Does anybody think men and women can really "just be friends". A lot of people are under the impression that you can.
being "just friends" should mean nothing sexual would happen or has happened. The two people should noty fancy or have sexy thoughts about eachother. They should not flirt. Should never have been in a relationship.
Now think about it, have you ever been genuine friends with a person of the opposite sex and not fancied or found that person attractive?
a true friend of the opposite sex should be treated the same as a friend of the same sex.
2006-08-31 05:26:54 · 49 answers · asked by Estee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Nope. As a teenager, I had lots of friends who were just friends and happened to be male, but as the years went by, I have at least kissed every one of them and had fantasies about long term relationships...even about marrying a few of them. And why not? You SHOULD marry your best friend....but alas, that would make the answer to your question, no.
Hold up- I have to take that back. I just remembered this one guy who has never moved beyond "just friends." But I always thoght he might be gay and in the closet until one day he announced he was getting married...and then he did. Nothing ever became more of that relationship, not even in my mind. But I can't be sure about him. I still have to put the answer more at no than yes.
2006-08-31 05:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a very close friend of the opposite sex a long time ago. There was never in my mind he was just a friend that I could confided in and also go out with and have a good time without me having to worry about him wanting to take me to bed. He was a gentlemen. I knew he wanted more out of our relationship, but I was honest with him, that I was not attracted to him in the way he would like. You just have to be honest and hope for the best. we were friends for a few years until he found someone and got married. It was great, I would help him and he helped me for what ever reasons. That is not found often. Just be honest.
2006-08-31 05:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Dee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friendsbetween opposite sexes does not exist as it does between people of the same sex. A relationship can obviously exist, but it is very different from same sex friendships. All guys would like to have sex with their girl friends, why wouldn't they? Everyone always wants to get the best out of their friends, no matter what.
2006-08-31 05:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, it is possible... if the guy is gay (or incredibly ugly, lol). It's not possible to be just friends with someone of the opposite sex; someone is going to be attracted to the other person and after that, it's all downhill form there.
When you allow someone to be your friend, it means that you've found qualities in them that you like. Now... add on to that the fact he or she is of the opposite sex, and *GASP* possibly really attractive, then, you've got instant attraction. And unless one of these two friends has extremely good will power and self-restraint, then I don't think that the relationship will keep its platonic status.
Is that enough to convince you?
2006-08-31 05:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by Loving Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course girls can have friends that are boys. Of course you have to draw the line where you both know that you are friends. Some times that line seems to be gone, and then the term "friends with benefits" came along. I only want my husband, and think of my friends that are guys only friends.
I agree, with an exception. You can have been in a relationship and be friends. at the same time it depends on the kind of relationship, the depth of your relationship and if the ending of that relationship was good or bad.
so there ya go!
2006-08-31 05:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible. I think girls can be friends with guys easier than guys can be friends with girls(we have no will power).
It usually happens when you and the girl "friend" are both in relationships and you grow close without the other stuff. She becomes like a sister more than a friend.
However, most guys will say they are friends with a girl hoping that she will eventually let them have sex.
2006-08-31 05:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by ciza29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from a mans perspective, i don't think it's possible, we don't have the self-control & sex is always at the fore-front of our minds. The same qualitys we look for in a partner we look for in a friend (female), it's shallow but then what can you do (animal instincts)!
In saying that, i think women can have friends (male) because they are not as sexually driven, you're more genuine!
"Women can be friends with males but the same males want to sleep with them."
I think that's the best phrase to sum it up.
So you ladies that think you have fellas who are just "friends", don't be fooled, they would jump your bones at the crack of a whip!
Don't believe me, test it, out on a nights drinking, try & make a move on them, see what develops!
2006-08-31 05:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by pauld81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have a friend like that, she sees me as his big sis and i see him as my little bro...
although he has told me that he thinks im pretty, however that doesnt mean he wants us to be more than friends (i know that for sure!) he has a girlfriend and 2ndly he says there is a difference between finding someone attractive and wanting to be with them. He said it would feel like incest to be with me. Im not attracted to him as i see him as my little brother. We share most things and i tell him all about my guy situations and he tells me everything about the gals he likes etc and there is NO jealousy or flirting or anything like that.
Its great because such friendships are so rare! Im normally friends with girls and always find that if im friends with a guy there is always some minor flirting, some feelings for them but with this guy i can honestly say we are just realllly close friends and it feels so wonderful bcz i can trust him, i know there isnt a hidden agenda, i can relax completely, laugh, and have a true guy perpective without bias... etc etc
Its rare in my experience but its great!!!
2006-08-31 05:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by lazydazy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont see any problem with being friends with the opposite sex. when i was 17 i dated a guy of 35 we dated for a yr and then split up but stayed friends and we still are,we no everything about each other and have no secrets. he's me best mate
2006-08-31 06:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by maude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally have tons of guy friends that I have never fancied. I had a boyfriend once who swore up and down that guys and girls could NOT be just friends....his only reasoning behind this statement is control.
So in my opinion, yes guys and girls CAN be just friends. Anyone who thinks they can't has issues you should be cautious of.
2006-08-31 05:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by ReneeH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋