i just want to have fun and do my own thing. i dont want a bf i just would rather have friends with benefits. does that make me seem trashy?
2006-08-31 09:02:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
NO. IT MEANS THAT YOU WANT THE SEXUAL COMPANIONSHIP WITHOUT RISKING THE EMOTIONAL INTIMACY. THAT'S ALL.
JUST KNOW THAT THE FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS THING, USUALLY ENDS UP IN SOMEONE FEELING HURT, AT SOME POINT. SOMEONE STARTS TO FEEL LIKE THEY WANT MORE FULFILLMENT, AND WISHES THE OTHER FELT THE SAME. KEEP THESE AFFAIRS SHORT AND TOTALLY CONSENSUAL.
SOME DAY, YOU WILL WANT MORE FULFILLMENT FROM SOMEONE. WHEN YOU DO, YOU WILL WANT IT BE BASED ON MORE THAN SEX. YOU WILL BEGIN TO REALIZE THAT INITIAL ATTRACTION DOES NOT ALWAYS MEAN THAT THERE'S MORE THAN JUST GOOD SEX.
AND YOU WILL ALSO REALIZE THAT WHILE LEARNING MORE ABOUT SOMEONE, YOU SOMETIMES LIKE THEM MORE AND MORE AS YOU GET TO KNOW THEM BETTER. SOMETIMES IT TAKS A LONG TIME FOR SEXUAL CHEMISTRY TO BUILD. WHEN IT DOES, IT IS USUALLY MORE LASTING, BECAUSE IT WAS NOT BASED ON JUST SEX TO BEGIN WITH.
EACH PERSON YOU ENCOUNTER TEACHES YOU MORE ABOUT YOURSELF. YOU LEARN MORE ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT FROM SOMEONE, AND WHAT YOU ARE WILLING TO GOVE.
WHY SHOULD YOU FEEL GUILTY, OR WORRIED ABOUT THE STEREOTYPES OF OTHERS, FOR WANTING TO GAIN THIS EXPERIENCE?
THINK ABOUT IT. DON'T YOU THINK THE SOMEONE YOU END UP WITH LATER IN LIFE, WOULD FEEL MORE SPECIAL IF YOU "PICKED" THEM, HAVING SEEN WHAT ELSE IS OUT THERE? I MEAN, IF THEY WERE YOUR FIRST CHOICE ABOVE ALL OTHERS......
2006-08-31 09:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this society, women cannot have casual sex without being seen as a whore because of the double standard. Men can have casual sex with whomever they want and are seen as "studs" or "players" but if a woman engages in the same behavior she is called a slut or a whore. Do your own thing and have all the fun you want but please be careful. Use protection so you don't get any sexually transmitted diseases or AIDs because casual sex might be fun and work for you, but its not worth dying over or getting a disease over.
2006-08-31 16:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Meggo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes that is very trashy...Im sure many people will think of you as a whore but if you are doing all that then you probably dont care about what people think anyways,..Maybe you can limit it to ONE friend with benefits if you don't want a boyfriend
2006-08-31 16:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say you are definitely not a whore, you are just content not having to settle down. I wish I was you to be honest with you. If you feel that you will be called a whore, then sleep with men in very private places and only tell people who will not disrepect you for it. And.....being sneaky makes the game SOOOOO much more fun. Tear it up GIRL!!!!!
2006-08-31 16:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by c_69_2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kind of, because you want benefits. But yes, women can have casual sex without being thought of as a whore. It's all how you carry yourself and treat others.
2006-08-31 16:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by J j 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. The definition of a whore is a human (male or female) that "sleeps around" expecting financial support. In my eyes, you're only a whore if you get paid to get laid, lol. Simple as that!
2006-08-31 16:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by Jazzo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
use protection and be discreet. you will not be thought of as a whore if nobody knows about it. i suggest finding one or two really good booty calls and sticking with them. that way you are not out whoreing around all the time looking for a lay. i have lived the last couple years with 3 good booty calls and have been extremely happy with this arrangement. just USE PROTECTION!!
2006-08-31 16:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by martiniac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you make it clear to the guys you're screwing that there are no strings attached and keep it descrete. If you pick the right guys, you should have no problems with having a lot of fun. It would be wise to use two forms of birth control too, one to keep the babies away and the other to keep STDs away.
2006-08-31 16:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by Alan J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone out there is always going to consider that being a whore, because everyone is raised differently. Not everyone is as accepting as you want them to be.
2006-08-31 16:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by saintlyinnocents 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because of STDs you might want to think about a fvck friend. It really isn't that hard to find a friend with the same mindset as yourself.
2006-08-31 16:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋