Nosy/annoying ex mother in law!?

Question

Here it goes. I recently ended my relationship w/ my son's father, because of lies, cheating and his violent temper. it got to the point where he threw me in the floor once and one time was bout to hit me. Anyways, so now his mom is telling other people that it was my fault, that i was the jealous one and that i was no help to his son on top of other thigns, trying to make him look the victim. It annoys me that my ex would just start lying like that, and tell his mom and her spreading false rumors! I try not to let it go to me, but is frustrating. is like, should i defend myself or ignore them!

Answer 1

Ignore it. Don't sink to their level.

Answer 2

Ignore them.. I happen to have a great relationship with my ex mother in law but I know that a lot of men are "mama's boys" and no matter what, even if she really knows her son is wrong she would never admit to it. You know that you did the right thing so who cares what other people think.. I know it is probably very frustrating, but just be extra nice to her, smile at her like you dont care and that will make her soooo annoyed lol... then you can get the last laugh. Good luck.

Answer 3

I would just ignore them... I know that it is hard, but as long as you know the truth, don't worry about it... Eventually his and his mothers true colors will show in front of everyone....

Remember that he is miserable and he will do anything to make you the same way... The best way to get to someone is to be kind. "Killing them with kindness" is always the best way. Trust me it works. I've done it with my ex.... Because they are not getting the reaction they want, just upsets them even more...

It is also not good for your son to see the both of you going at each other. If he sees his father acting up and not you, he will see that his father is the one with the problem.... You need to try and make things and easy as possible for him, so that he is able to adjust, even if his father won't... He has to be your first and only priority, so save ALL your energy on him....

I also would suggest that if they live near by, think about moving and starting over....

GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!

Answer 4

My x mother in law was a very mean woman. She and her family believe everything my x says and he is very vindictive. Try to rise above it for your kids because in the end, the truth will be known. ANd those people that love you KNOW what kind of sh*t the x's are spreading. Dont worry about defending yourself either as the more they spew hate and ugliness the worse it makes them feel and look! People that know you, know. And those that judge you based on someone else's opinion arent worth your trouble. Be a good person. Karma is a b*tch and they'll get theirs. Hang tough!

Answer 5

My ex-mother in law tried to verbally abuse me towards the end of the relationship cause of a trivial reason. She called and started off so I just told her "I'm real busy, thanks for calling" and hung up. I was referred to as "the *itch" from that point on but I could care less. Make it real clear that the second bad mouthing of you in front of your child is done....visitation is over. File a show of cause and stipulate this.

This is not in your mind nor should you feel bad, this can actually emotionally damage a child so go for it. This lets them (and everyone else) know in writting that not only they are garbage but you are higher than them as you are using the legal system to protect yourself. Though they will probably say something like "can you believe the lies she told". THAT you should ignore.

Answer 6

You should ignore them...why on earth would it bother you? Honestly, who cares? You know the truth and thats all that matters...so does he. And when he treats the next woman like crap people are going to get suspicious. She is his mother, (not to mention the person who raised a lying, cheating, violent man) so of course she is going to be loyal to him. You are assuming that the people she is talking to don't realize that she is whacked and he's a jerk! Just because they are saying it doesn't mean anyone is going to believe it and who cares anyway. I mean if it was someone that was supposed to care about you and whose loyalty you should expect then I'd be bothered but this simply doesn't matter. Let it go, he's robbed you of enough of your life and you have spent enough emotional energy on him, your best revenge is not to let him have anymore, not one minute and not one tear! Good luck to you!

Answer 7

Ignore it. Eventually everyone will see the son for what he truly is (if they don't already). She sounds like she will always be trying to clean up his personal messes. Think how she will feel when everyone finds out she was lying for him. Two pathetic people, she raised a jerk and now she is defending him.

Answer 8

Please do you have your son??? Ignore them. When you go for custody of your child make sure that in the divorce paper they put in there that there will be no spousal verbal abuse in front of the child. Just care for him. Forget about the mother. She has nothing better to do. Not only that but it's her son, she will always believe him first. Don't waste your time on this petty crap. You have better things to do.

Answer 9

NO let sleeping dogs lay Mommas little puppy is going to remain that sweet little man even if he is the worlds biggest loser. You know the truth, and the truth will win where it counts,and much easier to live with

Answer 10

Ignore them, dont allow urself to get workup over frivolous gossips. Mother-in-laws are always like that whenever problems in a marriage arise. there's a saying"IGNORE THE ASSES AND LET THEM BRAY"

Answer 11

Ignore them. Don't even waste an ounce of energy with their stupid games. You don't need anyone's approval. The best thing to do is to show these people that you are not what she says you are.