First getting married is a big step...Congrad's to you and ur lady! Second, a ring is material!! It says nothing about your love for her and wanting to be together forever! Dont rush! Get first thing out the way....like dealing with her leaving and yall spending as much time with each other as possible. Its going to be a real test of yall love for each other when she leaves! If yall make it though this then yall can make it through anything!! Get through the Storm and then the sun will shine! Your love for her is beautiful!! Everybody needs to experience that type of luv once in a life time! Congrads again...
Good Luck
2006-08-31 09:09:47
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answered by Anonymous
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If she would leave you because you can't afford to buy an engagement ring, then I don't think that she's the right person to marry. You've only been engaged for 2 months - people stay engaged for years to save up enough money for a ring and the wedding. I'm sure that she knows that appreciates that you cannot afford a ring right now. How about a simple little ring (a little, inexpensive band) - it doesn't have to be the engagement ring - you can call it a promise ring representing all the promises you have made to her, including the promise to buy her a real engagement ring in the future. Also, many young couples these days forego the traditions of getting an engagement ring and having traditional weddings. How important is the ring to her?
When I got engaged, my husband could not afford a ring either but we loved each other and got married using $10 silver bands we bought off a street vendor. We didn't have a traditional wedding, either - just a dinner with 10 of our closest family members and friends. With the money we ended up saving, my husband was able to buy me a lovely wedding ring while we were on our honeymoon.
2006-08-31 08:45:48
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answered by Anonymous
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You need to understand what the nature of your relationship is by custom and by law. You are engaged. You have made a verbal and legally binding contract. Has it been published such as in a paper or in church? That makes a little difference if things go to court. A ring is a part of that promise though not the whole. A ring is sometimes considered as good as your word. It is physical and shows both a proposal and an acceptance in a physical sense. The ring does not have to be of any specific material and does not need a stone. From a legal standpoint, a bent iron horse-shoe nail is as good as gold. From a cultural standpoint, your promised one might be offended by such an offer unless she truly understands your financial situation. By the way, does she understand? Planning makes good sense; planning with knowledge, information, makes better sense. You should both take stock of your resources, time, money, possessions. If, knowing that things are only going to get more difficult, she still wishes to marry, then you have nothing to worry about regarding your relationship with her and money.
What should you do? You should tell her the truth. Explain clearly that you are not financially able to provide a traditional engagement ring. Offer her a non-traditional promise. It could be a note, a ring or a wood carving, but it has to have the promise of marriage associated with it. If she refuses, then by law that could be taken as a refusal of the proposal. By tradition, she might just not want something "cheap". Put your heart into it.
2006-08-31 09:04:08
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answered by Jack 7
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Try to relax. Be aware though, a lot of relationships end when college starts. Don't buy her a ring just yet. Start saving and see how things go. If you're still together next year, give her a great ring you've saved for. Good luck!
2006-08-31 08:41:50
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answered by ms pokeylope 4
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Tell her the truth; you can always get "promise" bands, symbolic of the real wedding bands and then, on a special date like in a year for your first wedding anniversary or Valentine's day or whenever you get caught up, you can present the real ones. As far as keeping a relationship between husband and wife while she is gone, I'd have to say it is pretty hard and you will need to talk about your feelings of being scared to her. Open communication is vital to any committed relationship, so be honest about everything.
2006-08-31 08:44:27
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answered by lindy.star 1
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Just tell her that you want to marry her and you dont have the money to buy her a ring. If she loves you she should understand that. You dont need to have an engagement ring to be engaged as long as she knows shes engaged wiht you its ok.
2006-08-31 08:41:11
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answered by Happy Mommy 3
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I worked in a pawn shop for many years..
you can get a simple band for like $15.00...
then later buy her a better ring.
My husband and i have been together 13 years and I have a very nice wedding set but recently he told me he wants to add on to my wedding ring.
I am fine with what I have,but I love the idea behind it and his way of thinking.I still haven't decided,I don't know if I want to add on to it,(to change it in anyway)but remember it's always an option.
also if she loves you the ring isn't everything...
most people think a pawn shop is cheap,but there are alot of one of a kind pieces,things people inherit from relatives and have no use for or don't know the value of what they have,also how can u tell jewelry is used?you can't...where do you think the people that pawn the jewelry get it from?the expensive jewelry stores...we had doctors and lawyers always coming in simply to buy...jewelers too
2006-08-31 08:43:25
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answered by crystal 5
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You guys arent ready to get married if you feel the need to ask that question on yahoo. No offense but if you guys were honestly ready, you wouldnt be nervous about how to go about telling her you dont have the money or worry about losing her to attending college....you would know that she is yours, and in love and most importantly, not going anywhere if you were ready!
2006-08-31 08:45:13
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answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4
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If she really loves u she wont need a ring that is just a gift. but u could get a short term job like in a bar or something but u really dont need a HUGE ROCK to show u care.
2006-08-31 08:55:16
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answered by Anonymous
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If she wants to get married with you than you should tell her the truth. You cannot start early enough with telling the truth to you future wife.
If she leaves you it wasn't marriage material at all.
Be brave, she will be fine and maybe even help you with a plan!
2006-08-31 08:46:35
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answered by Sadaf 2
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