I'm bored!
2006-08-31 08:33:22 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I planned trips, dinner dates but all he wants to do is take me to a car races, that's his idea of fun....
2006-08-31 08:46:21 · update #1
Ask yourself why are you bored? How long have you been married? Stuck in the same routine? It is easy to fall into routines and sometimes tough to break out of them. If you love your mate and like them as a person (which is not the same thing) then you should be able to.
Be spontaneous. Talk. Listen. Go for a walk. Hold hands. Be romantic. Take a bath / shower together. Give him a back rub. Give him a foot rub. Do something special even if that is just staying in bed in Sunday morning. Have great sex. Have different sex.
But ask your self why are you bored. Maybe he is too. Then work on the reason you are bored and remember, communicate.
BE CAREFUL. I read your other questions and it looks like you are the road to disaster in your relationship. Focus on your relationship and how to make it work instead of looking elsewhere and how good those are / might be.
2006-08-31 08:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Not only is it possible, but it is expected. People lose interest in their spouse for selfish reasons. They want the romance and fun, of dating...during a marriage. Real life is about bills and health problems and stress, raising kids and paying a mortgage. Unrealistic expectations cause a relationship to deteriorate. My husband and I have been married eleven years. We are still attracted to each other, more so than the early years, it seems. We do nice things for one another, respect each others feelings, and try to make things right (even if we weren't wrong). As far as keeping the spark alive, I say what I want/need and he returns the favor. I know his fantasies and he knows mine. If things get boring we try something new. If we're both stressed from work, sex doesn't come into the picture, but loving touch does. My husband is the only man I ever fantasize about. Not that it isn't healthy to fantasize about others, it is. I just find that I only think about him. I like most everything about him. So whereas some of it is work, and accepting that everyone else is just as flawed as you are...a lot of it is choosing the right partner. The funny thing is, we have little in common outside of our kids or the physical chemistry between us. But I look forward to seeing him every day and holding him every night.
2016-03-27 02:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a date night! Where it is just about you guys and your relationship!! Find out als do things that are romantic for each other your idea of romance may not be what your spouses idea of a romance is! Even if you have kids or cannot go out set aside a night (we do Fridays) and send the kids to bed. Have a candle lit dinner, bubble bath or just set and cuddle in front of the tv!!
We have been together 11 years have 6 kids!! When we go out people think we are newlyweds!!
2006-08-31 08:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by hayes8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats normal. I suggest the two of you do fun stuff. Go places youve never been before, play marriage board games with other couples and even though this one may seem immature, do stupid stuff when the two of you go out...act like kids....do things to make eachother laugh...run up and down grocery aisles chasing eachother I dont know lol....just live for the moment...with eachother lol crazy I know but when my boyfriend and I have fun and do crazy things together it makes us get closer. BE REBELS TOGETHER lol dont let the fact that you guys are husband and wife overpower you disabling you to do things as friends too!
2006-08-31 08:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've had an open marriage for 15 out of 16yrs, so it has never been boring for us!
Having 3 kids creates a lot of chaos, also.
2006-08-31 08:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lot's of freaky sex! Watch freaky porn together. Go out dancing. Send dirty text messages to him during the day telling what you would like to do to him. You have to constantly invent things........marraige is work! It won't stay good on its own. You have to let the little stuff go that makes you think negative of your mate. Think of things you like about him, things that make you hot, even if you have to reminisce(sp) about when you first met. Hang in there.
Oh, all my ex-husband was interested in was races! That's why he's EX! I left him and found someone I had some things in common with.
2006-08-31 09:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A surprise weekend trip to San Francisco. Me and my wife did it 2 years ago, and it was great and not too expensive. About $1500 total including airfare.
2006-08-31 08:39:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one time I said lets go and left for a small vaction,, and that was after when I worked 8 hrs all night.. or one night she took a nap I fixed supper we had pork chops, baked potatoes ,corn had it sitting on the table with an oil lamp lighting up the table...with soft music playing..woke her up ,she said whats this?...I said for you...she said why? I said because your so beautiful and i love you,,and she started to cry and would not let me go almost broke my neck from hugging me so hard. Another one would be go dancing and get a nice room at a hotel like a suite with a hot tub and fire place...like i did one night..
2006-08-31 08:53:35 · answer #8 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AdamandEve.com, Communicate, Fredericks, Communicate, Romance ,Communicate
2006-08-31 08:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reading a good book and discussing it.
taking a vacation dtogether
going scuba diving
having sex on the beach--going skinny dipping,etc
talking
planning mystery dates
2006-08-31 08:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋