my 19 year old son hits me and abuses me verbally but my husband does not do anything about it.?

Question

i am married for 20 years and my husband never cares about me. I have 2 more kids ages are 4, and 12. I am an indian and my husband is an arab. I can not leave, because i financially dependent on my husband. I am scared to start on my own because i am nearing 40. I think because my husband is a virgo, he is very selfish and insensitive. He tells me do whatever I want, it does n't bother him. Are all virgo men heartless people.

Answer 1

God will pave for you to leave.Trust in God.Leave him.Money can't by a peace of mind.There is help for women who are being abused by men.Your son needs a good *** whoopin' and so does your husband.I've heard stuff like this on the Maury show.

Answer 2

First of all you are nearing 40 that's a good thing, life is just getting better. If you don't feel like being married any more then their are all kinds of resources out their to help you move on with your life. Sometimes money is not everything if you are a house wife you have all kinds of skills or maybe you were in the work force before you were married.What you need to do is research some temp agency's and get yourself out their, you said that your husband don't care just start stacking your money.Just remember that life is to short to be UNHAPPY. As far as your husband and son i feel that your husband is teaching your son to disrespect women.That is so sad because if he disrespect his mother i feel so sorry for what ever women that comes into his life will be treated the same way.
Just remember that no one loves you better then you,and i feel that you can do it if this is what you want.

Good Luck,
Cookie

Answer 3

My brother is a Virgo and he is one of the sweetest people I know! Your husband is just an A**Hole. Have you ever thought about smacking your son back? You're the mother! He is an adult. Don't let him disrespect you that way just because your husband does! Time to find yourself another man. It doesn't matter that you're pushing 40. Think about the two younger kids you're trying to raise, are you gonna let them follow in the foot steps of your husband and oldest son? Take some time, make a plan, get yourself together and leave. It might take a year but think of the courage and personal strength you'll have when you do leave!

Answer 4

This is America. FOrget the indian and arab thinking that u have to put up with it because you are a woman.. So what if you are almost 40, that don't mean nothing. Call the police, let them come to your house so they can see what dickheads ur husband and son are and request the police to take you and ur younger two children to a shelter..Be sure you have a good bruise or two. Tell the police that you are afraid that their brother will hit them if you are not there. If the police see that your husband doesnt care then they will tell him he cannot keep the children..
For their safety....
Remember this is America ...

Answer 5

The next time your son hits you call the cops and he will get put in jail. It will be good for him then he will have to go to anger classes fr 6 months and I am sure once he goes through all of this he will have a change of heart but you must do this even if it is your son and you love him but he needs help! Also I think you should leave your husband and start a new life. If a man doesn't treat you right why lean on him for support? Get out and believe in yourself you can make it on your own. God will help you.

Answer 6

Come on quit blaming it on the zodia sign. Your 19 year old hits you? Throw him out. If your husband does the same throw him out. YOU are choosing to live in this misery if YOU let it happen.

Defend yourself any way you can, how are you going to help your 4 and 12 year old in life. You gave your son life, he needs help, you need to go to a shelter for battered women, I hope they have that where you live, and take charge of your life. You only believe you cannot do it, that doesn't take as much courage as doing something about it.

I pray that God will show you a way out, because, you are in a very terrifying situation and dangerous for you and your younger children, how do you know he doesn't abuse your other chidren as well.

There is no pardon for a husband who allows his wife to be abused by his son, eldest or not, your husband must have abused you too and is abusing you everytime he shows you he doesn't care or it doesn't bother him. You are not loving your son by letting him be out of control like that, you are teaching him you and your husband that it is ok to beat up on people, women, children, striking out physically,emotionally is not acceptable behaviour and should never be tolerated, call the police, charge him, let him stew in jail whatever is required to make him see the light for Godness sake.

God bless you and keep you safe from your own family.

Answer 7

No, not all Virgo's are heartless. You obviously are just married to heartless man. He doesn't value you and he probably doesn't value women in general. That is what you married. He's pretty much saying to you, "take it or leave it". What do you want him to do? If you are scared, that is natural. Anybody would be scared to leave with the circumstances surrounding you but it doesn't mean it can't be done. If you just have no feasible way of leaving and absolutely can't leave, that is another matter. If I were you I would risk it and get the hell out of there. They obviously don't give a crap about you and abuse you. It won't change either. If they don't give a sh*t about you you owe it to yourself to at least care about yourself.

Answer 8

You need to get out of there. If your husband don't care about you and your son does not have any respect for you, why stay?
Take your younger sons with you. You are being physically and mentally abuse, get help before it;s too late. What I mean is that you need to do something before your other children start abusing you. It's never too late to start all over again. You have a very low self as-team, what does Virgo have to do with your husband not being a real man? Try to get counseling, you need help ASAP.

Answer 9

Get some back bone and get out, before you know it the 12 year old and the 4 year old will learn how to mistreat you as well, they will only learn how to be abusive and carry it with them in the future. Get some help, it may be hard to be on your own, but you may find it is not as hard as being abused. The 19 year old needs help as well if he thinks its okay to hit his mother. It is not about what sign you are, I know several men that are Virgo's and they are caring men, you just have a bad apple.

Answer 10

Simple -REAL men don't hit women. Ask yourself these questions. Would you be happier if he wasn't there? Would the kids be happier in a home without parents fighting Some kids I know actually find that having 2 homes and week-end "sleep overs" can be fun, although this depends on how much the seperated parents cooperate about the kids. In the end though only YOU should decide, and I hope you end up doing what is right and best for you and your kids. Best of luck. Ron

Answer 11

I am 43, and i was married toa Virgo. They are possesive and inflexible, very rigid. I felt opressed and was very unhappy. He died right at the time I had finally filed for a divorce. I am now hapily married and I have the freedom to be myself.
Report your son to the police, assault is illegal. Let him experience the consequences. If your son ever gets married, he will be abusive to his wife and kids.
Don't allow your son to think is ok to hit women period, especially his won mother. He will be very cruel with women.
Virgo men are not very affectionate, they are family oriented but they do not nurture their wife, they think that if the bills are paid, they are good husbands. That is not true love has nothing to do with the ability to pay the bills.