to have a baby? I'm barely 18 years old I am 5 months pregnant, and when people, mostly woman, come up to me and ask me if I'm pregnant they and I tell them I am they look at me funny. What should I do? Should I just ignore it? It's really bothering me!!
2006-08-31 05:38:01 · 35 answers · asked by LadyB 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
This is terrible. You are of the legal age. You seem to be a caring person in regards to your unborn child. Don't these people realise how much they are stressing you out. Next time someone asks this, ask them if they have children. If they say yes, ask them how old they were when they had them. Odds on it was 18.
Good Luck with the rest of your pregnancy.
2006-08-31 05:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not gonna stop after you have the baby, I had a baby when I was 17, she's now almost 7 and when people ask me how old I am when I say that you can see the calculator in their head and when they figure it out they sort of raise their eyebrows...it's funny actually. You're gonna have to come to the understanding that you will be the young mom at the school functions and the soccer games and all the other stuff your child will do. Toughen up because it doesn't stop and there will be people who are just downright mean. You love your child? You take care of your body and are healthy for the sake of the baby? You have a future planned? Ignore those people and when they are mean be mean back. They think they can treat you like you are lower or immature or even stupid for having a child so young, so you made an oops or maybe the baby was planned but you have to rise above it. Take the high road and do whats best for your child. It gets better the older you get but you'll always be a "teen parent" .... i'm 24 now and I still have that chip on my shoulder. Good luck though and appreciate this time in your pregnancy it's the best part, baby moving around and you're not huge and uncomfortable yet...enjoy it and rise about the looks...eventually you'll enjoy how uncomfortable people get when you tell them how old you...it's comical.
2006-08-31 05:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young but that's YoUr business ~ the only problem with being young is that you might not be prepared (not that any woman is usually totally "prepared" to have a baby!) to compensate for your age and therefore lack of info: do your research and read up on child development. One thing that you might do as a start is sign up on babycenter.com (it's free) and some of their articles are pretty well written and they help you to learn what to expect and what's normal and how to facilitate your child's growth in areas (motor skills, verbal skills, physical- etc)...they also send you an email every week even while you are pregnant to show you how the baby is growing and I loved that while I was prego!
No woman is 'all knowing' when she has a baby do what you can to learn about your child and then do your best ~ let those ignorant comments motivate you to do a better job, not get u down! I was 19 when I had my daughter and people said the same things...now she is almost 2 and a beautiful and intelligent little girl who I could not live without. It's a lifestyle change to go from being a teen to being a parent though, hope you know that. It's worth it -don't get me wrong- but while your friends are going out and partying, drinking, experimenting, and finding themselves during their college years- you gotta stay a lil' more low key and make sure your priority is that child. :) Just a lil' advice ~ take care and best of luck to you!!
2006-08-31 05:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kylie_H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No when i got pregnant with my son i was 18 too now he's a year old n i know i was at just the right age... not everyone is ready at 18 its all a matter of how mature u r. I think the best thing to do is look em dead in the eyes n say yes i am isn't it great i get to be a mama n still be young enough to have the energy to keep up with it. If you r happy with the fact ur gonna have a baby it don't matter what anyone else thinks. i know of people much younger then u, like 14 - 15, who are great parents. that's all that matters... U just gotta love that child n enjoy every day u have . they grow fast
2006-08-31 05:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by evillama4eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IGNORE IGNORE INORE!! I had my first baby at 17 I got the looks, whispers, and pointing. But you know what I am a great mother and maybe I even give way more to my baby than parents older than me. I am on my second baby. She is 4 months and I still get the stares cause I am 25 but I look 17. So when people hear I have 2 kids I see jaws dropping all the time.
If you are proud of your new bundle then hey F+U+C+K what people say. You can't worry about people do they pay your bills. NO. Do they put a roof over your head. NO.
So be proud. Good Luck!
2006-08-31 05:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by rainymar143 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, your body wouldn't have made it past the first trimester if you weren't ready. Anybody who tells you that you are too young has no business talking to you. If they can't give you a positive outlook on a situation so wonderful and beautiful as pregnancy, then they really shouldn't ask at all. People can be so sinical about young people having babies and it's merely their own opinions, if they don't believe that young people should be having babies, then they shouldn't approach someone who even looks that young to ask about their pregnancies. Don't let other peoples opinions bother you because you know what is right for you and it's not anybody elses place to tell you otherwise. You do what you want.
2006-08-31 05:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I am 21 and having my second child. I got pregnant when I was 18 and had him when I was 19. I wouldn't change it for a thing, If people look at you funny just ignore it and no inside that the way they look at you doesn't matter because you have a precious human being growing inside of you that is going to look up to you for the rest of your life.
2006-08-31 05:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would think that in today's society, people wouldn't treat pregnant 18 year old's like they have a contagious disease. I would be more shocked seeing a 12 year old preg., but not a 18 year old. What is the big deal? the best advice I have to give you is to be the best mom you can be, and IGNORE these judgemental biatches. Who are they to judge you? Karma is a you know what. Congrats by the way! :)
2006-08-31 05:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may also LOOK younger than that too! I'm not one to talk about being too "young" as I had my first at 29 and I'm having my second at 41! But honey, People look at me the same way now for being 41!! LOL
Don't even think twice about what other people think. I try to instill that into my daughter because this world is FULL of opinions and everyone has one! They all wont be the same as yours. So, ask yourself...
are YOU happy?
are YOU comfortable with being 18 and having your life TOTALLY change with a new beautiful bundle of joy in it?
do YOU have help/support (as everyone needs it, no matter what their age)?
are YOU financially ready for a baby?
If these answers are YES, then CONGRATULATIONS!! The heck with everyone else! If they are NO then maybe you need to find help/support and someone to talk to to help you in those areas.
GOOD LUCK HONEY and remember this is YOUR child, not everyone's who is staring at you!!
2006-08-31 05:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are young, but there's nothing you can do now..just be happy that your pregnant and don't let no one bother you..screw them..when we see a very young mother we wonder what role model she had...but that's normal also..just remember how this happened and try to prevent it from happening again for a long time..and this is my opinion...you got your self in a sticky situation and you didn't abort the baby..now the baby has a chance at a good future..
2006-08-31 06:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋