I found out that my husband sneaks and looks at porn on the net, when I question him about it, he denies it with an angry answer. Should I be concerned? If I did this, I would not have a PC….
What should I do? Change my wardrobe, hair style, make-up.
oh what’s a girl to do…
2006-08-31 04:50:30 · 23 answers · asked by pillowtalk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You could be the hottest thing around and he probably would still look at porn. It is innocent and probably has nothing to do with you. It is better he is looking at it there then going out and trying to find some on the side. If you think that you are hot then he probably does to so I wouldn't worry about it, but taking care of your self and staying in shape and looking hot dosen't hurt anything
2006-08-31 04:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's a girl to do is don't let up on your concerns about him watching porn.
I wouldn't change a thing about myself because no matter how good you look it won't be enough if he has a fetish with watching porn.
He might just like looking at the sexual affairs of others which have nothing to do with you .
The fact that he has to sneak shows he know you would be unhappy with him watching it so again it has nothing to to with you but more of what he like to indulge in with his free time.
Furthermore, you can sex a person all day and night and he still watch porn because he has a sexual addiction and can never get enough so don't start blaming yourself or you will never be able to get the answer your looking for from others.
Communicate whether he listens or not and let him know that you take his actions very seriously and want a resolution to it before it ruins his marriage.
2006-08-31 04:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Wife,
As a man I can tell you that its nothing about you or anything you should be concerned about. He is a little immature sexually and most men are stimulated by images that would turn off most women. You know he is lying with his angry answer so this is a clue to his defense mechanism for lying. You will know in the future how he responds when he is lying. He is getting his thrills by looking at this stuff but its probably only harmless curiosity. Don't forget your role as wife, by making him feel important, sexy and loved by you. Don't get into a routine of sex without passion or feeling as it should not be a chore rather a pleasure for both. As a woman you hold all the power to keep him happy. Seduce him in the garage or back yard. Tell him to draw the bath, and bath together with candles. Go out to dinner and let him discover you have no panties on. Spice things up and it will only make things better in your relationship. Good luck.
2006-08-31 05:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by azjimhowe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all its not you...............so stop thinking that your'e not good enough......he could be addicted to porn a lot of men are? Ask him what he likes the more open you are in your marriage the better.....role play for each other...is he really your perfect man??? Probably NOT....... stop feeling bad about yourself....he is the one with the issue NOT you...... tell him you know what he does and that it makes you feel insecure and unloved...see what he says... if he knows this he may stop doing it...probably NOT but its worth a shot.... maybe you should go and check out your own fantasies online show him and ask him what he thinks and how he feels when you look and think about other men.....
2006-08-31 05:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join him in his porn net search. You might actually discover that you can have a lot of fun together with that. And for sure that would improve your image in his eyes, plus your sex life will get a lot better. Good luck. Feel free to contact me if you wanna talk about it. I'm married, as well.
2006-08-31 06:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married for 12 years. My husband has a nude magazine and a porno tape. Sometimes we watch the tape together, I realize that is the Men show off to tell us the watching this makes us hotter in bed. One thing I assure is my husband and I share the best moment in bed. One of their weakness is to make satisfied in bed. He make me feel better so do I. Being married is not the end of what you felt with each other the first time you met. This is the stage of growing up together, by knowing each other more, by sharing what makes us happy and satisfied,a two way relationship. Communication is the best way to win each others trust. My tip for you is to let him watch the porno then seduce him while both of you are watching it. Show it to him that you appreciated him. By asking in a nice way is better. As long as he is not cheating on you. Remember different position in sex, makes the man crazy. Learn more about sex. Sex is the seasoning in marriage life. I already prove that in 12 years of marriage. I am not a hot mama but I know how to handle my husband in all this years, he is always crazy to be in bed with me..
2006-08-31 05:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by marilou a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has nothing to do with how attractive you are, how great your sex life is, or anything else. It's nothing personal against you - it's just how many men are. Men began looking at the early issues of Playboy in the 1950's - they simply seek variety and are more into quantity of women they look at.
The defensiveness about it may be a concern. I'm fully aware that my husband looks at porn, and choose not to feel threatened or replaced by it.
2006-08-31 04:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all the guys do it. Maybe they can get some good ideas from watching others having fun. I think it may cause a satisfaction that they couldn't get without cheating on the marriage.
I've looked at some of it too.
Don't worry about it
2006-08-31 05:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 05:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorced mine, he was looking at teen porn sites, we had a teenage daughter the same age and then he had the nerve to try and blame it on our son. Men addicted to porn are losers.
2006-08-31 04:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by perplexed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change your look to please him. You love him right? So confront him and say you have proof...maybe check the history on your computer if he hasn't deleted it yet. You know for sure he does it right? If not you have to find out for sure. Then just confront him...If he loves you he should realize that the porn is wreaking his relationship with you and I hope for you he will stop.
2006-08-31 05:05:15 · answer #11 · answered by oyster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋