I see so many crazy questions on this site. Is it OK to cheat if your partner knows? Is it OK to cheat if you are separated? Is it cheating if it was not penetration? Is it cheating if it is with an ex-boy.girlfriend? Is it OK to have an affair if you are not getting sex? Is it OK to cheat if you do not love your spouse.......
Marriage is a vow to GOD and to each other. We(people) can not change the vow after the fact. We can not change the rules that God has established. We may be OK with some of this stuff but do you really think GOD will be like, "That's cool...they had an agreement". I just don't get it. We all should work it out with our spouse. It is a lifelong committment. In fact, the only way out according to the bible is if one commits adultery. It seems many on this site are giving their spouse that way out.
2006-08-31 05:45:55 · 23 answers · asked by DDOT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ceremony didn't involve religon in any way shape or form. That's how I wanted it and I was pleased.
2006-08-31 05:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I did not get married in a church be cause I was not sure of what religion I wanted. I had a beautiful wedding. I also am a full believer of God. Yes I must agree with you. I have seem that people get married for all the wrong reason. Or when something goes wwrong in a relatinship instead of trying to fix it they cheat. People who cheat are very weak minded it is sad to say I am sure many wish they knew that before taking their vows. Not many seem to respect the bible or God any more and that is because sociaty makes it ok. So many people have lost respect for themselves and God and that is why they cheat. So many people feel it is right but it is really wrong and the way this world is turning out is proof of what cheating can do.
2006-08-31 12:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by Robyn D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly, most people can not even remember what they committed to or vowed. If it was by a religious figure regardless of a church or not, it probably was a committment to GOD to stay faithful and with your spouse. People think it is just an agreement between the husband and wife.
2006-08-31 12:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Confused 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you make some very good points. But do you really think that the only biblical way to justify divorce is adultery? what about abuse?? Should any person ( male or female) be given a guilt trip because they left their spouse to save their lives or their children's lives?
Or what about some of those couples who only after marriage realize they are homosexual,, should they have to stay in a marriage just because they were married in a church?
There are too many "what if's and coulda, woulda, shoulds's" in life to be bond to someone who doesn't make you happy and give you everything. Everyone has their own relationship with God and I think that in the end it's that relationship that matters.
2006-08-31 12:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by B V 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did not give my ex spouse that way out, he chose that way out behind my back. I was not going to stay with a man that cheated on me, and there was nothing left to work out. We did not get married in a church, but chose a site out by one of our lakes near by. I guess I should have known that the marriage was doomed when they took that exact site and turned it into a cemetery... I do take my vows to heart, but he is the one that betrayed those vows so let god deal With him when the time comes..
2006-08-31 12:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married in a church; and yes, marriage is a religious (spiritual) bond. I totally agree with you! Alot of people who get married don't understand the spiritual meaning of it. And there are alot of people out there who aren't religious and don't care. Those are the people we need to continue to pray for. It's sad to see on a TV show or read even on this very website about people who agree or are OK with cheating and "swinging". It's heart-breaking, really, because these are our people.
Just continue to pray, because there's nothing that you personally can do. God has all answers and solutions.
God Bless
2006-08-31 12:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by jcdunbar0312 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're speaking of God as if it's something objective... But god and religion is a creation of the human mind (a maginficent and enduring creation - but creation nevertheless). You wouldn't need to invoke god if most people took responsibility for their choices - but it's a very difficult thing to do. No, I would not get married in a church, and I don't know anyone who has. However, I know plenty of people who've stayed married for many years without "god" to watch over them or punish them - but simply to honor the committment they made to each other. (This includes my parents who have been married for 30+ years, both agnostics, and not baptized into any religion at all.)
2006-08-31 13:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to burst your bubble hear peaches, but marriage was a legal way to bond a woman to her husband. This is before Christians got their hands into it, and before the Jews did either. It's always been around and never had anything to do with your god or anyone else's.
Aside from that I do agree that we shouldn't cheat on our spouses. I'm married and though my ceremony was done by a Justice of the Peace instead of a religious figure, it's still a promise to my husband that he's the only one for me, now and forever. All issues we may have in the future we've agreed to work out *together* rather than just run away from eachother.
Marriage is a bond of love; not religion.
2006-08-31 12:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by fjonesstarr 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Where did marriage come from? The bible! I do not think you should get married unless you understand the true meaning of it. These people have obviously based their marriage on something else then God. Why do you think that so many marriages are failing in the world today?
2006-08-31 12:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Tazaor 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't agree with you more. I find with many couples to day as easy as it is to get married it's just as easy to get divorced. It's really gross.So many children I see messed up in the head because of single family house holds.Couples to day for some reason don't take their marraige vows seriously.It's not a game and the children are really the ones to suffer.
2006-08-31 13:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by pitbullmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, technically Marriage is NOT a religious institution - if it were, atheists couldn't be married.
That being said, for those who DO enter into the legal bond with a religious ceremony and acknowledgement before their God(s), then your points are appropriate.
But then again - if that's the case, it's really between them and their God(s), isn't it?
2006-08-31 14:30:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋