He stays home all the time to play poker online, or hangs out with his friends. The only time I get to spend time with him is when he goes to shoot pool on wed nights and sometimes thursdays and he stays here Friday nights for our regular movie night. I had bought him a pool table cause he loves to shoot pool so he has been here a little more.. but mostly with his friends. He tells me that he loves me to death and that he wants to marry me someday and when I ask him if he likes anyone eles or if he is sick of me he always says no.. Well with him spending so much time online playin poker and with his friends it makes me feel like I dont' matter anymore.. idk what to think or do.
2006-08-31 04:32:00 · 7 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should find someone else.
2006-08-31 04:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is that some guys have different personalities and needs. To call him a jerk or totally insensitive might be unfair. He needs to have his hobbies and pasttimes and he might even have a real need to spend time with friends (apart from you) every once in a while.
However, it sounds as if he is living a life of imbalance. He is in a relationship and needs to understand that that involves committment and compromise. What is he putting first in his life? His friends or you? Again, I'm not saying there isn't a second or third, but if you want long term satisfaction and happiness, your relationship needs to be first. Try to help him understand that. Know that there are a lot of men out there who refuse to, and if that's the case, it may be time to drop him. However, chances are that he's just fallen in to bad habits and he needs to realign his priorities on what's really important. Be gentle but firm and be prepared to leave him if he doesn't respond seriously and maturely.
Don't waste your time asking if he loves you or if he's sick of you, you know that that's really just seeking validation and you should be bigger than that.
Good luck.
2006-08-31 12:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by Merritt A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he??? Sounds like he's about 12. It is clear he is far from being a MAN. A real man would rather spend time with the women he loves than FRIENDS!!! I'd think long and hard before marriage is discussed. DUMP HIM!!!! If you ever go out with a mature guy you will see how it's supposed to be in the real world!!!!! Are you sure he's not GAY???
2006-08-31 11:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by Weatherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you talk to him don't ask him if he's sick of you or if he's bored with you or if he's seeing someone else. Tell him how you feel. Tell him that you feel ignored and unhappy that he's not showing you that he loves you as he says. Actions speak louder than words. Hopefully he'll see that he's hurting you and won't want that so he'll pay you more attention. Good luck.
2006-08-31 11:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the hell would you buy someone a pool table who doesn't give you the time of day? Dumb the unattentive bastard.
Then go sell that pool table & buy yourself a clue.
XOXO
2006-08-31 12:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by Annabelle418 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he loves u then he needs to show it more other.
2006-08-31 11:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by **What??** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tHIS IS A MALE WHO IF YOU DONT GET HIM OUT OF THIS mode HE WILL BE LIKE THIS FOREVER. So either make him grow up or leave.
2006-08-31 13:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by rainymar143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋