I know its common for the homoesexual community to lie about being married. Some will say they are married just to either sound cool or hide their gayness. This guy here named mac is doing that. he clicks on my profile and sends me messages that go right to my e-mail. I dont know why he privatly tells me he's gay but then in public acts as if he has a wife. What a loser. Just be yourself man. What do you guys think about liars?
2006-08-31 06:21:20 · 13 answers · asked by KarlJames 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm married but let me say this I understand where he's coming from, most of us who hide have been raised to hate our self's so much we hide. He must of felt he could open to you but seems to have been wrong :(
2006-08-31 06:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by Super 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
imagine being in a bar - any straight bar - and you get approached by a guy that thinks you're gay. you begin chattin and thinkin the next thing is gonna be gobble-gobble-gulp! suddenly another guy approaches you two and says something very unfriendly to you both. the guy splits and you're sittin there with the bill. you pay and - wanting no problems - get up to leave the bar. this other guy follows you outside and decides you need to be "cured" of you gayness and begins to punch your face into mush! what do you think of while on the way to the hospital? I say; if this guy wants to be str8 acting in public.. so be it! maybe you can simply come to some terms with him on this issue.
if someone asks me if I'm maried - which I am - I ask them "why do you want to know that?" issues - everybody has them!
2006-08-31 07:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some gays ARE married, either to their same sex partners or to opposite gender spouses.
Some choose to remain married to their opposite gender spouses for a number of reasons; familial responcibility, marriage benefits...etc.
Some are married in spirit or in fact to their same sex partners.
Marriage is a concept, a state of mind to many gay couples. I call my partner my "wife" on occassion because this denotes an air of perminancy. Moreso than mearly saying she's my partner, girlfriend or heaven forbid...Roommate.
I wear a wedding band in public. This sends a message that I'm NOT available and stops prying inquiries from some folks to whom I would have to explain my state of being to, otherwise.
Those who don't WANT to know that my partner is a woman simply assume I'm married to a man. I don't have to explain anything.
My feelings are "hey, they're the one's who are ASSUMING...and you KNOW what that does!"
2006-08-31 06:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by DEATH 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not common for "the homosexual community," it's common for selfish liars, and those come in all sexual orientations. I can't stand it.
Like just_ine, I wear wedding and engagement bands, let people think what they want on the bus or at the concert, and consider myself married to another woman.
2006-08-31 06:53:14 · answer #4 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
karljames,when you ask a question,theirs this little box with a check init and it says something about sending answers to your e-mail.....guy you need to read alto more questions in this section,you will find the gays and lesbian community is the same as every ones else,i am straight,and sorry to have to let you down,so far all your questions have been about my sexuality,I'm sorry I'm straight,maybe you should ask a question as to where you might find someone in you r area...and stop asking dumd questions in this section and then turn around and bash homosexuals with other questions....in other areas..and when are you going to ask a real question?
2006-08-31 06:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to be in his shoes to understand. I'm the same way for the most part when it comes to telling others. Being gay is no one's business but your own and your partners...Some don't like splatting it into people's faces.
2006-08-31 06:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to try and see where the person is coming from. Have they been hurt either mentally or physically from being "out"?
Sometimes past experiences make a person like they do. Sometimes it is just fear.
2006-08-31 06:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think people that lie are afraid deep down inside. They are afraid of everyone else knowing who they really are. They are people pleasers and care too much of what others will think of them. He needs to come to grips with himself, and be honest.
2006-08-31 06:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When society doesn't harass people for being themselves the kind of behavior you're talking about will end.
Until that time....get used to it.
2006-08-31 06:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i second that but he is afraid and you should respect the fact that he did end up telling you even though in private what he did was somewhat good he went through the first step he admited it
2006-08-31 06:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋