Am I crazy to want to have twins?

Question

We've been married 5 years and Ive been dreaming for sometime now about having kids- wanted twins all my life! Isnt it a lot of hard work? And can i even vaguely dream about having a career after that say within a year?I am in the software programming field. Any pointers anyone?

Actually my dads 3 sisters had a pair of twins each! So it does run in the family, but on my dads side and I believe it has to be in ur Mothers side of the family to have a better chance(1 in 10) of having twins rather than the general likelihood of 1 in 100. So I probably wont have them, but what the heck, a girl can dream cant she! :-)

Answer 1

No not at all. Although having twins is more trying at first there is so many benefits to it such as:
-You get a lot more attention from your doctor and tons more ultrasounds and such.
-You only have to go through pregnancy once for 2 kids
-It is way more fun telling people about them and seeing their responses.

Other than a slightly higher cost with diapers and wipes twins are not as bad as people think. You don't even need double everything which is a huge lie you are told. You have to get them on the same schedule and then it isn't much different than having one. Having more than 2 would be more difficult.

As for having a career I am keeping mine as an engineer and my work is allowing me to work at home part time and then in the office part time. Many child care places give you a discount on multiples because they are getting double the business from one person.

Answer 2

I have 5 children, the youngest being 2 year old twin boys. Since I already had 3 kids, I thought that having twins wouldn't be too hard. Boy was I wrong!! Twins are so much fun but soooo much work! I don't think I slept for the first 4 months!!! But first, there was the NICU (Neborn Intensive Care Unit) stay. That was tough. I am a stay at home mom and I really admire those moms who habe multiplies and still have a full time job. As far as pointers, well, be prepared. You never know what you may get! GL!

Answer 3

I've always wanted twin boys! I dont think you are crazy at all, my grandmother had twins, my mom and aunt, and I heard it skips a generation, maybe I'll get lucky...I dont know. The only downside to have twins now would be that my husband is in the Army and I'm due Feb. 04, 07, he is supposed to deploy late Jan or early Feb of 07...I think he'll get to be here for the birth I just wonder how hard it will be taking care of both alone, since I dont know many people here...I plan to be a stay at home mom, I talked it over with my husband and he thought it was great that I want to stay at home with my baby(ies). I know it is possible to just put them in daycare, but I'm so excited about this pregnancy I couldn't leave them with someone else. You could always go back to work when they get into pre-k or so.My mom thinks I'm crazy for hoping I have twins this time around since he'll be gone for a year, but I'll be happy no matter what, no stress could take away the happieness of having a baby (or more)!

Answer 4

First off, please disregard mdzevolvedda... , because she obviously has no idea what she's talking about. Fraternal twins (as I think you already know, based on your additional info) would need to run on your side of the family, not your husbands. Every single woman in your husbands family may give birth to twins, and they you wouldn't. Unless it runs in your family.

Identical twins are spontaneous, and don't run in families.

I don't know if I'd go so far as to say you could have a career within a year, but maybe a job. I don't think I'd try to work out of the home (well, depending on what the job was), because I know that I'd be distracted too easily, or the kids would get upset because I'd be there, but not *there*, if that makes sense to you.

I would love to have twins! People used to tell me that, oh, after I have my first baby, I'll be so glad that he wasn't twins, but I did have a baby, and I'm still wishing that the next pregnancy will be twins. It's very doubtful, in my case, because twins don't run in my family. There has been one set of twins and one set of triplets, but they were both due to fertility treatments.

Answer 5

Well, I can't tell you how it is to have twins, but my children are 12 months apart. When my youngest was born I was getting up three or four times a night. 2 times with each kid usually. I twas rough. There were times that all I could think about was the moment that I laid them down to sleep. Now that they are 3 and 4 it is great. They always have someone to play with and are never bored. They are best friends. But, if you really want twins, think about not being able to go ANYWHERE for about 2 years. The first time I went to Wal Mart with all three of my kids right after my youngest was born I cried when I got to the car. I adjusted to it, but it was still hard. Good luck!

Answer 6

If twins run in your family or you are having invitro you may have twins [or better...]. That's not something you can control.

What you can control is when to bring a child into your marriage. You say you've waited 5 years. I suggest you work another few years and amass a substantial savings so that you can stay home and raise your child [or children] at least until they enter kindergarten. Why have a child if you plan to let someone else raise him/her/them?

If you must start your family now, at least find a way to work at home; in your field that is not a far-fetched idea.

If you think you must work because you already have money problems, children will not alleviate those problems but will exacerbate them. Start now to figure out how you can raise your own children before you bring them into the world.

Answer 7

I don't have kids yet so I don't have pointers, but I just wanted to say that I don't think you are crazy one bit. I have heard that twins are incredibly rewarding. Granted, they are double the work and it could be overwhleming I am sure. However, you only have to be pregnant once and go through labor once! That is always a plus! :) The twins would grow up to be as close as two people can be. I sometimes wonder what it would be like if there were another me on this earth. I think it would be awesome!

Best of luck to you and your husband!

Answer 8

I'd been married 15yrs when I found out I was pregnant. As old as I was I was thinking it would be great to have twins because that would probably be the only baby we'd ever have. I really hoped we'd have twins. Then after the baby came along a few months ago I was sooooo thankful I didn't have 2! Taking care of 1 was very difficult! No sleep, constantly feeding him, sterilzing water, washing bottles, no sleep, making formula, changing diapers, no sleep....... I can not imagine having to take care of 2!
God bless all you moms of twins!

Answer 9

It's normal to want to have twins. I felt the same way a couple years ago. However, twins are a lot of work and costly. If you don't plan to work after labor, it's not a bad idea. Unfortunately, you do not control whether you have one or two babies at the same time. If your parents or your husband's parents had twins, then you will have a higher chance of getting twins. Otherwise, you should expect to have one only.

Answer 10

I have 9 year old twin girls and it is the most amazing experience of my life. No, you aren't crazy to want twins, but you have to realize that you don't get to choose if you get one or three at a time. So don't get too set on the idea. Also, yes it is a lot of hard work, but so is one, so think long about your decision to have a child because it changes everything in your life.