why do some people seem to think you don't need friends if your married?

Question

I have had people say tha tto me you got you man why do you friends? it is stupid. Just because I'm married does not meen I don't gert lonely.

Answer 1

Finally, someone brought this up! My friends are getting married left and right and totally ditch their old friends. I think they get so involved with building this new family life for themselves they feel they don't need anyone else. I think it's a huge mistake as people aren't meant to build their lives around just one person. Friends are very important as they are the only people we spend time with by choice, not by obligation.

Answer 2

Of course you need friends when you're married. Who ever told you differently is wrong. Everyone needs friends. I know how you feel, I don't have many friends, I'm married also, but I still get lonely when there's nobody to talk to, besides, it's nice to go out with friends and escape from your daily routines occasionally. Life would be sad and boring and not to mention lonely without friends. What you need is one really good friend that you can talk to and hang out with especially when you want to get away from your husband for a while.

Answer 3

Speaking from a male point of view, I think that if my wife and I did'nt spend time with our friends, we would drive each other absolutely crazy. You have to be able to have time apart to enjoy the time you're together. Spending time with your friends is a great way to escape from the norm and relieve stress. I travel a good bit for work also. I would never want her to feel like she has to just sit around and do nothing while I'm gone. I think that if that was the case, I probably wouldn't be married very long.

Answer 4

I have people assume this as well. Just because you get married does not mean you die. Everyone needs companionship, both physical and mental. Im sorry, but my husband does not want to hear about how my period was more heavy than usual or about how Im retaining water. Women need other women to talk to, and the same goes with men. Some people, usually unmarried, just think that once you get married everything stops. It doesnt stop, it just gets better, but everyone needs friends regardless of whether you have the love of your life or not.

Answer 5

Sorry about the lonely thing, and you might want to search around inside and see what needs are not being met and then talk about them with your spouse. Your right a person usually needs more then one person to relate with cuz usually one person can not co-develop all your developing areas. Couple friends are nice, kinda a two fer for both of you. Four can be a nice even number while three is kinda odd and can lead to problems.

Answer 6

you can be married, sleep in the same bed and still be lonely..of course you need friends. Everyone needs a break from the marriage. Friends with different grain of thoughts can be refreshing to your day. No one has immunity from marriage these days. Those that dont make an effort to continue to make new friends whilst they are marriage often suffer when the partner leaves them.

Answer 7

I feel the same way. You should never completely cut off all contact from friends just because you're in a serious relationship. Not only is it unhealthy, but you could risk losing friendships that way. What if the relationship doesn't work out? Then you'll have lost all your friends and REALLY be lonely!

Answer 8

Your partner is just that a person you share your life with it doesn't mean that you have to spend every waking hour with them Life would be pretty boring if we only ever had intimate and I don't mean sexual , I mean personal contact with other people about us .
Its the old saying........... every body needs a friend.
I checked out you 360 I hope you don't mind . It seems to me that a lady Like you is just in a bit of a rut and that friends are just a little scarce at the moment . Be patient and keep just saying hi

Answer 9

Nice attitude and I could'nt agree more.. Everyone needs friends..As for the Bi, well sweetheart thats your right to do as you wish..WOW did you say 4'9", well they say good things come in small packages.. By the way looked at your 360 and you a fine looking lady,, cant figure how someone that pritty could ever be lonely..Well your on the right place to do it, Good Luck and watch out for the young ones playing games...Your friend from Tennessee...ROB...X/O

Answer 10

I would tell you that just because you are married does not mean that you don't need friends. I do think we should never have enough of friends. everybody need to talk with somebody else every now and then. yes you are married and you have your partner but sometimes even men don't always understand a female moods.