My wife won't let me back in and I have found a "nice" looking recovered alcoholic,she's an ex-tennis player with a "great body.She has kids and has transitioned her herself out of a full rehab recently. I showed up one nite drunk and she flipped out and said I needed help, prior to that "we" had plans.She has invited me over many times after but only after she made me "pay" be at least 7-10 days.I know she is concerned withmy recovery but shouldn't she be pulling me closer if she likes me?Also she just started a job and she NOW gets to see her kids.My wife won't let me talk to her or my kidand didn't press charges on me but I think she wants to "hurt" me in court for a few things I did ,even though I aways let her back she won't let me. I am going to AA but want "SOMETHING" THERE for me at nite forever and when ever....and ever amen.
2006-08-31 05:39:53 · 16 answers · asked by Smith & Jones 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get ur mind right first
2006-08-31 05:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hunny, you sound like this form of effective guy or woman and so genuine. Oh expensive, i think of the 1st and perhaps basically mistake became telling her the form you were feeling once you acquire back mutually, You informed her you have been misereable without her and now she is time-honored with of she has you the place she needs you-with the help of the b@lls it is! look, she's utilising you and manipulating you and clearly you cant see it through fact your too in touch. i will inform you presently each and every physique on right here will inform you the comparable element-she's as much as no stable. And why inform you approximately this 'douche' lol from artwork?? basically 2 rationalization why she could be so merciless to tell you this a million. to harm you 2. To make you jealous. thats if this guy even did ask her out. might desire to be making it up. besides regardless, the extra you permit her string you alongside the extra she will do it. you're letting her do this to you. end all touch and make her go through such as you have. stability issues out first,then in keeping with risk try returned. you will might desire to be rather stable,. no count what dont permit her see your actual emotions. whilst your on my own, cry scream even though, yet whilst she's around, remember those 3 words chilly AS ICE!! stable good fortune xx
2016-11-23 16:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by defibaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get yourself in the right track before you worry about being with any "hottie". Don't your kids come first? Doesn't your health? The chick you are seeing makes you "pay"? The hell does that mean? The last thing you need to deal with is someone who might have a relapse for one thing or another. An addict is always an addict and there are no guarantees.
2006-08-31 05:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by saucylatina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spoken like a true addict...Not to be cruel, but addicts of all types commonly use the idea of needing "something" there for them. They put pressure on the people around them to commit to them claiming that is what they need in order to kick their habit. This is a lie you are telling them and yourself. You aren't capable of knowing or getting that "something" until you deal completely with your problem. The only way you will ever get well is by not relying upon others. You need to get well for your own sake and not be dependent on others in order to do so. Your long term sobriety is strictly dependent upon you and no one else.
2006-08-31 05:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You use of she and her is very confusing, but I don't see why either one of these women would want you: you're a drunk who has failed in your committment to your wife and child; and the last thing a recovering alcoholic wants is an all-about-me alcoholic like yourself.
Clean up your act and get off the pity pot.
2006-08-31 05:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you tried to say you will answer to the courts for your actions.
Again your actions. it is not your wife's fault for what you did it is yours.
Now you should get help for your drinking problems. The courts might look at you differently if you are trying.
2006-08-31 05:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say trying to work it out with your wife is a shot, if you still love her. If the love is gone then...why not look for happiness? Everyone deserves a lifetime of happiness. If they don't have it they should find it.
2006-08-31 05:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you start fooling around with someone before the divorce, she's going to pick you clean.
I think you need to think about getting your life in order before starting something new.
2006-08-31 16:53:18 · answer #8 · answered by raysny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hottie does not need u in her life right now---she has finally gotten on the right track and u show up drunk---leave her alone--u are gonna mess her up---u need to clean up your own life FIRST before u can find a g/f
2006-08-31 05:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to finish rehab & get your life back on track before you find someone else.. then you need to start from scratch,leave both those women behind & start over with someone new...good luck, but help yourself first
2006-08-31 05:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on your own problems first. You have kids that need to have respect for you. Then you can bring in whoever you want.
2006-08-31 06:29:05 · answer #11 · answered by 2strongfor2long 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋