I began dating this women several months ago...?

Question

We became very close, very fast. found out 2 months she was pregnant. a few weeks ago, she told me she did not want to be in a relationship. We still remain close and see each other almost everyday. However, earlier today she menntioned that she wasn't sure if she would want to get back into a relationship with me in the future. Before breaking up a few weeks ago, she expressed how much she wanted to have a family with me. Now she has done a complete 180. I do still want to be a family, and I have very strong feelings for her! Is there still hope? Thanks

Answer 1

is she pregnant or not?
if she is you will have a relationship with her, you both will be parents....
but, it is better if you DO NOT have a more personal relation, this is a woman who does not love you...

Answer 2

She may just be nervous about the whole family thing. The baby may bring out silent fears in her that may have been there before and she may even change her mind once the baby is born. if you do honestly have feelings for her, you should let her know and still be there for her as much as she'll let you. If you show her you are willing to stick it out, she will more than likely change her mind once the baby arrives. You should stay with it and try to show her what kind of a man you want to be for her, even though she may deny her feelings for you. At the same time, it may be those hormones that make her think it would be best if she doesn't stay with you because she feels deep down that you may not want the baby or that you may not be a good father. Either way, show her you care and you want the baby, she may change her mind in the end.

Answer 3

Do you know the reasons of her decisions? I was in her situtation before. I got pregnant, left him when I was a month preg. He felt more like a friend than someone I could see spending the rest of my life with. He was also lazy and did not seem excited about it. So, I had my reasons. And throughout the entire pregnancy, he never once asked about the baby or how I was doing, or if I needed anything. Then I met my husband, and showed my daughter all the love in the world, and we had another daughter all our own. But, if she does not want to be with you, there is really nothing you can do about it. Just ask her how she and baby is, go to doctor visits with her. Be part of your child's life, and if she tries to keep you away from baby, get a lawyer. Good luck! Maybe she will change her mind.....pregnant women are worse than p.m.s.ing women.

Answer 4

You can still be a parents and a family without being together. Being friends with a common goal of raising and loving your child is what is most important.
Though I do not know her circumstances for flopping back and forth like that. It could be hormonal...but tread lightly in case she's psycho. And in the case of she's playing you and someone else, may I suggest a paternity test before committing to raise the child if that matters to you. Some guys would just as much want to raise someone elses child as their own and there is nothing wrong with that.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

She is going through an emotional rollercoaster and she may not even know what she wants.
In the meantime, hang around and try not to be pushy but be there for her prenantal visits and the lamaze class. Tell her there is no pressure and that although you are hoping to be a family with her and the baby, you will take whatever you can get for now. I am sure you want to know everything about the baby whether you are with the mother or not. Also, let the mother know that she looks beautiful and that you are proud of her and that you understand that this may be a tough time for her.

Document everything in case she doesn't want you in her and the child's life after it is born to show that you have been active and plan to continue to be active. Even is she doesn't want you around you have rights as a father.

Be a good father and be around as much as possible especially after the birth and hold your baby, feed it and bond with it. If you do not consistently see your baby he/she will forget you and you will have to rebuild the bond each time. Just be prepared and cautious and log everything and visit your county courthouse to inform yourself of the steps to take to file for paternity, file for parenting time, etc.

Good luck.

Answer 6

It could be her hormones talking. There are days where I can't stand to look at my fiance let alone think about being with him the rest of my life. But those are just my hormones talking. I love him dearly and honestly can't imagine being without him.

I suggest talking to her about it to find out why she doesn't want to be a family. But if she says she doesn't feel the same toward you as you do to her, then there's not much you can do. Just remember that no matter what you need to be there for your child. It's the only one that matters now. If you can't get over your feelings after she's said no, then seek counseling. They should be able to help you work through your feelings and get you to move on. Good luck.

Answer 7

If she is pregnant she is going through a lot of hormonal changes, not to mention the realities of becoming a mother.
This might not be the best time to try to pressure her into a decision in either direction.
It might be better to wait a couple of months after the baby comes and let her adjust to that new facet of life first.
Then a discussion about a 'family' future should definately be addressed.

Answer 8

It worked for Ross and Rachel!

Answer 9

relationship therapy would probably be a goer goodluck

Answer 10

Ditch that psycho, sounds like your not her only guy.