I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, about a year ago my boyfriend and I split up for like 3 weeks, When we were not together I had done something I regret, I slept with a guy that was suppose to be my friend. Well when my boyfriend and I got back together I told him on what I did. He said I cheated on him (even though we were not together at that time). I told him I was sorry millions of times. Well it's been a year later and the past 6 months my boyfriend does not spend time with me anymore, he spends it on his computer playin poker or with his friends. He only stays here once a night. He says he forgives me for what I did. but when we argue he rubs it in my face sometimes and I will still say sorry to him. I love my boyfriend with all my heart. I never want to loose him. But i'm affraid that he might be sick of me or doesn't love me anymore.. Please help
2006-08-31 03:56:25 · 7 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He says he forgives me and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.. i just don't know what to do
2006-08-31 04:33:24 · update #1
I have been through this situation myself. I would say just to leave him alone. What you did while the two of you weren't together is your business. If he can't accept that then he can walk. My ex did the same thing I just left him. He couldn't get over it. From then on I have learned it is not good to tell everything, unfortunately.
2006-08-31 03:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by bre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it will not. I have been there and done that one already. I had a simliar situation when I was married. My husband and I separated and he had a one night stand and told me about it and I loved him so much that I was willing to forgive him but I didn't forget it. We stayed together another 8 years and it wasn't plesant. We did it basically because we had children together. Don't let yourself live in misery just because you think that you can't make it without him. That is what I did. Once you see that you don't need him to live life will be much better for you.
2006-08-31 11:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by sweetheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I know you love him but really think about it. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who you know will bring up past mistakes during an arguement? It sounds like he will use this to 'win' an arguement even if he's wrong. Can you handle that for the rest of your life???
Another thing, he's treating you as second or third or fourth in his life right now. He's only spending time with you once a week because he'd rather spend time with his guy friends playing poker? Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who will choose his friends over you?
Something to think about!
2006-08-31 11:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you where split up then know it wasn't cheating, but I think it is stuck in you bf head no matter how much you apologize for it. He hasn't forgiven you or he won't throw it up in your face every time you have an argument. Are you sure he hasn't found someone new? He sounds like he might be moving on without you and not sure how to let you go. I say you need to talk to him and get it out in the open. See what his thoughts are and go from there! Good Luck!
2006-08-31 11:13:14 · answer #4 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend obviously can't get passed what happened last year.In a way you have already lost him.Perhaps you could go to couples counseling.If things don't go back to being better, maybe you should try taking a break from each other.If you can't fix it you both might have to move on . If you take a break, he may miss you and want to get back together again. If not,it can't be fixed.Half a relationship is not really better than no relationship.Good luck.
2006-08-31 11:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by ejtme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also in this situation and I can't give you the right answer because I don't know either but one thing I do know is the both of us put effort on our relationship to make it work and I realize that I can't let him disrespect me or throw it in my face because of my past and I don't let him hold it against me anymore.
2006-08-31 11:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wrote too long of a question, I didn't feel like reading it all.
2006-08-31 10:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋