I was friends with two girls who recently burned me. In a sense I was a sucker to have trusted them I would do everthing for them. I think of revenge but is it justified or should I just leave it alone and move on.
2006-08-31 06:58:47 · 17 answers · asked by Nox-Wolf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let me ask you a question,have you ever heard what comes around goes around? Others call it karma,but they will get theirs. Revenge is for the easily angered and often will backfire on you. Being patient and waiting for theirs to come around is for the wise and a lot more fun to watch those around you get their paybacks ten fold.
2006-08-31 07:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by tjoe1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion revenge is never justified; although the hurt and anger you are feeling right now is justified. Acknowledge that, learn from your experience and yes, let it go and move on. Rise above it by forgiving; you'll be a better person for it. Because the truth about revenge is, whatever satisfaction you think you may receive from it at the time is very short-lived; and you'll probably end up feeling bad about it. Forgiveness, on the other hand, stays with you always, brings your even greater satisfaction, & puts you firmly on the road to maturity. Remember this, to hurt you this way, those two girls were never your friends; so leave them in your dust!
2006-08-31 08:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by Scottie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you were stupid enough to trust them. Don't think about justified in the sense of whether they deserved it. Think about benefit.
The benefits of revenge could be:
Discourages the repitition of the unwanted action/behaviour.
Sets a precedent of, "don't mess with me or you will regret it", which also lowers the chance of them doing it again.
Makes them think about the consequences of their actions.
Detriments:
Get caught, you're ******.
Encourages them to seek revenge on you, leading to a contest of endurance.
Makes them dislike you more than they did before.
Pulls public opinion in their favor.
The first thing about revenge is that you need to pull it off without getting caught, but with them knowing it was you. That is really hard.
Why don't you tell them, away from the crowds, exactly what they did that you didn't like, and how it made you feel?
It may sound like bullshit, but the worst case scenario is them laughing at you.
2006-08-31 07:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by thezeus18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is never a good idea, it's a waste of time. You should spend your time doing something positive not negative. Just leave it alone and move on.
2006-08-31 07:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by horrorfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a little anonymous revenge never hurt anyone. Its best to get the anger out now and laugh it off so you can let it go, than try to hold it back and build up. remember to wait a little bit and plan your attack. Make sure to cover your tracks and leave no witnesses.
2006-08-31 07:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by Rae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bigger person would walk away and forgive them...but I fight against my own mind everyday when I desparately want to take revenge. I come up with some great ideas too.
2006-08-31 07:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by splitshell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you seek revenge dig two graves.
2006-08-31 07:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by bob f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it alone and move on, they will get what is coming to them, what goes around comes around, so why stoop to their level. Be the bigger person and let it go, and someday they will get theirs.
2006-08-31 07:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave it alone and move on b/c if u sink to there levl it is just showing them that they got u to their level and they can bring u down when u can bypass it and be the better person adn they will leave u alone.
2006-08-31 07:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by mom4dafirst time Oct 7thGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, of course you opt to experience vindicated while somebody hurts you, yet an eye fixed for an eye fixed isn't a thank you to bypass. Karma is actual and while you're desperate to get somebody back, it will be a vicious cycle. you could no longer continuously get human beings back. it could make you experience extra helpful, even nonetheless it won't remedy something or erase the wear and tear or harm you have experienced. i think of sometimes you purely might desire to enable it bypass. human beings do no longer destroy out with issues. it would desire to look like it, yet they do no longer. in basic terms have faith that throughout time, that individual pays for what they have executed and you will take a seat back and watch and say, "Ha ha ha-ha-ha!! Nanie, Nanie, boo boo!" EDIT: i think "vengeance is mine, saith the Lord." i think that He can get human beings back much extra helpful than we are able to, and he does. I have faith that. It would not recommend you're doormat. You communicate up for your self, and bypass away it at that. If that individual keeps being merciless to you, if it have been ME, i might act as they did no longer exist. in the event that they tried to communicate to me, i might ignore approximately them. in the event that they asked me why i did no longer respond, i might say, "because of the fact which you manage me like crap and fairly anticipate me to communicate to you? you got the incorrect one". i became actually in basic terms in a undertaking in basic terms like that. combat with your words, yet do no longer yell and act a fool and don't enable your self to look intimidated.
2016-11-06 03:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋