We've been dating for 3 months. He insists he is 42. He is actually 52. The age isn't the problem. The fact that he lies about it is. His friends and family members have told me his age, yet he denies this.
2006-08-31 07:50:58 · 21 answers · asked by Danette G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he probably feels insecure cause your much younger then him---guys are sort of more vain about certain things then we are-----maybe he thinks if he admits his true age, that youll think hes to old for you....................
2006-08-31 07:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by darkangel1111 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just break it off and tell him that's why. There's no reason to lie about something small, he's probably lying about more, or will lie. I had the same issue, but I was 19 and the guy was 36. He said he was 30, which was still a bit old, but it wasnt going anywhere and I had agreed to the date before I thought he was 30, he looked to be in his 20's. As soon as I found out he was actually 36, I asked if there was anything he wanted to come clean about. He of course said no. I gave him one more chance, anythin gyou said that wasnt true? He again said no. So I told him that I knew he was 36 and didnt want to start a relationship with someone who lies and I saw no point in continuing any further.
2006-08-31 15:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you choose to continue your relationship with this man, be very careful. If he has the ability to lie about his age - what else has he or will he lie about? If he cant be honest about the little things, then how can you expect him to be honest with the big things? You dont really want to spend the rest of your life wondering if each thing he says is another lie. I married a guy who couldnt tell the truth to save his life, and each day was more horrible than the last. It's hard to decipher the truth from a lie. And people who arent honest can never really open up to you and let you get to know them for who they really are. You're only allowed to know the person they're pretending to be.
2006-08-31 15:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by missie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how u feel but do give him a chance to explain. The best person to verify the age is he himself. So talk to him and verify with documents or whatever. If he is truthful , then u need not apologise but understand the power of love but if he has lied then there must be a deep thought or deadly reason for him to do so. So find out why before u decide on the next course of action
2006-08-31 15:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by lanks20032003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a problem with age. If this is his ONLY fault, I would say, if you enjoy the man, continue with the relationship. If this really bothers you that he can't admit his age, then I would suggest that since you are still early in the relationship you cut the ties and move on. I don't think lying about your age means that he is lying about other things, this is a hard subject for middle age men to get a handle on...give him the benefit of the doubt or move on..it is your call.
2006-08-31 14:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by sewshawn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. Openness and honest is core to any successful relationship. You need to feel comfortable sharing with him things that bother you and he needs to be honest with you so that you can have a trust based relationship. No one wants to be caught in a lie, and maybe he's embarrassed about what he told you or why, but you need to get to the bottom of it and decide if you are comfortable being in a relationship with a man who lies to you in these circumstances. Odds are, if the same emotional pressures come up for him, he'll lie again so you need to determine if you can accept that.
2006-08-31 14:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Matthew L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just confront him on it, he will, of course deny it again, it's a man thing. The just ask him why his family would tell you his real age "are they lying too"??. If he going to lie about something so small and petty, what else is he going to lie about? Then the rest is up to you..but once a liar, always a liar
2006-08-31 14:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by hipergirl22 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not good he has started the relationship out on lies! Dr. Phil says, "a leopoard doesn't change his spots". He is still denying it even after he knows you've been told. Why waste your time with a person you can't trust...especially so early in the relationship!? Plus, at his age, he should know better!
2006-08-31 14:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by chillpillak 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him he should be more honest but make sure you have proof that he is lying and also if he makes you happy who cares how old he is however he should respect you enought to tell you the truth i am only 16 years old i thought i was dateing a guy my age and turns out he was 10 years older then me so i know how it feels
2006-08-31 14:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First ask him: is Why ? and tell him:"not to be embarrassed. Since you wont be leaving him." This is now a FACT, and is not opened to discussion. Then, is are there any other things/lies that he may want to tell you right the hell now ?
2006-08-31 14:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would be real mad about it. I think I would just let him know that I know his true age and wonder why he lied about it. I assume maybe he felt you wouldn't want him if he told you he was 52.
2006-08-31 14:53:37 · answer #11 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋