On the other hand this guy is ur first and u are in love, but at the same time i feel that i can do better with somebody else. i knew this other guy for 6 years and have always liked him just never approched him. and we keep in contact an finally he tells u that he was always in love with me. and i also feel the same. help what should I do breakup and go for better things or no because i am scared of change????????????????????????????????????????
2006-08-31 04:16:59 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It means you're both young, and both afraid of commitment. If either of you presses the other to commit.. there will be regret. Take a break from each other.. see what happens. If you get back together in the future then it was meant to be. If not.. then no regrets.
2006-08-31 04:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't you hate riding the fence. You sit on the fence. If you jump off onto on side. You chose to stay together, try to make it work. Because you love him. Feeling you have no real future.
Then again you can jump off on the other side. Chose to get out. End the relationship and move on. Yet again you have the nagging doubt that maybe you guys could have made it.
I've been there so many times, for such long period of times, I hated it. You may feel that making no chose at all (Riding the fence) that things will play themselves out. That's no way to live either.
Yeah, I think being afraid of being alone for the rest of my life made me stick it out longer than I should have. But ever time i bit the bullet, made the choice to get out. It hurt. But it freed me to find happiness with someone else.
You never love the same way again. That's because their a new and different person. This isn't a bad thing at all. It can be wonderful.
2006-08-31 04:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by Balou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women do it to us, too, and I'm living proof of that. I wish I'd have been smarter and not given her nearly as much time and one-tenth as many chances as what I gave her. She had a million reasons why she was so fickle or "shady" and a million and one reasons why she'd be better this time, or it would all be better after she did this or straightened out that. In the end, she was just one big lie.
If you're like me, you've been there about four-and-a-half years too long. Don't feel bad. It was eleven for me. I hope you're not still thinking this to yourself and still stuck there another six years later like I was.
I can't help but wonder, though, did the other guy tell you he was always in love with you before or after he found out you were having relationship troubles? Us guys are snakes like that. Women, too. Be careful. You just might get what you ask for.
2006-08-31 04:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on. Use this experience as a go by of what NOT to do. You have to have more respect for YOU. If you don't men will try and run over you. Trust me, you will grow from this experience. (or you should) You WILL do better by someone else. Honesty should mean everything and trust should have a high value on it. Fear of change will keep you miserable and unhappy. MOVE ON...!!! Think more highly of yourself and trust me, you'll feel better when someone appreciates you more for who you are...It's always hard to leave your first. However, you know deep in your heart that he's not the one or the best one FOR you. Step back, take a deep breath, and move on. Keeping in contact will continue your feelings with him. The wound won't heal if you continue to talk to him. All he will do is tell you what you want to hear and you'll be right back where you started...You can do this...!!! : )
2006-08-31 04:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by dolphinman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 01:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years of empty promises is far too long.
Don't be blinded by the fact that he was your first love. Usually means that you can do a lot better after him.
But you need to take a stand for yourself, things dont change for you, you need to make them change. Otherwise you'll stay the rest of your life doing what others want you to do. Taking charge of your future is a part of becoming an adult.
2006-08-31 04:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
change is always scary for fear of the unknown. But, you can't deny your feelings. I think 5 years with one person is long enough if you thin the relationship isnt where it needs to be or where it should be. Breakup with guy #1 and go for guy #2
2006-08-31 04:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im in exactly the same boat as you, Ive been involved for 5 years with a guy who is 12 years older than me with a child. We need to get out of our comfort zone because chances are they will never change and they will never make you happy! There are plenty of oppotunities in the single world just waiting for people like us to grab them.
2006-08-31 04:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by zzz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think its just a means of "Trial and Error" Come on, its normal you don't find Mr. right that fast. Go to him, and break up with your present boyfriend who doesn't even give a f*** about you much.
Well some promises are meant to be broken, but if he really loves you then he should ATLEAST try to keep them and i know you'll notice his dilligence and effort to make you happy, but if he seems uninterested or is just saying those kinda things than I suggest you find another.
2006-08-31 04:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by Snowflake 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should follow your heart. Only you know the right thing to do. If you are not in love with this other guy then you need to change it, because you are only wasting your time and his. If you do not change now it could be a big mistake.Good Luck. Only you know how you truly feel .I know I would be upset if someone lead me on while they were in love with someone else.
2006-08-31 04:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I just went through the same thing. No one can answer that for you but yourself. But we can give you some advice. It sounds like it just isn't there between you and your boyfriend. If this other guy has liked you for a while, and you have liked him, then see what it's like. make a date, and explain to him what is going on, make sure that you tell him that you have a boyfriend. If sparks fly off that night when you are out, then it was made for you and him, not you and your current boyfriend....GOOD LUCK
2006-08-31 04:21:57 · answer #11 · answered by luv him 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋