The difference now then before is I don't want to and won't buy into it and let him come home. He has been to prision before and is only 29. He is not going to be stopped by a stay away order and knows my schedule and everything about my life. I was unemployed and just started working again and I can't afford to move nor do I want to be driving out of my home for making the mistake of loving the wrong person. I am not scared that he will hurt me, I am scared that he will kill me. When he is manic and High, he is totally out of control and no one can stop him!
2006-08-31 09:40:58 · update #1
well this story not story but just touched me so i suggest to move out and start a new begining of gay life and if you have a time can you e-mail me i have a question please asap!!! jr
2006-08-31 09:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by pldjrftb@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you get "protection", too, drugs are very dangerous and sometimes so are the people that use them. You need to drop this guy and maybe stay with a friend for a while, if he has a gun you need to let someone know that, like the police because if he was in prison he has no right to have a gun, that is a red flag right there, LET SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU KNOW THIS GUY IS DANGEROUS BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE. Good luck to you, I was in the same situation recently and finally got my life back. I had a fatal attraction girl after me for a while, I was afraid to leave my home, now it is better, you have to fight back. Best wishes to you. Hope all works out well for you.
2006-09-08 08:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arm yurself for protection. File the paperwork anyway. You are in the same situation as an abused and scared woman. We should not take it any more lightly because you are a man. Im sorry if others do. Dont let him in the house when he returns. Have someone you trust to call if situation seems unmanageable. If he comes to door, call police, but only if you already have obtained the order. Good luck.
2006-08-31 16:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by answers999 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget that be a man crap. Be a logical human being. Get a license. Buy a gun. If you feel the need to, make it clear to him that you own one and are not afraid to use it. Keep it and/or a bat by your bed. Your life is your number one priority. If you can't bring a gun to work (likely no lol) bring mace/pepper spray and a pcket knife and a taser. whatever you feel comfortable with. You must respond to a threat by becoming one. Ever taken a self defense class? You may can find a free one in your area. Don't travel alone and park your car in well lit areas. And make sure he knows that you're not the one to **** with.
2006-09-03 08:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Brento! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I c ould say get the H out of dodge, but that wouldnt help you at all.
I would stop all communication with him at once. He more than likely is using this to get you softened up and he will keep this up as long as you yeild to his demands. Maye you need to talk to the authorities and make them aware of the gun problem.
If he has been in prison,perhaps it is a legal problem for him carrying a gun or owning one. check it out. Im sure if they are aware of this more would be done to assist you. Most states say it is against the law to pocess a weapon if your a felon.
Maybe if you have a friend you could stay with for a short while so he thinks you have left will help. I realize this is a serious problem and hope you do not get a buch of wise azz answers.
if you need to get things off your chest youare welcome to mail or chat me. here same id. Good luck...
2006-08-31 16:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he trys to harm you then you need to call 911 or the police. This is the same with any relationship whether it be gay or straight.
The best thing to do is to stay away from him. Do not have any communication with him other than to tell him to stay away from you. Do not let him draw you into an argument. Do not let him into your home for any reason.
2006-08-31 16:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by Quin S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the police involved. Or get a gun yourself. It will be harder since you're gay, but there should be programs available to help somebody in your situation, find out about them and quickly.
2006-08-31 16:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by CRtwenty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away, call the police or you will end up dead
2006-09-06 16:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋