getting close to having the baby hes acting just stupid again..like last nite i was struggling with getting the sheet on the bed and he was just watching me when i turned around n i was really havein a tuff time gettin it on the bed little things like that amn u women know what i mean help grrrrrrrty in advance
2006-08-31 06:22:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My husband is the same way. He just watches me do three things at once - even now after the baby is here. I think he's just used to watching me do it all. And, usually I don't mind juggling, lol.
But, when pg you need to ask him for help. I've asked my husband (in those situations) What are you looking at - come help me. Because, staring isn't going to help me get those sheets on.
I think sometimes they like watching us too. Like we are a different species. Or, maybe he is looking at your belly thinking OMG what is going to happen when this thing comes out! lol!!
Good luck hun!
2006-08-31 16:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him for help. Explain to him how hard it is for you to do things now and how tired you are or how tired you get just doing simple things. If he still doesn't get it, make him wear an empathy belly for a day or every evening when he gets home then make him do all the things you normally do, then maybe he'll realize what you are going through. Though not completely the same as being pregnant it would give him an idea of how hard it is to do things....
2006-08-31 13:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by CareBear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply explain to him the way hes acting is not helping. Remind him physically you need extra help at this point and would really appreciate his help and encouragement. I think sometimes men don't realize or they forget and over look the situation. Sometimes just pointing out in a direct way will help.
If you are having a really really hard time, I know my sister got help from the visitig nurses association while she was pregnant with her (twins) and help afterwards too. Good Luck
2006-08-31 13:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They don't know what to do. They have emotions like we do but they express themselves very differently. Men take pride in doing things by themselves, while women are more group oriented.
You have to express yourself in a way he would understand--clearly. No hinting, no assuming that he knows what to do. Explain it to him in, calm, plain old English. No "hormonally enhanced preg-o" outbursts. That will just make him feel more insecure.
Crying is always, OK, though. And if you want him to hold you while you are crying, just tell him so.
2006-08-31 13:35:20 · answer #4 · answered by MornGloryHM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shud just tell him how you feel and that its not just your baby and you could have some help so you can a rest once in a while and if he still doesnt help i suggest you dump him because no mans worth having if he wont even look after his own baby good luck x
Laura x
2006-08-31 13:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by mcrox_lauraxex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront your husband that you're having difficulties doing your regular chores. If he loves you, he will do everything for you. Make sure that you bring up the point that this is his baby and you're going through all this pain and weight gain for him. You need to make him feel guilty.
I always bring up every little thing to my husband and makes sure he does everything I say. Even after labor, we agreed that I will no longer have to clean the house or visit his family if I don't want to.
2006-08-31 13:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs Apple 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know how you get forgetful or even a bit ditzy when your pregnant? Well, sometimes men can have similar symptoms. Some men will gain weight right along with their pregnant spouses...some men even experience "baby blues" after the child is born. Perhaps this is the case with your husband. Things should get back to "normal" soon after the baby comes.
2006-08-31 13:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by Trixie 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it probably isn't that he is acting different than normal, It is probably that you are needing more help than normal and haven't communicated that to him. Remember that he isn't a mind reader, also the more pregnant a woman becomes, the more tired and hormonal, and in pain they become causing them to become less tolerant. Try talking to your husband, calmly, and really communicate that you are bigger now and less able to do all the things that you could before and that you need a little extra help
2006-08-31 13:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by sexyheater 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend did the same thing, but when our daughter was born (5 months ago) he has been the biggest help. He may just be scared and that is why he is stuck on stupid. My boyfriend and I fought constantly because of it (that and hormones), I would talk to him and see why he is being so stupid.
2006-08-31 13:57:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and ask your husband for help with things around the house as you are getting exhausted. Good Luck!
2006-08-31 13:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋