After getting back from my holiday, My best friend (Nearly17) has just told me she's 6 weeks pregnant, she and her boyfriend have decided they will keep the baby, could someone tell me what advice i can give her, and how can i help her out now or later on is there anything i can do for her?
2006-08-31 05:55:22 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
just be there for her
and when the baby comes, volunteer to babysit
2006-08-31 05:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exact same thing happened to my best friend in high school. Just being there for her and being supportive is the best. You can't really give advice on this, all you can do is listen and be supportive with whatever her decisions are. My friend and I were seniors and she kind of wanted to hide herself away. I knew if she missed out on certain things she could never get back those experiences, so I always encouraged her to come. She almost didn't go to graduation but she finally did. I also threw a shower for her when the time came. Don't feel bad if she pulls away from you a bit, because she will go through so much that you don't understand since you haven't been through it. Try not to put pressure on her or act hurt if she is a bit distant. It's nothing personal. Of course when the baby is born, you can help her out in many, many ways, because she will be overwhelmed and happy for an extra set of hands and legs whenever you have time to help.
2006-08-31 06:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by Rvn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be there for her. the first few weeks after the baby is born are really hard so if you can offer to come over a few times a week n help her either with the baby or clean up or take the baby so she can nap. N later on just understand she is a mama now n that means she really can't just run off n do whatever she wants and be willing to have stay at home movies nights with her n the baby she'll need alot of time with friends who understand.
2006-08-31 06:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by evillama4eva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is support her decision. If others around her aren't supporting her you just need to let her know you are on her side. Always talk about the positives with her.
I was 16 when I got pregnant with my first child. I was scared to tell anyone because I was so young. But actually having a child at such a young age made me grow up quicker. Once my baby was born my world flipped upside down and my baby was the only thing that mattered to me.
Your freind just needs someone to talk to that she feels like understands her and isn't against her.
And maybe when the time comes through her a baby shower.
2006-08-31 06:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you for ewanting to be there for your friend, she is lucky to have you!!
If she's going to keep the baby then she has a lot to come. All the grottiness of being pregnant (sickness, tiredness etc) but all the joy of having her baby.
And all the pain and fear of labour, the worry of looking after a new baby, possibly financial difficulties.
The best thing you can do is be there for her. Give her a hg when she's feeling low or sick or tired. Try to help her out if she needs it - I completely couldn't manage housework during the first three months of my pregnancy because of all-day sickness and it would have been wonderful to have someone to give me a hand and make me something to eat occasionally (as cooking just made me barf!)
Go with her to her antenatal appointments if her boyfriend can't make it, dry her tears when she freaks out about what sort of mum she's going to be or is worrying about buying baby stuff etc.
Read up as much as you can about pregnancy and birth, it will help you understand what she is going through (and will also help you later on when you have children of your own). If you are clued up about the whole thing then it will make it easier for you to support her when or if she needs it.
Good luck to you all and look forward to being an "auntie"!!!
2006-08-31 23:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her during the pregnancy and when the baby is born offer to babysit, cook dinner, clean or do laundry for her. It's the little things that count in those first few months after baby is born, especially. Maybe get her a foot massage for her for her baby shower. Things like that really mean a lot. I applaud you for being such a good friend--I wish there were more like you. Tell your friend congrats and good luck.
2006-08-31 06:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to always take her prenatal vitamins. Drink plenty of orange juice. Eat a healthy balanced diet. Exercise and get plenty of rest.
Let her know that after delivery that she will have a VERY difficult time controling her bowl and bladder so if she pees or poops on herself, it's normal. (only a couple of days) Let her know it's normal for her mid section to feel like jello after delivery and that it's normal to still look really pregnant until about 5 or 6 weeks after delivery.
Offer to take care of the baby for a couple of nights after she delivers. *This means waking up every 2 hours to feed the baby*
2006-08-31 06:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by momoftwo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the only thing you can do is be there for her if they have decided to keep the baby. Support her in every way you can and when the time comes give her a great baby shower. That is the only thing you can do for her, just give her all the support you can.
2006-08-31 05:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mondell&Mel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing you can do is just be there for her pregnancy is a very emotional time for anyone but especially for a teenager if there are times whenever her boyfriend can't go with her to the doctors maybe you could go with her also offer to babysit sometimes after she has the baby but like I said just be there for her
2006-08-31 06:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive, since you guys are very young, and she will have to deal with the looks of people, so you need to be there for her. Take her to the drs appt if sometime her boyfriend or family can't go. And after the baby is born babysit for her.
2006-08-31 06:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for this 16 year old.If she keeps this baby,their goes her life as she knows it. And remember, that guy says he wants the baby now, but what about a year from now or less? Girls mature faster than boys, you know this, everybody does.I hope this 16 year old has a good family network in place, because she will need it. Make sure He signs that birth crt!! CYA all the way!!!! GOOD LUCK!!
2006-08-31 06:06:21 · answer #11 · answered by mdzevolveddammit 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋