2006-08-31 08:42:22 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just sit him down and be honest with him, I say communication will be the key to doing so.
Don't sneak and hide things of that nature behind his back be honest and tell him you no longer want to be married anymore and you are telling him to be respectful and honest to him,
Depending on whether you want to remain friends or have children involve should also be in your discussion.
If it's just you and him and you want to part as friends than make that clear.
If you have children and you want to make some type of custody and visitation arrangements discuss that to.
Now if your in a abusive marriage then you have to take all steps necessary to protect your security which you should have legal counsel to bring the divorce to his attention.
2006-08-31 08:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
put his sh&t on the front lawn, and change the locks..
Kidding,
the best way is be upfront and tell him "this isn't working, and that you want a divorce"
Don't use the "I love you, but am not "in love" with you routine" that is a chicken **** way of handling it.
Have the papers ready.
If he is a prick have a 2nd person close by as a witness.
2006-08-31 15:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is not to do it at all. Promises were made, love is a choice, not a feeling. So the best thing to do is choose to love him. If he's not giving you something you need, ask for it, or find a way to meet the need yourself. Who knows, if he sees changes in your lifestyle, that you're getting out and doing something with your life that you weren't before, he might get intrigued and want some of the action :>
2006-08-31 15:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and tell him you want a divorce... Sorry, there's no other way, you just have to tell him.
2006-08-31 15:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the dinner table look up at him and say "Honey,I love you but I am too young to feel this old and I think we need to divorce,and find others that make us feel forever young"
It worked for me and now at 38 I am happily dating a younger man that makes me feel like a queen.
2006-08-31 15:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Pitdog1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm not happy and I want a divorce. And then give him the reasons why, anyone deserves a least that much.
2006-08-31 15:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by blonde mom70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be could with him but tell him step by step cause they don't understeand why are u doing this and they like to be the first hwo say this,even if you have the best reason.they are so afraid to lose a woman and you have to take him slowly, than he will understeand that he has no chance to go back in time and start all over again.
2006-08-31 15:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down on a non-stressed day and have a calm discussion. Try to keep it clean and honest. Try not to finger point so he won't get into a defensive mode. Once that happens then a bad argument will begin.
Good luck.
2006-08-31 15:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Just Another Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is just no gentle way to do it. And what ever it was that went wrong, it has probably been going on for a while and he will not be that surprised. Just say something like, "I have something important to talk to you about. It is obvious that neither of us have been happy..." and you know the rest.
2006-08-31 15:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer email.
Text messaging?
How about hire an anonymous acquaintance to break the news?
Sky write it!
Put it on a note inside a piece of cake!
Write it on the mirror in a way, so that it appears in the steam after a shower.
recorded message on the answering machine.
2006-08-31 15:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by jeff_kotowski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋