I am not racist I would like to date a white Man BUT i find no white Man who is attractive to me and i would be turned on by. I have white, black people and many different races in my family and they all date out side of their race so why do i have such problems with it? I'M NOT A RACIST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-31 06:32:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Do not try to force yourself to be interested in something you are not attracted to. I feel the same way about black women, even though there have been some I was very much attracted to. On a whole however, I find that, if equal in all respects of appearance, dress, body shape, linguistic skills, etc., I would pick a white woman every time. Thus a black woman would have to be much more than an equal, for me to be interested in her.
I have questioned this preference many times, and the only thing I can come up with is that I must have some preconceived subconscious notions about black women, that even though I know are not true, turn me off towards them. These notions may have stemmed from jokes, or snide remarks, or actual observations of single incidences that I have somehow subconsciousy lumped into the whole of all black women.
And like you, I am not a racist. For as I mentioned, there have been black women in my past that I was very much attracted to, and was interested in, but either the timing wasn't right [two ships passing in the night, no time to stop], the circmstances weren't right [one or both of us was married, or otherwise attatched], or they just plain weren't interested in me.
I find nothing wrong with inter-racial marriages, but it is unlikely I will ever be in one of them. For I would probably settle for much less in a white woman, and there is no shortage of either race in the world.
Therefore don't press the issue. If it someday happens you become attracted to a white man, then so be it, but if it never happens, who cares? Be happy with what you're attracted to, not to what you wish you were attracted to.
2006-08-31 08:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem? Why are you stereo typing this?
If you are attracted to a certain type of guy for whatever reason as long as it's working for you & you're happy then why question the men you're not attracted to.
Seems like you're wasting precious time and energy concentrating on something that doesn't even matter.
Just live life don't worry about the "whys"
2006-08-31 13:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by paintressa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad about it. It is a subconscious thing. It reminds me of something I read about white mountaineers in Nepal. The locals guides and porters thought these guys smelled like dead bodies.
2006-08-31 19:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by flugelberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say i dont know what to tell you but i think ERIC I should get the 10 points. He is honest and mature and obviously thinks straight not like the other answers that you gotten.
2006-08-31 15:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just date black guys then.
2006-08-31 15:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bigot. Just saying "I'm not a racist" doesn't change the facts.
2006-09-01 03:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
analogy: a guy who doesn't want to date another guy is not necessary homophobic. Don't mistake discrimination with sexual attraction
2006-08-31 13:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by d.sinope 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋