How do I know if my wife is cheating on me?

Question

We have ben married for 15 years. Snce the beggining of our relationship my wife was never much into sex. It is as though she almost doesn't like it. But that is not the case, because when we do have sex, she is very hot and wet. In other words, once she is into it she is REALLY into it. Although, she is quite prude about many things like Oral (Giving and receiving), dirty talk, etc... We are intimate about once a month and even then I have to almost "beg" for it. Truth be told, it is hard for her to be having an affair, because she never goes out by herself very much at all. The reason I am suspecting, is just a gut feeling. And yesterday she told me that there was no more spark with us and she does not know what to do. She also stated "I don't have anyboby else or anything like that...." I have asked her straight out, but if she was having an affair, do you think she would admit it? Hell no!! What do you think?

Answer 1

Hire a private investigator.

Answer 2

I think your asking her the wrong questions
and that your focus on the wrong things
you love her than love her she might just have a form of depression which can cause a women sex drive to demenish
join a group or a m.c but dont drive your self crazy with affair thoughts

Answer 3

I don't think she is cheating but here is what you have to do. SInce she is not into kinky stuff make a romantic setting. Light candles in the bedroom with rose pedals. By her a nice silky nightgown/nighty. By some champagne and chocolates. Put the spark back into the night. I tell you what lotions dont hurt either. Lotion her feet and legs. I tell you what if my husband did that for me we would be doing it all night long.

Answer 4

I have a friend that is the same as your wife she not really into sex but there are reason behind it.Like maybe rape or another sex crime.Or even if her parents did show love to each other when she was younger............Have you asked?Or maybe you are on her to much about it and I can tell you that is not the way to go!

Answer 5

I think she is not likely cheating. I think she just needs you to make her feel like a wanted woman again. Ravish her, buy her flowers, dont ask for sex, take it (and no freaks i dont mean rape her), what I mean is be aggressive to save your marriage.

And believe me I DO KNOW what I am talking about. I was in the same position six months ago, and know what I was forced to do cause my man was too soft? and not romantic? Yeah, I left and found myself someone who ACTED like I was wanted, who told me and let me know everyday....Which is sad because all he had to do was attend to me a little bit, and I would have stayed.

Answer 6

I don't think that she is cheating I think that she may have some self esteem issues or problems with letting herself go sexually. I would try to make her feel sexy and one things that guys forget...You always have to woo your woman, whether you have been together 15 minutes or 15 years.. Keep trying though you are frustrated. Good Luck

Answer 7

You only get sex ONCE A MONTH and you haven't either DUMPED HER YET or SERIOUSLY COMPLAINED!!! Quick, someone call the Pope, you're worthy of sainthood! The modern man needs to be a lot more assertive with women.

Answer 8

Hire a private investigator to record her movements for 3 days.

Answer 9

First of all there are so many woman out there you don't want someone that don't want you!
Secondly, my mom always told me if you feel like they don't care start acting like you don't care, flip the tables on them, then and only then will you find out the truth.

Answer 10

i say she is cheating or at least interested in someone else. women don't just up and say stuff like that without having a backup plan. and her backup is another. women need security and she is going to make sure she has it before she makes a move.