I think i have PostPartum Depression, I cry all the time, i feel like i am not a good mother?

Question

I feel like a failure, I am also dealing with the loss of father two months ago. I feel like i have no one to talk to, my hubby believes that PPD does not exist, so i can't tell him that I am depressed and I feel like if i talk to my doc that she think i am bad mother. I am having a hard time being a new mom. this should be a happy time , but i am just so sad. My Baby is only 4 weeks. i am just so frustrated with everything. where should i get help, my ob?

I also yell at my hubby for no reason or stupid reason, I just have so many mood swings, i don't know what to do, If i get help i think i might have to hide it from my hubby

Answer 1

Of course it's real. And almost everyone who has a baby has some type of it. Some people are just much worse than others.

Your OB will be glad to talk to you. And may prescribe medicine to help you, if you're willing to try that. There are antidepressants you can safely take while breast feeding. Knowing that you need help is a sign that you are a good mother, not a bad one. PPD is the most common post partum complication.

If you don't feel comfortable talking to your doctor, you can call the nurses at the hospital where you delivered. They will be happy to talk to you. Ultimately, they're going to tell you to see your OB, but they will talk to you. Sometimes it's easier to talk to a total stranger.

Answer 2

PPD does happen and it is very real.You should talk to your doctor,she will not think of you as a bad mother she is a doctor and can give you the help you need.Some mothers have this so bad that they have to take medicine for it for a little while.If you will not talk to your doctor they should have a hotline # in your area that you can call.This is confidential.You relly should be able to talk to your husband about this,i am sorry he does'nt understand.This is serious and can be very dangerous.Get all the information you can and then try sharing it w/him.Please let someone help you many more women than you could ever imagine go through this.Call a counselor that deals W/this stuff.Most importantly you really need to tell your doc.that what she is for.And if it is a women she will understand.PPD does not mean you r a bad mother by any means.Your body is going through hormonal changes after just carring a baby fotr 9 mths...

Answer 3

You are not a failure. And despite what that crackpot Tom Cruise says, postpartum does exist and is very real; my wife and other close friends have definitely gone through post-birth blues as the hormones are coursing through your system. In fact, it's even worse when you are an intelligent woman and you KNOW this condition exists, yet you still can't do anything about it.

Don't worry, it passes and you will feel fine. Being a new mom is a happy time, but the fact of the matter is it's really, really exhausting, compounded by the fact that your hormones are going nuts. But don't give up, you should be getting over the hump in the next four weeks (from the hormones at least--the exhausting part has continued to occur for both me and my wife for 18 months now!).

You should try and find some moms groups in your area that can help you find some communal support, as your condition is real and it will pass. And don't worry, you're probably a great mom too. Hopefully your husband will sympathize with this over time as well.

Good luck, don't give up!

Answer 4

Please, now is the time to listen to your doctor and not your husband. It's hard for some men to realize that things like PPD exist. Your doctor deals with stuff like this EVERY day, and will not ever think that you are a bad mother.

It's normal to feel overwhelmed and frustrated and sad after the birth of your baby: you're extremely TIRED, and you've still got crazy hormones running around in your body. Some women get it worse, though, and really need to talk to their doctor about treatment.

Good luck to you, and your are NOT a bad mom!

Answer 5

Dont give up and dont get upset, bad things always happen so make the best of what you have! You are a new mother and i sure that you are a great mom to your child. It is understandable that you are going throught a lot of stress right now but dont give up, im sure you are doing your best so keep it that way! No matter what you hubby believes in or doesnt, im sure he understands you and how you feel. Once again as the time goes by you will notice yourself that things arent as bad as you see them now. Never underesstimate yourself!!! and never say that you are a bad mother, i mean you're still trying and thats all matters. Plus i know a lot of new moms that went throught that after they have given the birth, so dont worry things will get better!
Try to spair some time just for yourself and treat yourself good you deserve it!
hope it helped you a bit
Good Luck!

Answer 6

YES! Ask your OB NOW for help. I was in the same boat. I tried to kill myself after having my daughter. PPD is very real, but you can easily take care of it.
You are normal, and you will be fine. Ask your doctor for advice/medication/whatever, and don't worry about what hubby thinks. You will be fine. And you are not a bad mother for seeking help.
These confusing and maddening feelings will go away. Just be there for your child, and hang in there! You can do this!

Answer 7

Talk to your doctor! She will understand completely and find the right solution for you. You aren't a bad mom, you just have a lot on your plate and a lot of crazy hormones brewing inside of you. Your doctor knows that.

I am sorry that your husband doesn't believe in PPD. If he doesn't like the idea of you receiving treatment for it, tell him that it's too bad, you're not helping anyone by trying to get through this alone.

You can educate yourself by researching on the internet. I know there are chat pages dedicated to moms having PPD. Good luck, those of us that have had babies are here for you!

Answer 8

My baby is 3 weeks old and I went thru some of the same stuff. My ob put me on anti-depressants, and i feel so much better now, Im thinking more clearly, not having the mood swings, and I things dont get me so mad so easily any more

Answer 9

YOUR A GREAT MOM AND YOUR NOT A FAILUER!!! I had the same Problem i would cry because she was crying and i had no clue what to do and i went to my ob and she helped me so Go to your ob and she will help you and it will all get better. And i am sorry that you lost your father. But all things will get better and just watch the time flies fast my daughter is almost 1 and it's crazy!!! But Congradulatins on have the baby YOU ARE A GREAT MOM AND YOU ARE DOING A WONDEFULL JOB!!!!

Answer 10

my boyfriend doesnt believe in any type of depression and thats hard because it runs in my family and sometimes i feel depressed. i was frustrated with my new born son a while back and i was that way because i was exhausted, i didnt know how to handle myself. my boyfriend worked and i stayed home all day with my son and it was driving me nuts. up all night, every 2 hours, that really effects the way you function. once i got the chance to step away for a few it made me feel so much better. after he was 6 months old i got a part time job to have my time. now hes 4 years old and hes okay that i work. plus, since you just gave birth you arent back to your old self. new borns can wear you out. this is just my advise to you. call and talk to your ob and see what advise they have. i hope that helps.

i was frustrated so bad that i would clinch my fists and want to scream. try squeezing a pillow