Confidence does not always = arrogance? This one is for the women to answer?

Question

I recently asked a question and because I stated that I was educated and considered myself to be a good looking guy I was bombarded by replies (only the women did this, guys don't care) insinuating my own arrogance. Where is the line drawn exactly between arrogance and confidence? If you like you can probably still find the question I asked at my profile. Maybe I was in the wrong. You tell me

The question I asked is something to the effect of " It seems every woman I meet

Answer 1

Arrogance is when you parade around and look down on people for not having the same knowledge on subjects and opinions that you do. Confidence is knowing that you achieved the knowledge because you found out for yourself. There is nothing wrong with being educated or good looking. I am both and I am a woman. I still have alot to learn in this lifetime and am always eager to learn things I don't know either from someone or my own curiosity. It is never wrong to say that you don't know something. You can learn it. It is better to remain silent than open your mouth and prove that you are foolish. Keep on keeping on. Let people believe what they want to. If you are proud, do so by all means. At the end of the day, you are the only person you have to an sewer to.

Answer 2

Having read your question (would have been nice of you to have pasted it, rather than making me do the work), I would guess that many women were insulted by your implication that there are no intelligent women left.

You basically called us all airheads. (Well, not me, since I'm probably way too old for you, brilliant though I am.)

That's what really brought the charges of arrogance, rather than your claims about yourself.

Probably.

Regarding your original question, where are you trying to meet women? You're going to find more mere partiers at clubs and parties.

Are you sure you're giving these girls a chance? It's hard to be noticeably brilliant while dancing.

Also, how important are looks to you? If you're only talking to the cutie-pies, you'll have a harder time finding the smart ones, as the cutie pies are rewarded for being cute airheads.

Answer 3

Remember you are typing responses and questions..no one can see your expressions or your eyes. So they same question if asked in person might get a different responce depending on if you are obviously confident or obviously arrogant...In my opinion the fact that you are concerned about what these people think surprises me. To make you feel better I have posted some questions on here and I always get responses that are pretty rude.. If you are truly confident you most likely won't care what myself or anyone thinks anyway.

Answer 4

I am sorry that you could not get an honest answer....Is it okay if I answer your previous question? Okay I will answer it ...

It is not just women, it is society as a whole....I find it very difficult to find people to participate in intelligent and thought provoking conversations myself.

At some point society, (several generations ago) lowered its standards, its morals, and manners and we are surrounded by many...Intelligent life is hard to find amongst the many...

I am shocked when I do find myself having intelligent conversations, how quickly and abruptly the subject will turn to drugs, or sex or an equally inappropriate conversation piece....

There is a very fine line between confidence and arrogance, could that line be class? I do not know...

Answer 5

I wouldn't obssess about it. It's easy for people to give snide answers on the internet. It is possible to be very confident without being at all arrogant it's just that most people aren't able to pull it off. I know one guy who does this very well. He's probably the most confident person I know but he's very nice and not at all arrogant.
I looked at your questions and I don't know which one you mean.
Edit - I see it now and people responded that way because you were a bit insulting to women not specifically because of what you said about yourself.

Answer 6

Personally, I like a man that knows and values his own worth.

Tell me...Why do men confuse competency in women with masculinity? Just because I can change a tire competenly doesn't make me masculine! I've had to get onto my son about this issue...He's starting to make some progress. LOL!

Answer 7

I think intelligence and looks together intimidate some, you are lucky to have both, don't worry what others say, none from us know you from the man on the moon, we should not be jealous, just answer your question to the best of our abilities.

Answer 8

i wouldn't consider you arrogant for that, only if you said unkind things about others, don't get upset if some people don't understand you or you'll become like them

Answer 9

I don't think your question was that bad except for the "airhead" comment. Likewise, I don't think most of the answers were too bad either.

Answer 10

It depends on whether your statements had any relevance to your question, or if they were just thrown in there to boost your own ego.