Here goes...............I work in finance - My mum is the finance manager and I am her assistant, soon I will be doing most of her job as our new director wants her to oversee everything and do other business things with him.
My friend is having a rubbish time at work and I said that there might be a job going at the place I work. Well there is a job and my mum said she can have the job if I want her to but she would be like my assistant.
My problem is I don't want our friendship to change and I don't want her coming in trying to take over my new job, do I let her have the job or tell her we can't take anyone on at the moment????
2006-08-31 06:46:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My mum said maybe start her off on a 3 month trial. Also I wouldn't be tell her what to do as such, more she would have her job outlined when she started.
2006-08-31 07:02:05 · update #1
Go with your professional judgment and common sense if you feel her personality will take over and try dominate your authority then NO! Don't be afraid tell her you feel like your working relationship will affect your friendship and you don't want to do that and if she is your real friend she will respect your decision.This seems to be a test of your friendship don't ignore this situation your being elevated in prosperity and its important for you to be around real people who are true to you and themselves be careful-Many blessings to you and keep your eyes open
2006-08-31 07:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by phoxy phat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooooo!!!!! You can only have one type of relationship with anyone at a time. You have to be either boss or mate, the two don't mix. Mates help each other out. True. But As her boss you'll expect her to work to the best of her ability and she'll expect special treatment as a mate. Sooner or late one will disappoint the other. You will fall out, even if she doesn't pinch your new job for herself, which would be despicable. When you see her out of work you'll keep ending up talking about work and if you have fallen out you won't be able to let off steam to your mutual friends cos they'll tell her all about what you said....
2006-08-31 07:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by Deep Heat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mix business and pleasure hun, if you want to lose your friendship, then give her the job. Explain this to her though, don't make some lame excuse, just say you value her friendship too much to be her boss, and that she is talented enough to find a better job than the one on offer anyway.
2006-08-31 06:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by sukimitchell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no. I mean it's hard to have to lie to her but when it all boils down to it, it would more than likely be a big strain on your friendship.
There's always office politics and drama and if she's that close with you to work with you and be friends outside of work, it's just hard to do.
I would do my best to avoid working with a good friend for the same reason. What if she doesn't have a strong work ethic and doesn't work out and it relects on you. Just many things... it would be difficult.
2006-08-31 06:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her and say if u feel that her working with you is going to be a problem. It could be a little arkward with you being her friend and also be trying to be her boss as well, it may change your friendship and she may feel that she is not able to do what you ask her to do as her boss, she may feel that she can't take the fact that you are an authority figure she may feel like she can't cope with the fact that you are her boss.
2006-08-31 06:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by wattolass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the same chance a you would anyone else, but don't let your friendship get in the way of business. If she isn't the best fit, then let her know. Cause if she isn't the best, you will think of that everytime that you see her screw up on something.
Work is work, and friends are friends. I would keep it that way.
2006-08-31 06:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by raginite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Connections are the best way to get ahead in life. If this job is a step up from her previous, I say yes. We have to help those we know first and foremost. If your friendship is strong, it shouldn't matter. And if she comes in and does great, she will move up to your position and you will move up. That seems like a great trade to me.
2006-08-31 07:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Nina 2 Niña 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be very, very difficult for you to have to supervise your friend in the same office. I would advise against giving her the job, even though you have sympathy for her current situation.
Also, it may be illegal to not post the job and interview other applicants before making the hiring decision.
2006-08-31 06:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is my idea
you shouldn't take cuz sometime they will thinking about bad stuff at you.so just tell her that,that job doesn't need more member.
2006-08-31 06:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the best way to ruin a friendship!
2006-08-31 06:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by -------- 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋