I know they did that in the old days but I find this a bit sick.
I really love him as a person and we do do some really romantic things together but, I mean, cousins are never exactly going to be relationship material are they?
The thing is, I really don't want to lose our beautiful friendship. I can confide in him as if he were girl! And yet, I am terrified: seeing the emotion in his face, I realised he is serious.
Am I about to lose a friend,? You can't "lose" relatives...but maybe I'm about to lose him too.
Oh help!
2006-08-31 08:10:04 · 20 answers · asked by Josephine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you have developed a confusing relationship--when you say that you are friends and yet, do romantic things. Be firm with him--tell him that you see him as a friend and family and that you really appreciate his support and friendship, but that you cannot marry. In some states, it is illegal to marry your first cousin! Be sure that you are not giving him "mixed messages," as some girls will do, because they are flattered by the attn/adulation; however, that is conducting oneself in less than a moral way!
2006-08-31 08:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I don't think you can marry him even if you wanted to because, it's illegal in most places, at least if he is a first cousin.
I think you are afraid of losing your relationship, but not getting married doesn't mean you will. If he loves you enough to ask you to marry him, then he probably loves you enough to keep hold of your relationship.
Explain to him how you feel about the whole marriage between cousins thing. I say be honest with him, that is the best policy. If you are going to tell him no, then I say maybe you should put an end to the romantic things as that has probably blurred your relationship and is probably the cause of your present dilemma.
After all, you can't be there on you wedding day wish you had you head down the toilet sink.
2006-08-31 08:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the relationship. If its a first cousin then its probably not a good idea. However if you are second or third cousins its all right. Sometimes it is a good idea since you know each other and may probably have a good life.
If it is a first cousin and if the parents are brothers or sisters then definitely it is not a good idea, the close relationship could lead to genetic birth defects.
2006-08-31 08:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by fun_boyz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you, its difficult to let him down gently but unless you feel a really overpowering passion for him its not advisable to concentrate the family gene pool. Maybe if you suggest to him you keep the option open for a few years and see what hapens? Odds are you will find other partners, you don't say how old you both are either, a proposal at 18 is vastly different to one at 30 for example
2006-08-31 08:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by welsh_witch_sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure what you're apprehensive approximately. It feels like the total kin (or a minimum of adequate of you), understand her sport. And, why do you nevertheless call her your BF???? She might have her very own themes because of the fact of her upbringing, yet enable her understand that she would not might desire to sleep with adult males, or wreck a kin to get interest. You all enjoyed her in basic terms as she became and her modern-day habit is making it complicated which you will proceed on doing so. I say kill her with kindness. The toddlers are not going away, so she will continuously be around. you will possibly desire to objective to brek up the marriage, even nonetheless it would in basic terms reason drama. I say seek for her out, enable her understand that this has to stop and consider out to get her to alter her strategies. If she does, screw her and pass on with your individual existence. Why waste anymore time on it???
2016-11-06 04:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps doing "really romantic things together" was a step to far especially if there was never to be anything more than friendship.
So you will have to be brave and tell him that inspite of your friendship, you are not the one for him and trust that he sees your honesty.
As for tabboos there is nothing in UK law that says cousins cannot marry see link below.
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/ate/sexandrelationships/familyproblems/200403.html
2006-08-31 08:45:53 · answer #6 · answered by InnerGuard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have got too close for comfort, family is family and there is a line that should never be crossed..
Think you need to cut out the romantic part of your relationship before it becomes beyond repair... And yea you are right to feel sick...
2006-08-31 08:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by COLEEN J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, but it is actually legal to marry a cousin, which means you can marry him...if you really feel close to him, then say yes...
You cant marry your brother, dad, Grandad, Uncle! or any other male reletive except your cousin
2006-08-31 09:05:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u marry him ure family may look down on u n u may have 2 cope with evil comments but if u both luv each other u should do it i wish u all the luck in the world
luv craig from manchester,england
xxx
2006-08-31 08:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by lil craigie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, try to explain to him how you feel, but there's a good chance you'll lose your close friendship.
How close of cousins are you? That makes a difference.
2006-08-31 08:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by Toga748 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋