Would you leave your HUSBAND if he gambled a lot & had a bad history with it? Also, if he worked at a casino and refused to get another job? But everything else was great?
2006-08-31 06:54:51 · 13 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
definately not. However, I would be in control of the money and set up my own bank account. when it came to $ i would never trust that man.
2006-08-31 07:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by Colleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean that just depends on how bad it was. Is he putting you in debt and your losing things over it.
I would just explain to him how I felt and if he didn't take my feelings into consideration and at least make an effort then he doesnt care.
I would be upset with the gambling because you could be saving that money for other things. Kids college, house, car or just to save. Maybe a nother honeymoon.
If he can't handle working at a casino and not gambling then he needs to find another job.
2006-08-31 14:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check your bank accounts, and have your credit checked.
Gamblers get very good at hiding things to their spouses. Money is hidden in many different places. or (taken from different places).
Look at your credit report 1st. If you find somethings out of hand, have a 3rd party such as an accountant review your personal accounts. Have a PI do some investigation to see if money is hidden elsewhere.
If at that point you've found things you don't like take it to him with an ultimatum, go to gambling Treatment and GA or leave. have the lawyer ready divorce papers, and ready to serve him. If he goes to treatment he needs to be accountable to you for every dime.
He needs to get out of the business if he is tempted by it.
2006-08-31 14:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gambling is highly addictive and can destroy everything around him, family friends, finances, love life, etc. If he's not willing to seek help, find another line of work then you'd be best off in the long run to distance your self from him romantically and file for divorce. It's sounds harsh but see my source below.
2006-08-31 14:06:30 · answer #4 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST ME! Everything else is NOT great. Chances are that if he is gambling he is also lying to you about it. It's just the nature of the "disease" (addiction). He MAY be lying to you about other things too. I have dealt with addiction in my husband also. Keep your eyes open. Don't let ANYTHING slide. If you have a suspicion, check up on it!
I'm not telling you to leave your husband. Only YOU can make that decision. Just watch out for yourself.
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-08-31 14:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Renee D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. Try to get him to go to a therapist. Tell him it's for his own good and good for the marriage. Talk to him about more than likely unpaid bills will start to pile, you may start loosing financed stuff if there isn't enough money to pay, etc, etc etc. Let him know how bad it can get if his problem continues. Talking through your problems is the best way to go. I'm sure he loves you dearly, being newly weds and such. Get him to take a good look at what the future may bring if he doesn't stop asap.
Good luck. and Best Wishes
2006-08-31 14:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you divorce- try counseling. It can work wonders. There are counselors that deal specifically with gambling problems- for support you can go with him.
2006-08-31 14:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to badger you about, "Did you know about before..." You are blinded by love before and your finances weren't tied together. Give him an allowance. I know it sounds horrible and he won't like it, but if you give him so much and he has do depend on that for his meals while at work and gas to get to work and so on he won't blow it and even if he does it woun't matter because it was only so much.
2006-08-31 14:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because those problems only get worse cause someday down the line he could start foing other things to pay for his habit. And by then it will be to late for you to get out ESPECAILLY if children are/might be in the picture its much harder with them but maybe if you could get him to see why you are so against it maybe he will changes his ways but i would watch out untill then.
2006-08-31 14:06:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I saw it beforehand, and was ok with it, it would make no sense to leave him. But if it's something that started up while we were married, and was affecting our marriage - yes, I would think about leaving if I couldn't imagine dealing with this long-term.
2006-08-31 14:05:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋