My husband watches porn and when I catch him he lies about it. We fight constantly about this. He says it's not about me, it's just a guy thing but when we aren't having sex and he's getting off to porn how can I not take it personal. He got so mad he destroyed the computer. Now he is talking about getting another one. I feel like my feelings don't even matter. What's wrong with me, I know I am a beautiful woman but he's rather look at porn than me. I don't want to leave him, but I just can't take this..
2006-08-31 07:04:44 · 43 answers · asked by faith 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do watch it with him, wear the slutty outfits, I am not a prude, it's just we have sex maybe 1 every two weeks and he's getting off atleast once a day! Come on
2006-08-31 07:26:37 · update #1
Gosh...let him have his porn. Why would you care??
If he is giving you what you need, why can't he do what he wants. You sound a bit too controlling. My husband loves porn, and I think it is healthy. Try watching it with him.
2006-08-31 07:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 8⤋
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2016-07-18 01:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Martha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I laugh when I read this only because I am reading a story about my life. My husband and I have gone through the exact same thing. Now we have no computer. Except the his company laptop. Which his says he can not access that stuff but has. And as of 2 days ago I found some pics. When you click on the Start menu then go to documents Boom there they are and I r-clicked and found details that shows it was created Aug 28. Isn't that funny. So I have not confronted. I am trying to think is it really worth it or not. I am exhausted from argueing and the next thing that will happen is we will no longer be together. This is a tough decision. I still don't know what to do. I only know that if it bother's you to the point you are UNHAPPY then let him know it is either you or the porn. And stick to it. Leave him and see what happens..... Good luck Let me know how it turns out.
2006-08-31 07:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some of you people are dumb no it's not a guy thing every man is different some guys like it and some don't nothing is wrong with you your man just needs help he's sick in the head any man willing to look at porn rather than their wife doesn't need to be married means their not satisfied with who their with it doesn't mean your ugly or anything like that just means he wasn't ready for marriage he still has thoughts about other women we get married to be committed and be with that person and love that person I would get rid of him I wouldn't be with a sicko if I were you I would tell him to either be with me or leave that stuff isn't right my husband and I been married for 4 years he isn't into porn and neither am I we have a great life together we don't think about anyone else and neither should your husband you need to find better who wants to be married to a liar and a man who has to watch porn to get his jollies??? I know I sures hell wouldn't I am thankful the kind of marriage I have
2006-08-31 07:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he "addicted" to porn (i.e., he actually forgoes other pleasures and responsibilities in order to watch porn)? If so, he has a problem, and needs to admit it and get help. Fighting with him about is useless, and will only make him defensive. Try talking to him without accusing him, be understanding.
But if he simply likes to watch porn every once in a while, and you're doing everything to catch him in the act, and then get on his case about it - back off. I'm sure he gives you a break when it comes to some of your weaknesses. Give him a break on this one, and give the man some privacy. Tell him it offends you, and ask him to be more discreet. Otherwise, you might as well go searching for a guy who doesn't like porn... I'm afraid, your search might be a long one. Good luck.
2006-08-31 07:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can only speak for myself but i know i look at porn to see
things i wouldn't get from my wife and that not allot because my
wife will pick up things from the porn we watch and is willing to give me anything that i desire and we get off every night even if we just watch each other masterbate.
So if you both are only having sex once every two weeks that will
place a mans focus on all he is missing out on and chances are
he is feeling the same way you are,my suggestion to you is to
talk it out and try to find some common ground before you lose each other.
Don't let something simple like this destroy a good relationship.
2006-08-31 16:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by BLINK W 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One time I was online and typing in a website and a porn thing came up. So I checked the history and found all sorts of porn. I absolutely flipped out. I don't understand why in the world they would want to look at something and **** off than be with a real woman.
I was mad because I am pregnant and if you dont' think I am pretty pregnant oh well. YOu got me like this, and that doesn't mean you can go get off to other women.
I called him on it and of course he denied it but I just let him know that I check and if I find out thats it I'm done. I don't think it is a guy thing. I say if you want to look at other women naked and get off to it then you would cheat on me. There is no reason for it.
2006-08-31 07:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, I was in a previous relationship regarding this issue. I went to a counselor and she told me my bf was addicted to sex. She also said she has had a zero% success rate when counseling sex addicts. He is treating you disrespectful and this isn't much different than cheating! Do not blame yourself...sometimes it doesn't matter how beautiful or wonderful you are...the majority of men are never satisfied with what they have! This is HIS problem, not yours! It's disrespectful! If he really loves you, he will respect how you feel! I watch Dr. Phil a lot, and you should put it plain and clear to your Husband....stop or your out! It's not an option, unless you are okay with him cheating...because that's what it is. I'm sorry you are going through this and I really hope you can work it out. From what you have said though, he is not willing to accept he has a problem, and until he does, you aren't going to be able to work it out. I don't know...it's not good. Just don't be down on yourself. I know how you feel, I've been there...there is no easy way.
2006-08-31 07:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by chillpillak 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should leave him... he's obviously got issues...
unless you both can sit down and talk... I think it's a lost cause.. but the fact that he's lying to you... I think it's wrong...
and to reassure you.. no.. porn it's not about a woman.. a lot of men just like to watch it... and it's hard for women to understand that a guy doesn't get turned on or doesn't desire all these porn stars.. - talk to him.. ask him to explain to you why.. to make you understand.. if he loves you.. it shouldn't be a problem
2006-08-31 07:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man he sounds like me. He is a pornaholic. Since he rather jacks off then have sex with you, its a problem. I usually watch porn after sex and then jack off again. I would advise you to give him a choice between porn and you. If he chooses porn over you then its time for a change or a divorce. He obviously just needs his hand.
2006-08-31 07:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by Solja Boi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't trust men that are addicted to porn. I dated for a long time a man who liked porn how you described and he never wanted to have sex with me - and it was a disaster. He ended up cheating on me - even though I was willing and ready anytime he wanted it and was alot younger and better looking at the time.... Looks has nothing to do with it... These guys are addicted to perversion and having sex with their wife or girlfriend is too 'normal' for them. So, eventually they cheat because it is wrong and they are attracted to that naughty/perverse feeling it gives them....
Plus I believe there are two kinds of men 1. the man who loves himself and can't love you. and 2. a man who can love a woman heart, soul, and body.
I'm sorry to hear about this... I'd start looking for a real men - because that other person who answered is right. Real men don't NEED porn... Good luck...
2006-08-31 07:14:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋