i have my finace's brother and my best friend walking together, my sister in law and my fiance's best friend walking together, my brother and my finace's twin sister and my fiance's other brother with his other twin sister. We decided to have only 4 walkers. Now I don't know what to do. My fiance tells me that the only way that my brother can serve is that his fiance;s twin sisters has to walk also. I am very close to my brother and my fiance is not. My fiance is close(not very, they live 200 miles away from us)to his twin sisters. I want my close friends to walk. Is this fair? Can I take the twins out without hurting my fiance's feelings? HELP!
2006-08-31 08:11:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but should i take the twins out to put my close friends? or should I leave them in so that it will not cause confusion between me and my finace?
2006-08-31 08:19:04 · update #1
Have you ever considered the twin sister standing up with your fiance. This is becoming more and more common. She would still be dressed like the other women but she could stand with your husbands side if they are that close.
2006-09-04 01:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by hebe935 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Wedding is for both of you. Communicate your wishes to your Fiance and consider his wishes fairly. Try to find a mutual ground. Arguing about who is going to be in the wedding party is senseless and if you can't come to a decision on this little thing Whatever will you do with more important issues???
2006-09-07 11:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a little confused by all that info but i think if you are close to your brother you should make whatever arrangements you need to. if you really want him there, tell your fiance how important it is. i dont think you should drop anyone either though if you already asked them because that would be rude and probably hurt more than just your fiances feelings.
2006-08-31 08:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by ♥mama♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave family in the wedding. Give your friend a very important job like getting the signing book together. Let her know it is a hard choice and you really wanted her to be in the wedding party. I am sure she will understand.
2006-09-08 07:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by womanofthefire80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am confused! But I would say including your family is very important! It is your wedding everyone needs to be happy but sometimes sacrifice needs to be made!
If I were you the most important people in the wedding to me would be my brother and my best friend (other than the marring couple) .
Forget the numbers and enjoy your wedding!!!!
2006-08-31 08:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by hayes8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've already asked them it's best to leave them in. In this situation even though you've already agreed upon four walkers is to just adjust the numbers so that everyone can be included and no one will get their feelings hurt.
It will work out in the end. Best of luck to you!
2006-09-06 03:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by weddingsforall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think family first! This is a marriage compromise. If you can't figure this out then elope. And if you already asked some one you need to follow thru
2006-09-06 02:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by Christy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about just having a Best Man and a Maid of Honor? They would walk down the isle before you come down. Say your budget can't afford more than that. You pick yours, he picks his and it's all even!!
2006-09-04 11:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by Petey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I read your additional info.
If you've already asked these people to be in your wedding, you're stuck with them.
Even if you haven't, I would strongly suggest honoring your FI's wishes and asking his siblings to be in the wedding.
That being said, ask your friends, too. There's no limit on your wedding party.
2006-08-31 08:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by Toga748 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys just need to talk about it and work out a compromise. If you can't, then the fair thing would be to have none or them all.
2006-08-31 08:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by Jen T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋