(i.e. Santa, Easter bunny, tooth fairy) If so please state why and if not explain why.
2006-08-31 06:58:34 · 18 answers · asked by Doll eyez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no, but give them something real to believe in. To a child who found out you lied thinks it's OK to lie. Try some real time hero like Joan of ark. Some one who has a good impact and is not a let down to their imagination. It will show them honesty is the best policy.
2006-08-31 07:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by really???? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Santa is not a lie. He, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy are part of the world children live in, part enchanted, part real. Have you ever stood in your front yard with a toddler in your arms, looking up at the stars to see if you can spot Santa flying by? That's real. The arguments, reasoning and explanation you look for are lies.
2006-08-31 14:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by suki's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to keep a child young as long as possible. So called lies are really only 'fibs' that stimulate a child's mind and allows them to figure things out for themselves. For you to say 'there is no Santa' is immediate and definitive. The child accepts that. However, if you do not tell the child such a thing, the child's mind will figure it out one way or another without your help. In the meantime, the child is banking some of the most wonderful and beautiful memories of his/her life. As I type, I can remember 60 years ago sitting up in bed on Christmas Eve trying to stay awake so I could speak to Santa. A wonderful memory that still warms my heart. Easter Bunny, tooth fairy, Jack and the Beanstalk, The three bears, some of them quite horror stories stimulate the child's imagination again and they in time will figure it out without your help. So please, I beg of you, leave them their memories. If you are afraid that you are telling a 'lie' which is a sin, I can assure you that I will willing pay any punishment that God may impose on your behalf. God is good and forgiving, I have my faith in him. Take care............
2006-08-31 14:08:58 · answer #3 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it, Santa, the Easter Bunny and the tooth fairy are all just fun games that parents play with their kids. It doesn't harm anyone. It's all done in fun.
2006-08-31 14:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in lying to children. Withholding information is acceptable (i.e. a simple "your dog's gone to doggy heaven" is much better than "your dog got flattened in the back wheel of a semi truck and dad's picking it's guts off the road") I know my parents never led me to believe there was a santa or an easter bunny.... and somehow I managed to survive. But, they never really made it a point to deny them either.... they went along with it... BUT at christmas and easter they made sure instead of thanking santa for the gifts that i thanked the person that actually gave it to me.....
2006-08-31 14:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider them "white lies" or "fabrications" to make you feel better. I don't think children are hurt by being told about Santa or Tooth Fairy and they sure do enjoy believing in them. They are only kids once so let them have fun. They will find out soon enough so let them enjoy.
No harm--No foul
2006-08-31 14:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by Mikey D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Santa, Easter bunny, tooth fairy....I wouldn't axactly consider "lies".... It's kind of like "magic"it's keeps the imagination alive, it's keeps them little. We, as adults know it's not real, but it keeps the little kids looking forward to something magical on those special occassions in their lives!
2006-08-31 14:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by lil_rowdy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about it? Looking back did you enjoy having something magical to believe in? Were you upset with your parents when you found out the truth, or did you understand the purpose of believing in something?
I, personally, don't look at these things as lies. We explain things to our children every day in a way they will understand. Our explanations aren't always accurate, but they are as close as we can get to keep it in terms they understand.
For instance, let's say my child's Father cheated on me & abandoned her. When my child asks about her Father, I woudln't be able to be honest with her, because she wouldn't understand. I would have to give her an explanation (true or not) that she would be capable of grasping.
At a young age, a child doesn't understand the point in a holiday. They don't understand why we are celebrating something, so we give them something they can understand so they too can celebrate.
2006-08-31 14:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by coolnessa8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends what it is. if you're hurtling into debt then don't tell them you are, just that you're a little short on money. i don't think Easter bunny, Santa, stuff like that is very good to lie about. kids just get crushed when you tell them.
2006-08-31 14:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by Invader Zim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I don't really see it as lying. I have 4 kids who believe in all of them. I think you only have a chance to believe in those kinds of things when you are a kid, and it is just so magical to them. I could not imagine my childhood without all of those things, would have been pretty boring.
2006-08-31 14:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by cksunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋