For some reason he is convinced we were together when we were broken up and I had met somebody else that made me happy at that time.. yet me and that person broke up, with a horrible ending. Me and my ex-boyfriend (the one incarcerated) got back together afterwardz, we have been on and off for two yearz. He is convinced that I am cheating on him.. I understand he has insecuritiez because he'z locked up but how can I show and prove to him that I am being faithful and have been? He sayz I can do this by sending him more letterz but I don't understand how that will show I'm being faithful? I tell him I wanna be wit him and only him, and it is the truth.. but he alwayz impliez I'm playing gamez and sayz horrible thingz to me. Is he the one playing gamez? Please help.. I need some advice. My family acceptz we're together but the only advice they give me is to drop him, as do friendz.
2006-08-31 07:55:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He maybe having a bad time in jail but no excuse to trash you and your feelings for him. Can you visit him there? Talk face to face about his feelings. Letters do help them while inside, keeps their morale up. Write so letters and visit if you can and tell him when he gets out the 2 of you can seek counseling to help with the outside world and your relationship. Normally I would say leave and move on, but something says he is open to change and wants to better himself. Try to be positive and if he says no to counseling or continues the trash talk after you write, etc. Then make a break.
2006-08-31 08:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I was with a jealous man for 5 years. I could not even LOOK sideways at another man or he would grill me for hours. He was well-educated, had money, and life was going well for him. What he had in common with your man was a lack of self-esteem. I tried everything I could think of to bolster that, to convince him that I loved him & glancing at other people was normal, but to no avail. He is also a drinker and that made it worse. I really don't think there is ANYTHING you can do to make your man feel secure. It's something he has to develop inside on his own without you. Ask yourself-do you want to be with someone the rest of your life that badgers you constantly about your faithfulness? The horrible things he says? Is that really love?Do you think you should be his doormat? It gets really old. I think you deserve better, but YOU have to believe that. I finally did and left the man after 5 years of roller coaster hell. But first I sat down & told him exactly how I felt & why I was leaving. All he said was "Well, when you change come on back." He was just using me as an excuse not to change or grow up. Is that what your man is doing to you with all his games? Only you can decide. I can't nor won't tell you what to do. And I certainly wish you all the best with whatever you decide.
2006-08-31 18:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by girlfriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice also is to get rid of him, his being in jail is not a good thing especially to your reputation. In jail you cant talk to him when you like go on dates and spend time as normal couples do. Go on live your life to the fullest without him.
2006-08-31 15:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by Joyann R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good choice for a soul-mate I mean cell mate. WAKE UP-DUMP the felon and move on-FAST-Do you really want a controlling convict-what's he in for assault or child abuse?
2006-08-31 15:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋