I have recently started hooking up with this guy. whom i really like being around. When we are together we have so much fun.. like we have known each other forever.. he always has my favorite wine waiting for me and will cook me dinner. During the day when we are apart he texts me all day. He always wants me to come see him like every night but he lives an hour away.. and never offers to give me gas money. We are sexually active and had agreed the first few times we hung out that this would not be a huge relationship.. hes had bad relationships in the past and so have i. But he has admitted to being addicted to me.. and well i feel the same way. i dont know what i want out of the relationship and i dont know what he wants either.. tho the other night he did ask me if i would be willing to give myself to him.. i didnt answer the question. I am financially dependent on only myself. and he does the same.. he has a very nice huge house.. that i refer to it as paradise. give me advice.any.
2006-08-31 05:35:52 · 20 answers · asked by misskaykai 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YOu sure are a headache...
....can someone pass me a tylenol!
2006-08-31 05:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it OK? Only you can answer that. I suggest that the two of you keep an open communication going on about how your "friendship" is doing.
What I mean is, TALK about it. Because if you don't, one of you may start imagining this and that, or hoping for whatever, and the other is still thinking "this is a booty call, and will not be a big relationship."
I don't mean you have to say "When are we going to change this?" or "Where is this going?" but perhaps, "You must let me know at any time if you want the basis of our relationship to change, OK? I will promise to do the same, so that we each know how the other is viewing our friendship."
Neither one of you is a mind reader, and it must be someone's job to make sure that changes in what's happening are clear and mutually agreed upon. Some people think that takes some of the "mystery" out of things, but I'm not much of a mystery fan, personally. When I don't know what's real, I am uncomfortable, and the only important thing between people is what each of them thinks and feels.
Wherever it goes, enjoy!
2006-08-31 12:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont get it. Why are you wondering if you should be together? It is way past time for you two to have a serious talk. If things are so great then yall have to be on the same page and stop waisting eachothers time. Sexual intimacy will make you feel like your closer to someone than you truely are. (example: glue two pieces of paper together, then try to tear the paper back apart...you cant. The paper will be torn and unwhole.) Its like sex. You are giving yourself away. It plays a huge role in your emotions. All of this may not make totle since but I tried. Hope it helps in some way.
2006-08-31 12:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by rock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always tough to know where a relationship is going. If you are both happy and enjoying yourself....enjoy it while it lasts. If you feel the time is right to be with him, then do what feels "right". It is wise to continue to be financially independent! Maybe he is so excited to see you, he isn't thinking of gas money. Next time he asks you to come over, you could let him know the fuel has been costing a bit more than your budget allows. Tell him you enjoy seeing him, and even though you enjoy driving over there, you may have to limit the days you can go due to the cost of fuel. Maybe he will offer to help, if he wants to see you. Otherwise, you can invite him to come see you!
2006-08-31 12:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by chillpillak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you too have a good thing going. It started out as a booty call but it's getting a little serious. Just go with the flow and see what happens. Don't get too jealous if you decide not to commit and he moves on to another booty call.
2006-08-31 12:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by Admiral 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a test to find out if someone really loves you. Open your Bible, if you have one, to 1 Corinthians 13. Go through all the characteristics of love and ask yourself if he fits this description. One thing though: The first charcateristic of love is patience. If you are quick to rush into sex with this man, are you really being patient? Or, are you doing it because you think that this is what you have to do to keep him?
2006-08-31 12:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Billy F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well from the sounds of it you guys hit it off pretty good, but the whole addicted to each other thing I don' t know about ;)
If you really feel for him than why not give it a chance, as long as you are being honest with each other about your feelings and there's no deception
2006-08-31 12:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by George 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you and the guy need to decide what you want a relationship. or just some to have sex with when ever. It sounds like to me. you and your guy are not in love with each other. you and your guy are addicted having sex with each other. and that you and your guy enjoy each other company. or he could want some serious you should ask him.you should tell him you not have gas money. and if he really wants you to come over he,s going have to give you gas money because you do not have gas money.
2006-08-31 12:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you 2 still date while living separtly? Things sound like they are going good the way they are right now. I'd leave it and continue to be self reliant and have his house as a "get away". That way when you do want your own time (and that will happen) you can get away and go home. Good luck!
2006-08-31 12:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this a question you have to answer your self. because this relationship seems to have a lot of potential, but it really needs to be discussed with your partner,, also what do you really want? what ever it is you and he will have to do the work. figure out what you want,express it and go from there.
2006-08-31 12:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like a booty call to me. I looks like two people who really like each other who are taking it slow. You got it made so far, keep it up! Good luck
2006-08-31 12:41:00 · answer #11 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋