At 22 years old and 2 children and a marrige gone wrong why do i feel like i've experienced more hurt and pain then happiness? I feel like the road to recovery is going to be a long one even though i'm a very strong person...Because i feel betrayed by my soon to be ex husband..
2006-08-31 04:06:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
screw the people with smart *** comments and shame on you to one day you go threw something similarI proud of my children you may feel i had them to young but i don't and i really dont care that's how you feel either my babied are my life and why i wake up evey morning..
2006-08-31 04:14:22 · update #1
you have to stay strong for yourself and your kids. i know that sounds like a standard answer, because it is. those are the two most important things
remember that its your life, and you can choose to lead a great one, or a horrible one. empower yourself. dont see this as an end, look at is as a new beginning. you can do anything as long as you have to resolve to do so.
all that hurt and pain and betrayal can turn into powerful resolve. dont let it turn you bitter, let it make you stronger, and then anytime you feel down just think about how you are better off without him, and the kids are better off too.
without hurt and pain we wouldnt be able to truly know happiness, much less appreciate it and long for it.
2006-08-31 04:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by Eternal Sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, pain is never easy. You have been hurt, I've been there 2wice. I can say this, thank God you are a strong person. You will heal and you CAN move on. Don't look back but don't forget your pain and what caused it. The minute you do, you'll go back to the same things. Learn from your experience and continue to love your children. Let them see how strong their mother is and they too, will benefit from your strength. You will find love again and you'll know more about what it takes to make you happy from a particular type of man. You're young and have a lot of living to do. So you had your children young...That doesn't define who you are. You are a woman with a heart like everyone else. You deserve to be respected and treated with love and compassion. Hold your head up high and keep on truckin'...Good for you and good luck... : )
2006-08-31 13:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by dolphinman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be tough and will be a long time before you can move on. You have 2 kids from this man... that's at least 18 years of having to co-exist for your children's sake. You can't be hateful towards your exhusband, that's not fair for the kids. Sorry things didn't work out. I'm glad you believe your a strong woman, your kids will need that from you! Continue to lead by example and remember to keep your kids number one in your life. Use family support when ever you can. Good luck.
2006-08-31 11:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Between man and a woman
Man normally recovers faster and able to live a separate life from there partners.
But for woman it is difficult, you got 2 children, you carried them for nine months and gave birth, all of this adds up to remember your relationship, and you will always ask the question after all the hardship you been through how can you forget.
If law will allow you to keep your child will help you ease the pain, but every second you look at there faces you will see two pictures, happiness from a child's smile and pain from your no good husband.
Life is not always fair, you win some you loose some
2006-08-31 11:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by civilestimator 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wrong......don't focus on the bad things that happened...focus on the good things that did, you may have the sorriest husband on the face of the earth, but you got to great kids out of him. Proably only good thing he did! Don't let this peice of scum ruin you and your kids lives! Is he worth, you sitting around depressed because I don't think he is. You are giving him way to much credit. I think you need to start looking at this way.......
Ok, I have 2 precious children, I am only 22 years old, and I am going to be the best darn mom on the planet, and I am going to make the best life for me and my kids possible. By doing whatever I have to, and I am not going to let that thing I once was married to keep me from it!
Now, go back to school, get an education, find yourself a job, and put all this anger and hurt into something positive...You could go to work at a store, and work yourself up to a high paying position without a college education. You could do on-line classes...
Honey, you have a whole life time to live for you and the kids!
You need to do this for youself, and those babies, because I doubt that her "father" is going to be much help. I know it's not going to easy, can't and won't say it will be, because that a lie, and I am not going to lie to make you feel better....You succeed!
You succeed and then you the children will too. If lay around moaning and complaining, that's not going to do anything but hurt all of you.
Now, what are you going to do! Let that snake win..because that's what he's going to look at like...she can't make it without me, she's going to have to crawl back to me...she's just going to have to get over it, and then I have her right where I want her....
Don't do that! Honey, things look bad and impossible, but woman have been raising their children on their own for years...Look around you...You can do this! If you can't do this for yourself right now, then think about those sweet angels that you were blessed with...Is this the kind of a life you want to give them?
I don't think so....So, enough pep talk, you got a whole world to explore and things to do....it's not the end...it's a new beginning!
God bless us all...................
2006-08-31 11:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on the good. Whatever kind of pain your soon-to-be-ex put you through, you now have 2 wonderful children as a result. No matter what, those kids are yours and they love you and that's two good things I can think of in your life to focus on. I'm sure there are more good things, and besides, at 22 there's a whole lot of life still in front of you, so look forward to it..
2006-08-31 11:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by friendlyshoulder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a lot older than you but I am also in a painful marriage. I give you one up for getting out now and not hanging on for you kids. I think that your friends and family support can help you get through this. Depend on them a lot!!!Also as I do just wake up each day and look at your precious kids then say I can go on!! With time God and others can guide you to healing too.
2006-08-31 11:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by jpet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is never an easy thing. You have to be strong for your kids and even though you may feel like you are at your worst and even though it may seem like its not going to get better it will. You are still young and have more hurt and pain to go through. Thats life but I think when you go through things like this it just makes you an even stronger person.
Keep your head up!!
2006-08-31 11:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by oneluv804 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know.. it doesn't matter at what age this happens to you... you feel like you've been betrayed, hurt etc.. .. and it's normal... but no worries... time will heal things.. and you've got 2 beautiful children... concentrate your efforts on them.. that's what I do.. I concentrate my efforts on my little boy.. and he's the one making me happy right now... - but the one good thing.. is that you are young.. and have a life ahead of you... there's going to be some sad days... but on those days.. do something with your children that makes you happy.. and believe me.. with time.. things will get easier... and don't listen to the idiots who don't know what they are talking about... I have a dear friend of mine.. she was 18 when she had her first child... and wasn't married... she now has 3 children.. a house.... a car... is back in school to change her career... and she's happy... so.. hang in there.. keep your chin up... and like I said.. concentrate your efforts and energy on what makes you happy .. i.e. your children... things will get better !! - best of luck to you !!!...
2006-08-31 11:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you're not alone. Almost everyone has gone through a painful experience; I found that out when I was going through my divorce, and had conversations with people; it was amazing what some people had to go through, but they recovered, and were happy again. This gave me strength to carry on; hope you have trusted friends in your life who can support you through a difficult time. Best wishes. It gets easier as time goes by.
2006-08-31 13:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋