I am 19 and 4 1/2 months pregnant. Me andmy boyfriend have lived together for 7 months. Is their any questions I should ask him before we break up like Do you wanna be there for the birth? Do you wish to see him? ETC. Because I know when we break he will probaly never call or anything.
2006-08-31 06:58:46 · 16 answers · asked by expecting_1_31_2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He just called I guess he still loves me.
2006-08-31 08:09:17 · update #1
too bad your 4.5 months preg with this idiots child, you need to decide what path you want to take... You need to be your own person.. you can raise the child alone but I would leave your township for a while to sort it all out.
2006-08-31 07:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by sinneragain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though your baby is not here your still responsible for his well being .You are a mother first and and your child will be first NO MATTER YOU,WHO OR WHAT...so don't worry about your boyfriend. I am the first to tell you that it is very important for your child to have his father in his life he will need him and want him there. The best thing to do is ask him what his plans are,calmly don't force him don't start crying,what ever he answers let it be and go on, trust me he's going to want to know about the baby, so he will come around, and if he doesn't, you don't want a person like him in your child's life,,HE'S NOT MAN ENOUGH TO BE A FATHER . And if just wants to be there for the baby let him as long as he's a good dad and is responsible with him ,So if he's ther just for him be happy that he takes care of his child and try to keep the peace with him. By the way i had my son when i was 17 yrs old and i love him more then anything in this world the sperm doner never wanted anything to do with him i do the best for him,because it's only about him now, I'm very lucky that i have such a big family and lots of brothers that do cool guy stuff with him..(but i know he still needs and wants a dad) GOOD LUCK,,,and love your baby , he's the only person that will still talk to you and call you even when your mad at each other. REMEMBER UNCONDITIONAL LOVE..by the way my son is 13 yrs old now. He's the best thing that has happen to me ,and also, things happen for a reason think about it and don't ever forget about it.
2006-08-31 15:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by less 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through the same thing though I was 16. Get all of his family history for medeical reasons. Take some time apart let each of you refind yourselves. Write a letter to him it's a little more easier to get answers that way. There is two things that you need to think about. Do you want a man who will pay childsupport and never see his offspring, most the time they do niether. If he want's no contact with the infant have him sign his rights away may sound mean but when you find a man who loves you and your child and you plan to stay together for a long time them he can adopt your child it's alot better that way, then the child knows that he is loved and cared for and doesn't think that his really daddy doesn't love him. Also never tell the child that his real daddy didn't want him just let him know that he wasn't ready to have a baby and he did what was best for the child. I can go on and on with this becasue of personal exsperience nothing means more to a child than knowing he/she is cared for and loved, they need alot of security, they depend on you to make them safe. Your 19 I was 16 and went through this it was the hardest thing to do, but my son is now ten I have a great husband who loved him as his own. Always keep your child interest before your. If you need anyone to talk to email me, there is nothing like having a support sytem.
2006-08-31 14:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAMN MA good luck. Being 19 is hard enough but now ur a mother. Never mind what he's going to do. What r U going to do? If it was someway your fault that u two argued then let him know that it's your body's changing and you do not mean to hurt his feelings. Maybe you two can find someone that knows the 2 of you to help out and c all three sides of the picture.
2006-08-31 14:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by dlittlz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the whole situation, but it would have helped my guy out if him and his ex had hashed out details before the birth of their child.... I would ask him a. if he plans to visit/if he wants visitation b. does he want to be there for upcomming dr. appointments c. Does he want to be notified when you go into labor. d. what kind of monetary support is he offering (remind him that child support is fairly pricey if you take him to court) e. who's last name will the baby take f. how will the two of you handle future boyfriend/girlfriend arrangements.. (i.e. you want to meet with the girl before he has her around your child... etc)
I would also discuss that it's no longer about you or him it's about your child. Now, if he agrees and then doesn't follow through.. get child support and get on with your family's life
2006-08-31 14:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh mate, I'm really sorry to hear that. I wouldn't dare give you advice cos I wouldn't know where to start but there are professional councellors for this sort of thing. I suggest you find your local one and ask them for advice. If it's the boyfriend's baby then take him with you as the baby is as much his responsibility as he is yours.
2006-08-31 14:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by alan_mesfin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a QUESTION, its what he has to do. you did fuc* yourself he help you. so you have to tell him that he has to help with his baby or you can go to court and make him be there for the baby. i know taking care of a baby is hard and being on your own but the baby needs two parents.
2006-08-31 14:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a wonder your guts dont fall out S L U T
2006-08-31 14:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Bob Onya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Frist off. if hes leaveing you, dont have a baby for him. Think about if you want the baby or not.
If you want him/her. Then ask him questions. But think about it frist. ALOT. no man is worth ruining your life for...
2006-08-31 14:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by heart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
jus ask him thing that pertain to the baby, explain to him how your baby is gonna need a father
2006-08-31 14:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by imHereAskMe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋