i have been friends with two guys for years now. my closest one is from cameroon and im friends with him almost 5 years. we do evryting together. except sex, well up until a few days ago anyway. my other friend is congolese born but raised in france. im friends with him 2 years. anyway basicly we all had afew drinks 2 many, and i know they would not take advantage of me. but we had a threesome a few nitghts ago. now im afraid it will change things between us. i dont care about the french guy as i am closer to the cameroon guy and we are best friends.however i would not want i realise it was a huge mistake and i deeply regret it but i have no choice but to get along with it. i have talked to my friend and he has said it wont change anything between us but i cant help feel disguted, as you would. does anybody have any advice? please and thanks
2006-08-31 09:05:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First, don't feel disgusted. There is nothing wrong with what you did. If he says it hasn't changed the relationship, then believe it hasn't. Some people are better at seperating love and sex and friendship then others. As long as everything seems normal then believe it is. And be glad it happened with two friends you trust. You are okay.
2006-09-01 19:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow!
Some of the things we do when we are young and carefree..........
You know what, don't trip we all make mistakes and the way you feel now you know what you have done and most likely you won't do it again, so quit beating up on yourself okay.
I do not know one person in life who hasn't done something in there youth that they do not want to remember okay. Have you talked to or with your two friends since this has happened?
If your answer is yes, and they have not started treating you any differently then don't worry okay, you are right though when you say that it may have been a mistake but, you can't go back and change it all now, all you can do is is keep being yourself and stay away from this topic in conversation, the best you can any how.
I hope that your friends do realize the same thing as you have and they want to keep you as their friend also so they may not want to speak of it either.
I hope you well in life and just be careful of the things that you do from now on okay........
2006-08-31 09:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's happened now, you can't turn back the clock. You will just have to agree to forget it and since the other has already said it doesn't change anything you just need to get on with life. Only time will tell. Maybe you and the cameroon guy are mean't to be together, try behave as you did before and see if there is any chemistry, if not, you should be able to go back to being friends in time.
2006-08-31 09:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try not to be so hard on yourself. why stain this memory with shame? dont worry about what you think others would think of you. it's not so skanky to have had the affection and comfort of the friendships spill and become sexually expressive. be the same old friendly you. if you feel conflicted and want to clear the air, let your friends know that you found the experience a little confusing and did it as an affectionate experiment and that you hope you can continue to have the frienships that you've always enjoyed.
2006-08-31 09:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by Eos 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just don't talk about it with him act like if nothing ever happen just say hi and go on with your conversation if he touches this point just say you don't want to talk about it and next time you drink too much think you could end up in bed with the wrong persons.
2006-08-31 09:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by PR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friendships always change after sex. They're never the same. Don't no why. But things do change.
2006-08-31 09:22:43 · answer #6 · answered by Monty L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you told him about how you feel, thats all you canb do really. Try at least to never get into a situation like that again. Make sure he knows this is not gonna happen again.
2006-08-31 09:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by Joyce R 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Live and Learn. All of you realize it was a one time thing. Stop worrying about it and just let it go.
2006-08-31 09:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is the race of these individuals important to you? What race are you? Did they take precautions, a lot of aids in Africa. It seems to be a common sexual practise these days, mostly its a mans wish to participate.
2006-08-31 09:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Life goes on.
2006-08-31 09:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by shonnie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋