i dont want him to go, i know i cant stop him,is this reasonable for somebody in a happy relationship?
2006-08-31 04:31:58 · 41 answers · asked by lazoklops 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is it reasonable to call it a relationship when he does not care if he is hurting your feelings?
2006-08-31 04:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I've been on both sides of this fence I've been a stripper and my man used to go see strippers.I got out of the business and got a respectable job,but anyway your husbands a damn fool.I don't think strippers are glamorous at all.All they do is rub up against men take their entire paycheck and send them home.There are some whores that go home with clients but then you have to worry about catching something,then there's the girls that use these men to support their drug habits.If my man wants to see a stripper I'll dance for him behind close doors it's more fun that way,maybe you could try that.If he must go tell him to be careful and not to touch any of those skanks.You could go with him but that would only cause a fight.
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2006-08-31 04:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ER why does he want to go? Is he really in a happy relationship or is that how YOU perceive that it is a happy relationship?
If he is trully in a happy relationship than you need not worry about him.Maybe he is going because his mates are with him, in that case it may be for a bit of a laugh. Why don't you suggest that you too would like to go with him. Tell him that if he let you go with him then you will be his private stripper when you two are at home alone.That might get his attention.
2006-08-31 05:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, but don't worry about it. Nothing is going to happen or change his views about you. The clubs are operated under strict rules and most local police depts attempt to "set-up" the dancers and customers for arrests, so everyone is afraid that everyone else is a cop!
The girls are (many times) more moral than a grade school teacher. A friend of mine in San Diego used to date a dancer and said she was an absolute prude and the job was.. just a job.
Don't worry, it's a harmless outing.
Does he ever go to motorcycle shops or boat stores? I know a lot of guys who hang around car lots and waste salesmen's time... the don't buy, the just look.
Be cool and this will be a "nothing event".
2006-08-31 04:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all guys probably would go if they had the opportunity unless they were very religious
Some years ago i threw a fit when my bloke was going to watch a stripper.
It never occurred to me that she could look gross or how sad it was that she had to do that to earn a living
Automatically I just thought the worse but now, after 10 years together i have learnt to loosen the reins.
We are getting married in a few weeks and I honestly dont think i would mind if he had a stag night with a stripper.
If he did anything more than watch , im not saying i would forgive him, i'd just prefer not to know about it.
but then i really dont think he would do it. and i think thats the main thing
do you trust your man? then if you do it shouldnt be a problem, unless you have very strong moral beliefs in which case you should explain to him how much it would upset you and why and perhaps if he thinks his going is more important then he is not your guy
its all about balance- how much does it bother you, how much does he care?
good luck
2006-08-31 04:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by flossie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to stop him going?
If he's going with the boys for some fun, there's nothing to worry about. If he's going alone to drool and play with himself, you need a new man anyway!!
These are your own insecurities at play, do you think he'll think the strippers are prettier than you? I guarantee none of them will want to run away with him!!!
The only way you'll persuade him not to go is to offer better at home!
2006-08-31 04:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by le_coupe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband does this too, not all the time, but once and awhile and it drives me crazy. He invites me to come with him, and I have, but its not really my thing, so often refuse his invitation. My theory on this, is anything your husband does deserves an inviation for you to join him. As soon as a husband stops inviting his wife is when I see a problem with that. Now you dont always have to go and you shouldn't always tag along, you should let him have his fun. But it just goes back to the whole thing of an invitation. And that is me and my hubby's 'rules', for lack of a better word. We always invite each other. In my opinion, a man should have gotten his strip bar days out of his system before he got married. If he wanted to see boobs and stuff, he can stay home with his wife and see yours. But like I said, I always get an invitation to go out with him. If its in his buddies plans to attend a strip bar, thats not his problem or his fault, at least I take comfort in knowing that he feels comfortable inviting me and he knows that if I feel like it, I will have no shame in going. So, he doesnt ask me out of mercy, knowing full well that I wont go and he's free as a jay bird. Its 50/50, he never knows when i just might say yes. So, if he doesnt come right out and ask you, maybe you need to bring it up. Just say something like I might go out with my friends and would it be ok if we joined up with you and your friends later? If he greatly opposes or throws a fit, I'd be pissed. I'm sorry, a married man has NO business being anywhere that he wouldn't allow his WIFE to accomany him. If he makes a habbit out of it, then, by all means, demand that invitation to go with him or just show up. You have a right to be with your husband and on his arm. Thats what a marriage is about.
2006-08-31 04:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally reasonable. There is no way I would let my boyfriend go to a strip club.
Ways to put him off include mentioning the price of entry and drinks in those places which is extortionate and the general low quality of the dancers.
Then you could try doing a strip show for him as you now have a night in together. Much better because he gets to touch as well as look and you'll be happier too.
If he still wants to go to a strip club then dump him. It's not acceptable behaviour for a man in a commited relationship and is fairly disgusting behaviour for a single man or woman.
2006-08-31 04:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well as long as he doesn't make this s*** know habit then you should be cool with it. It's something that men do from time to time why? I have no idea but it's what they do. As long as it's not something he plans on doing every weekend. Give him some rules like absolutely NO TOUCHING, NO BEING TOUCHED, NO FUNNY BUSINESS. As long as he knows the rules and agrees to them let him go have a ball watching. When he comes home he will be so horny from all the watching that he'll brake you off a good piece of d***.
2006-08-31 04:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him go with the ladz, it doesnt mean anything. He still loves and wants to be with you at the end of the day. He just going to do what ladz do.
Has he ever been before? - he might just want to experience it.
Ask him all about it when he comes back.
I dont think you have anything to worry about.
2006-08-31 08:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Course it is...its just a bit of fun. Next time some male strippers are in town take the girls...you'll love it!
2006-08-31 04:39:00 · answer #11 · answered by Jenny O 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋